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Why am I so angry all the time

Why am I so angry all the time

Why am I so angry all the time? How can I manage my anger?  My anger is out of control!

Amanda has a hot temper. Every time someone criticizes her for something she has done, she gets very irritated and angry. Amanda’s anger is beginning to affect her emotionally as she doesn’t know how to manager and control her anger.

Anger affects millions of people on a daily basis. When we encounter a situation and we react to it in a negative way, the brain is sending a message to the body based on how we interpret events. Then signs of anger begin to appear in our facial expressions, our tone of voice, and our movements.

Causes of Anger

There are four causes of anger. I will list them briefly in this article and will explain them more fully in a future post.

1. Personal issues

2. Relationship issues

3. Psychological issues

4. Environmental issues

Why am I so angry all the time and irritated

If your goal is to learn why you are so angry, then you need to recognize your anger, but how?

Recognizing your anger happens by raising your awareness. Most people live their life without being aware of what causes them to feel the emotions that they experience and feel which is why the majority don’t know why they get so angry all the time.

To recognize your anger, go through the questions below and answer each question honestly and truthfully.

  • What triggers your anger?
  • Do you get angry over specific situations?
  • Do certain types of people make you angry?
  • Is there is environmental issues that cause you anger like hot weather? Cold weather? Perhaps snow?
  • Does someone’s opinions triggers your anger?
  • When you see racism and prejudice, how do you react?  Do you get angry?

Feel free to add more questions, the key is to understand yourself more and to recognize your anger.

As I mentioned in my new book “the ultimate guide to managing your anger” that recognizing and knowing why you get angry is half the battle.

The above exercise helps you to understand yourself better and why you behave the way you do when you get so angry and resentful.

Recognizing and understanding the causes of anger and going through the list of questions above have helped me deal with the question “why am I so angry all the time and resentful.” Now, it is your turn to do the same. 😉

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

Effects of stress on the body

How to deal with frustration?

My life is boring

Win your lover's heart The ultimate guide to achieve your goals How to have peace of mind


  1. Hi Dia,

    Great questions to recognize your anger. I learnt that anger is a way to learn about what it is important in my life. Every time I am angry, I know that a personal value is violated. Your questions are a great help for that.

    Thanks for sharing!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Marc,

      Recognizing one’s anger is very crucial if we want to learn to manage our anger. Asking questions is a greak way to accomplish that. Thanks Marc

  2. Jimmy says:

    Hi Dia,
    I must admit. I have an anger management problem. I try very hard to manage this well, but when you are faced with multiple pressures on all sides, you can easily fall into anger’s trap.

    Your questions here looks useful. Perhaps I can identify some common groupings to my anger problems and be on a look out for these signs more. As you mentioned, awareness is key here.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jimmy,

      Once you identify the causes of your anger, then you can begin to learn how to deal with these issues in a proper way. You would have to start to use many of the different methods that are used to manage anger and calm yourself. Recognition is the key here. Thanks Jimmy
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  3. Jk Allen says:

    Hey Dia,

    While this isn’t something that I experience personally, I have to work with, and interact with people that are angry with life every day. It’s draining and sometimes even affects my own mood. Great tips shared…as always.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi JK,

      I’m glad you don’t have anger management issues, but this is not suprising as you are excellent at managing your emotions. 😉 Thanks JK

  4. G’day Dia,
    Anger in some form or other is part of us. Some use it to their advantage. To my untrained eye, there are shades of or scales of anger. The ones that we hold onto build up resentment…..these are unhealthy. I think some (obviously not all)short term “anger” can be helpful, they can drive you to do better e.g “being angry at yourself for not doing a better job”
    Thank you for posting on this important subject.
    be good to yourself
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    • Dia says:

      Hi David,

      Exactly some types of anger are beneficial. For example, if someone wants to rob us, we have the right to be angry. If someone wants to abuse us, we have the right to be angry. The key here is to determine when anger starts to affect our lives and emotions negatively for a long period of time. Thanks David

  5. For me, anger is a response to fear. When something doesn’t go to plan then anger is typically my first response, because it’s harder to admit to fear.

    Paying attention to what makes us angry helps provide a deeper understanding of who we are as people.

    Helpful post Dia.


    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      Yep fear does cause some people anger as they become afraid of the unknown or what is going to come. When we start to be aware of what causes us anger, then we can begin to shift our focus and learn to interpret events in a better a way so anger doesn’t affect our health and life. Thanks Alex

  6. Mika Castro says:

    I am expressing my inner feelings through anger. And based on research, Anger is a good way of letting bad feelings in you. It is helpful for me. But be careful in having this feeling, maybe this will be the worst part if you do not control your temper.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Mika,

      Exactly, expressing our anger is crucial, otherwise, with time, it will start to affect us in a negative way. Many people try to supress their anger, but in the long term, they start experiencing heart problems, stress , etc… Anger in some cases is good, but if we get angry over trivial issues and if anger stays with us for a long time, then we have got to work on our emotions and look for the many different ways to control our anger. Thanks Mika
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  7. Anna says:

    Your feelings and worries must leave your body somehow, so I do not think that anger is bad.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Anna,

      Yep anger and worry have to leave our bodies, otherwise we get affected by these supressed emotions. However, if we get easily angry over trivial and non important issues and if we tend to lose our temper constantly, then we have to learn to control our anger by following many different methods such as learning to interpret events more positively. Thanks Anna

  8. rob white says:

    Great work, Dia… Anger is a BIG one. Everyone has the seeds of anger stored in thesubconscious. Some folks seeds lie dormant, while others rush forth with regularity. We must understand and accept that we set our own trap, bait it and then step in it! Our anger traps are personal, they are are own.
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  9. Hi Dia,

    To be happy we do have to understand our anger. I get anger when I need to stop and eat. Sometimes I get busy and forget that i need to eat. it is not a pretty sight. LOL

    As for Amanda’s anger it sound like she need to work on her self-esteem. When we take other criticizing the wrong we our self-esteem isn’t where it need s to be.

    You are right that we need to understand where our anger is coming from, so we can learn by it and use it to our advantage instead of disadvantage.

    what i mean by that this if we get anger as Amanda does, then we see it is coming from our self esteem and we can fix this.

    With my eating, my anger reminds me that my body needs feed. Once I realize this is the reason for my anger than I can do the right thing and eat something good for me.

    Great reminder Dia, anger is just another teacher for us, like many of our emotions.
    Blessing to you,
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  10. Adrienne says:

    Hey Dia,

    Boy, am I so glad this isn’t an issue with me. I use to be around people who definitely had anger issues but not any longer. I distanced myself from them and I know that with the visualization techniques you have shared, I no longer attract those types of people into my life. I’m hoping it will stay like that but as long as their issues don’t affect me personally, I can deal with being around them. They can really drain you though.

    Thanks Dia, as always great tips!

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  11. Pj Zafra says:

    Hey Dia,

    Recognizing whats causing to be angry is very important. Anger can ruin a lot of businesses, relationships and oh so many more. Controlling our anger is definitely important. People would not like to be around angry people. So it’s up to us to position ourselves to a point where there’s peace and people would like to be around us at the same time.

    Great post Dia! Keep it up! 😀
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  12. Hey Dia,

    Anger isn’t really an issue for me, but I have a few people in my life where anger affects them a great deal. I wonder what their triggers are and why they allow anger to get to them so easily.

    It takes over their thoughts, feeling, actions, and words many times. It sucks to be around it. My confusion exist in the area of “why can’t they control it? How come I don’t get that angry? Wonder why they let anger take over.”

    But I guess that’s a personal thing each individual has to deal with.
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  13. Hey Dia,
    Anger is such a problem for many to overcome. The reptilian or “R complex” part of the brain has a lot to do with it.
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  14. Hi Dia,

    Excellent job. Fortunately, I’m a pretty calm and easy going guy, but I could definitely see how your advice could help those who are more likely to fly by the seat of their pants.

    It must be super frustrating getting angry so easily.

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  15. Anger is the root cause for all problems. It decreases productivity and makes one’s life a hell.

  16. Excellent insight on the causes of anger. Questioning the cause of your anger is an excellent way of recognizing anger and maintaining self control. Self control is an excellent quality for a professional person.
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