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Who is your best friend?

Who is your best friend?

Do you know how to befriend yourself?  Who is your best friend? 

In today’s world, people want more than ever before.  The need to relax, have fun, and share your life with that special someone becomes a necessity for millions of people. 

Now almost everybody wants to share life with someone special.  No one wants to live in a deserted island by him or herself.  However, the real question is, what happens if you are single now?  Should you be miserable and live life in seclusion?  Or enjoy your life to the maximum?  I’m sure you prefer the latter.

Unfortunately, many people end up depressed when they don’t have someone to share their life with and end up being sad and unhappy.   What most people don’t realize is the fact that first they have to enjoy the company of themselves and really be friends with themselves before they can be truly happy in a relationship. 

Many individuals go from one relationship to another looking for love and happiness where they should be looking inside themselves instead. 

As I mentioned in my previous article “You are responsible for your happiness,” that happiness is a state of mind.  You become happy when you learn to create harmony with who you are at all times, not by having possessions or by being in a romantic relationship. 

Sure these things do help and enhance one’s happiness, but true happiness is an internal work that you are responsible for. 

Befriend yourself

Your first obligation is to yourself.  The more you take care of yourself, the more you will be able to take care of others.  The more you become friends with yourself, the more you can be a friend to others.

Learn to have special time with yourself.  Go travel, see a movie, buy yourself something, and treat yourself.  The important thing is to create harmony with who you are and to learn to be happy with you.

The more you learn to be happy with yourself, the more the loneliness diminishes.  The more your loneliness diminishes, the more you will gain inner peace and happiness. 

Now that you learn to be in harmony with yourself, your next relationship will be more prosperous, successful, and enriching.  Why?  Because you are no longer needy or attached.  You have created harmony with enjoying yourself regardless if you are in a relationship or not.

Next time you feel lonely or down, remember to be gentle with yourself.  Before you rush into a new relationship believing that the other person will be your best friend and your lover, be sure to be friends with who you are and to create harmony with yourself. 

Always remember that you will never be lonely if you learn to befriend yourself. :)

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  1. Hey Dia,
    It is very common for people to enter a relationship in hopes of filling the void of being alone. It seems that being alone is so uncomfortable for many people. I have gotten much better at being alone.

    I believe that once we get past the fear of being alone and start to enjoy our own company, we will feel much more secure in our external relationships.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Justin,

      Exactly my friend, when we create harmony withour selves and enjoy our own company, then we will feel a lot more secure in our relationships with others. To enjoy others company, we have first to enjoy ours 😉 Thanks Justin
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  2. Evelyn says:

    Hi Dia,

    Great advice!

    I given this advice to some friends, but they thought I was crazy. But it is so true. When we enjoy ourselves and invest in ourselves, we then become a whole person.

    Take care,

    Evelyn recently posted..Take Time- Be in the Moment

  3. Valerie says:

    Hey Dia, I treat my self with alone time and I do not get mush of this but sometimes it feel good to just be alone with my though without the momma, momma, not saying I do not love my son and (husband) but they both like to talk how I love the silence it gives me time to remeber to love myself.
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  4. Rather than trying to turn loneliness into our best friend, one should look with wide open eyes at the world. There will be atleast one person who can listen to you, help you and be your friend.
    – Ranjith
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Ranjith,

      Yea, looking positively at the world does help. We all need others to help us live life, but it is also crucial to enjoy being with ourselves at all times. Thanks Ranjith
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  5. So true Dia. There is power in befriending yourself because no matter what happens – you will never abandon yourself!


  6. Kate says:

    Hi Dia,

    This is so true, if we are not comfortable with ourselves and in our own company, I think we we struggle to make any relationship great.

    You will have the knowledge and stregth that there is always someone to rely on, no matter what happens in a relationship and this means you can give more to the other person so build a stronger relationship.

    Have a good weekend,

    • Jaky Astik says:

      Yeah Kate, you are right. When you make friends with yourself, you get to know yourself better and thus, present yourself better to the outer world. Thus, you attract more friends and people who love and like you.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      Exactly my friend, if we are not comfortable with ourselves, then we will struggle to make a happy and successful relationship. After all, how can our partner enjoy our company if we don’t enjoy the company of ourselves? Thanks Kate
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  7. Jaky Astik says:

    When you make friends with yourself, you change the world. I have had times when I talked to myself as a friend, ask for questions and got miraculous answers, consolations, motivation and that was just another me inside me…

    And well, I think a person’s best friend in universal nature. It always stays with him, guides him, inspires him and yet, all he has to do is look at it and talk in the silence.
    Jaky Astik recently posted..Timeless Wisdom from a Retired Golden Heart

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jaky,

      Exactly, we all need to talk to ourselves, this is crucial in life. Being comfortable and enjoy being with ourselves is necessary, then others will enjoy our company. Thanks Jaky
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  8. Great post Dia. I’ve never had a problem being by myself, in fact, I quite like it. Like, if I want to go to a concert and can’t find a friend who’s free that day or wants to see that band, I can certainly go alone. It’s easy to blend into the crowd. I haven’t yet been able to eat dinner in a nice restaurant alone, without the safety net of a book or anything. I kind of see that as a milestone I want to hit – being able to do pretty much anything alone and feeling truly comfortable with it. I figure if I can do that, I’ll never be dependent on the company I keep to make be feel safe or comfortable. I’ll be able to have even more fun anywhere, anytime and no matter who I’m with. Thanks for the valuable post! :)

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    • Dia says:

      Hi Melody,

      This is great that you enjoy going by yourselves to a concert and to other places. This is crucial. This shows that you appreciate yourself. Exacly Melody, when you are comfortable with yourself, you won’t depond on someone else for your happiness. Thanks Melody
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  9. John Mak says:

    Dia, nice post! I like when you say your first obligation is to yourself. The more you take care of yourself, the more you will be able to take care of others. I thought it could be the opposite but I experienced it and it’s not! It’s how you say it. Nothing’s more important than ourselves. We need to find our weaknesses and have clarity of purpose. Thank you for sharing.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi John,

      Exactly John, without taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of others. The way I look at it is the more I take care of myself and the more I befriend myself, the more I can help others and the more I can be a friend to others. Thanks John
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  10. Frank says:


    I think it is important to have someone you can confide in. When life gets tough I have found a ton of value having someone I can vent to and who provides me with some encouragement. The challenge in having a best friend is maintaining and growing the relationships because just like with an intimate relationship there is a lot of give and take.

    As far as befriended yourself. You do need to have a great relationship by defining exactly who you are and being comfortable with just that. It will be hard to have others want to be around you if you don’t like being around yourself.

    This was a great post that has me thinking. Great job!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Yea, it is very helpful to have someone else to confide with. We all need others as we can’t live by ourselves, but first we have got to be comfortable with ourselves. We have to befriend ourselves, so we can be good friends to others. Thanks Frank
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  11. Gerald says:

    In times like these, we need to be very careful in trusting someone. It is a good thing to have a best friend. Someone you can rely on. Your brother or sister. But it also hurts when your best friend betrays you.
    Gerald recently posted..Guilty Pleasures In Life

    • Dia says:

      Hi Gerald,

      Yea of course we need to trust others. We live with others, not alone. But to improve our relationships, we have to first to be comfortable with being withourselves at all times, even if the person is single. Thanks Gerald
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  12. joyce says:

    hello dia,

    ur right it is good to have someone u can talk with share ur thoughts,but now a day it’s really hard to finds areal friends.

    thanks sharing ur thoughts.

  13. Lisa H. says:

    Hi Dia,
    This is so timely for me. This morning I went out for a run in the park and I thought, wouldn’t it be nice if I had some company? Then I realized I did have company, Me. Although I enjoy spending time with others, I also enjoy spending time with myself. :-)
    Lisa H. recently posted..How to stop Eating Your Emotions

    • Dia says:

      Hi Lisa,

      This is great that you realized you did have your own company. 😉 We should never depeond on someone else for our happiness. The other person adds to our happiness, but first it is our job internally. Thanks Lisa
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  14. Hey Dia,

    Happiness is a choice. I don’t think many people know that and happiness starts at home first aka with yourself. It’s not something that is found in someone or something else. Yes those things do contribute to it but the root of it is within.

    Filling a void through other people is only temporart and it makes it difficult to foster a real friendship or relationship.

    And I love my alone time :-)
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  15. Haley says:

    Totally agree with you that Your first obligation is to yourself. The more you take care of yourself, the more you will be able to take care of others. The more you become friends with yourself, the more you can be a friend to others.It’s very good point.It teachs us that We must love ourselves first and we can konw how to love others.
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  16. John Sherry says:

    After a tumulutous last decade Dia I can happily declare that my best friend is myself but I would add that we should never cut ourselves off from the source of other friendships. Yes, be your own best friend, but be the best good friend you can be to other people and let them be the same to you. What you give you get returned many times over.We need friends both inside and out.
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  17. Adrienne says:

    Hey Dia,

    Well, I’m single and have been for over 21 years and I love it! Plus, I love myself and accept myself so that is a huge part in just being happy.

    I have also ended several long-term friendships over the last six years because of their negativity and unwillingness to change. I love and respect myself more than that to continue to listen to them constantly complain about their life and all they truly want is sympathy. I have none to give because I truly believe that you are responsible for your own happiness. If you aren’t willing to take that first step and help yourself, how can you expect others to do that for you. Man, could I ever go on about this subject.

    It all starts with being true to yourself. It starts with loving yourself because everyone is God’s child and is special.

    I better stop for now, this could end up being a post in itself. Thanks for sharing this, I love this topic.

    Have an awesome afternoon Dia.

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  18. Maria Pavel says:

    Hi Dia,

    I really like a lot the topic of this article and the article itself, you know how to say a lot of important things in a great manner. My best friends are God, my best friend and myself. It is very important to take care who do we trust and who do we consider our best friends. Thanks for sharing!

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