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Top reasons for lack of communication in a relationship

Top reasons for lack of communication in a relationship

What are the top reasons for lack of communication in a relationship and marriage? Did you stop communicating with your spouse? Is lack of communication hurting your relationship and marriage?

Every happy marriage and relationship needs to have good, proper communication. There is no relationship that can survive if couples don’t communicate well with each other. To overcome lack of communication, you have to understand the reasons that make couples stop communicating with each other.

To learn about the top reasons for lack of communication in a relationship, follow the steps below:

1. Being busy with life-

Many couples stop communicating with each other because each one is busy with doing his own things in life whether it is work, hobbies, raising children, activities, among other things. Therefore, many couples find it hard to find time to communicate with each other due to having a busy life and for lack of energy.

2. Lack of love-

When you are no longer in love with your spouse, then you are most likely not to communicate with your spouse. If you find yourself not in love with your partner, ask yourself what are the reasons. Try to find the love that you two once shared.

3. Words vs. actions-

Many couples think that they don’t need to express their love for each other verbally and that only providing for the house, for example, is sufficient. This is couldn’t be further from the truth as you need to learn to communicate your feelings to your spouse constantly.  I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that spending as little as 5 minutes a day is necessary to help your relationship stay alive.  Use this time to express how much you appreciate your lover and how grateful you are for having them in your life. 

4. Arguments-

Problems and arguments between spouses could affect the communication between each other. Learn to accept each other’s opinions and focus on the similarities that you two share when you argue.

5. Fear of getting upset-

Many couples stop communicating with each other for fear of upsetting their spouse. For example, the woman might stop talking to her husband about some topic because he got upset in the past when she opened the subject with him.

6. Differences in the beginning of a relationship-

Differences between couples at first when they get married could result in lack of communication. This lack of communication could hurt the couple’s relationship if they don’t start communicating with each other and if they don‘t begin to understand each other better.

Always remember Paul Meyer said, “Communication- the human connection – is the key to personal success.”

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

For more information, read:

Stages of a relationhip and marriage

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How to deal with a controlling spouse?

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  1. My Reverie says:

    Very very true. You’ve mentioned some of the most important reasons for failure in communication. =)

  2. Kate says:

    I think fear of getting upset, or upsetting the other person, causes a lot of friction. If your opinions differ or you have something you want to say, best to say it, get it out in the open and deal with the upset than let it fester.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      I agree Kate, the best thing is to be open about everything. There should also be understanding and respecting the other person’s opinions and beliefs.

  3. ayo says:

    hello dia
    how are you?
    it’s funny; all the blogs i have visited today are either talking about communication or relationships lol!!!
    on a serious note you address an important issue when it comes to lack of communication in marriages/relationships.
    i guess in a relationship, we’ve got to make efforts to grow together, support each other and constantly remind ourselves of quotes like paul meyers communication: the human connection- is the key to personal success (in this case in relationships or marriages).
    take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Ayo,

      Exactly my friend, couples in a relationship should grow together and support each other. They have got to communicate well with each other. To be able to communicate better, they should learn the causes that lead to lac of communication, so they can avoid them.

  4. Hi Dia! These are all great points.

    Communication is such a vital part of a relationship, especially for couples. Most people don’t really pay attention on how they communicate with their partner. We need to be more aware of what we say and how do we talk with our loved ones to flourish loving relationships.

    I’m totally on board: “Every happy marriage and relationship needs to have good, proper communication.”

    Loving blessings!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Andrea,

      Exactly couples should be more aware of how they communicate and learn the causes the lead to lack of communication.

  5. Frank says:

    This is an great list of things to beware of in a relationship. So, what I am getting from this is that I should TALK to my spouse. What’s the fun in that? lol

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Exactly taking to their spouse is what everyone should be doing to build healthy relationships.

  6. I admit, I have not came to this blog in a very long time. still it had been another joy to see your great content.

  7. All of these list you have given us can be considered very factual, these are some common problems of every partner, without all of these the relationship will last long, but include trust very important thing in a relationship.
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