My relationship is breaking what do I do
My relationship is breaking down what do I do? Can you help me have a lasting relationship?
Jennifer has been having a rough time with her boyfriend. She says that they lost the spark in their relationship and they fight constantly. Jennifer is looking for some ways to stop their relationship from breaking. Sounds familiar?
Thousands of couples experience daily arguments and fights in their relationships. Some are minor and some are major. While some of the minor arguments can be used to enhance the relationship, major arguments often affect the relationships negatively and in many cases, make the relationships break.
My relationship is breaking down
I can hear you say, “my relationship is breaking down what do I do?” If that is the case, then follow the steps below:
1. Take some time alone
The first step you need to do is take some time alone to ponder your relationship and what went wrong. Often times when our minds are cluttered, we lose focus and end up doing irresponsible acts.
Take some time to think about when your relationship with your partner began to deteriorate. When did you lose the spark in your relationship?
When you take some time alone with yourself, you are helping release the negative thoughts and calming you mind, which in turn allows you to think clearer and find solutions for your relationship issues.
2. Start doing what worked before
Remember that time when you two were in love and had a wonderful and fun time together? I’m sure you do! Find out the things that you both loved about each other and start doing them once again.
For instance, if your partner loved the way you dress when you two fell in love and you stopped dressing well, then start to dress like before and take care of your appearance.
3. Communicate
Talk to your partner and find out what he thinks of your relationship. We all want to be heard and get our point across. The key to successful communication is when you listen to your partner and make sure he sees that you understand him fully.
For example, if your relationship is breaking due to the fact that there is no intimacy, romance and love, then you need to communicate that feeling to your partner so your partner know that you need him to express his love for you on a regular basis.
4. Be happy
The chances are if you are having hard time with your relationship, then you are not happy which leads to having negative energy in the relationship. Know that your partner picks up on that negative energy and could make him drift apart from you.
As I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that happiness is an internal emotion and your partner is not responsible for your happiness. Once you become happy, your partner will pick on the positive energy you are sending and that can help bring him closer to you. After all, not many people like to be with someone who is negative and not happy.
When I started to realize that happiness is my own responsibility, not anyone else, not only did my relationships have improved, but I also started to become happier in all areas of life.
5. Stop blaming your partner
When we have an argument in a relationship, we usually start blaming our partner for everything that is happening. If you want to rescue your relationship from breaking then you have got to take responsibility for what is happening. It takes two to make a relationship work and once you start taking your share of responsibility, you can move on to look for solutions. A good question to ask yourself:
- How have I contributed to the fall of our relationship?
Taking some time to think about and answer this question will help you realize what you have done, so you can start to work on finding solutions.
Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by 2achieveyourgoals.com to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here
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Hey Dia,
Relationships are the single most challenging part of being human. Everything else is relatively easy in comparison.
Great suggestions in your post my friend.
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Hi Dia,
You pretty much got this covered Dia. I think the last one is very important, “Stop blaming your partner.” We always have to take a look at what we may have to contributed or not contributed to the problems.
One thing that I have learned when it comes to men and tell me if I am wrong on this. That at times men need to have just there own time. Yes, it is like going in a cave and being by themselves. When they do this women seem to think they are pulling away from them. When it reality they just need some me time.
When couples are doing a lot of fighting, this can be trying to have more power. The one that has the most power wins. And in relationships you have to put power aside. It isn’t about power, but love and love is patience and kind.
Thanks Dia for some great tips on how to go about fixing a relationship that is falling apart.
Blessing to you,
Debbie
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Communication is the key to any healthy relationship.
Four children and 26 years of marriage as told me when an issues comes up, the best action is to always address it and then talk through it.
Thanks for these important reminders Dia.
Alex
I love to share this with my boyfriend.. We always fight this past few days.. And I don’t want to loss him.. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.. Your are a big help to avoid break up..
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The blame game is a big one. Often I see fights between couples go from one blame to the next. Before long they are fighting over things that were never part of the problem to begin with.
Great points as always Dia.
Bryce
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All great points Dia but like I would expect anything less from you.
I also agree with Alex, communication is the key. But only when both parties are totally 100% honest. Anything can be talked out even if you agree to disagree. Keep those lines of communication open and you can stop all the rest before it gets that far.
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hello dia
how are you?
i was talking to someone today on this same issue and my conclusion was before anyone pulls the plug in his/her relationship there needs to be clear communication on all issues bothering one.
there also needs to be time where one spends alone to reflect on the whole relationship(past present future), how it started, why/how it got to the point where one is giving it a second thought….
finally in all these, we need to remember that above all, it’s our happiness that counts
thanks for sharing
Great suggestions in your post my fiend. I like them but we can never really tell. And I agree with Justin. Relationships are the most challenging part of human beings. Thanks for sharing this tips anyways, very helpful.
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If you still love the person its best to save your relationship. When my husband and I are at the phase of our relationship where we fight a lot, we’ve decided to take a time off and relax a little. We’ve had a vacation where it is quite and romantic to spend time with each other and talk.
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I think have a little space on both partners is a big help. If your partner is not having his way to save or do not know how to handle things well, maybe you should. Talk it over.
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