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My life is so messed up

My life is so messed up

My life is so messed up, please help me!

The company that Megan works for has just laid her off. Her boyfriend has just broken up with her and her friends keep gossiping about her. Life has been challenging for her, so she goes home every night and wonders why her life is so messed up.

If you are like Megan, you are most likely to know the causes and reasons why your life is not going smoothly the way you want to. If this is the case then move on to the steps below, otherwise you need to determine the causes first.

My life is so messed up

If your life is so messed up, then you need to start improving your life, but how? You can start with the following steps:

Know where you are going

Finding out what you are so passionate about could be the best thing you ever do for yourself. There is nothing more destructive to one self than not having clear vision of where want to go in life.

When I wanted to make some changes in my life, I started to ask myself questions such as:

What does really excite me?

If I could do anything right now what would it be?

What do I need to change in my life?

What service can I give to myself and humanity?

Asking yourself questions is a great way to help you know yourself better. Meditate and ponder these questions and what they mean to you. Knowing yourself better is a must if you want to stop having a messed up life.

As I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” that when you answer the questions that you come up with, you have to know the reasons why you want something. For example, why do you want more money? Perhaps you say that it will give you stability? Then ask yourself, what else? You might then say freedom and the ability to help yourself and others.

Knowing the reasons why you want something will give you the motivation to persist and move forward. Without having great desire, you are likely to give up as soon as you encounter your first or second obstacle.

Take daily steps

Now that you know what you have to do to change the mess you are experiencing in your life, it is time to start taking daily steps to help you get closer to your new goals. When you start taking daily steps, you will begin to see the results very quickly in your life.

As you begin to take steps to fix your life, begin to assess your progress. If you don’t get the desired results, then you will need to change your approach, so you can fix the mess in your life and achieve your vision in all areas of life.

Visualize your dreams

I have written before about the power of creative visualization and how it will help you reduce stress, achieve your goals, and program your subconscious mind with what you desire. Visualization is a great tool that allows you to work through the barriers you have within you.

For example, if you feel that you can’t attract someone to your life, you can begin to use creative visualization as a tool to work through those emotions you harbor inside of you. Begin to see yourself in the happy relationship. See yourself giving and receiving love.

Remember if you want to start seeing something in your reality, you have to see it mentally first.

To fix your life, you have to become the change you would like to see in your life and the world. Often people want to change others and the world, but they forget to look within and change themselves internally.

To stop saying “my life is so messed up,” you need to start living as you desire, first mentally. Then, the changes begin to reflect in your outer life.

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  1. Hi Dia,
    I am also a big believer in asking questions in order to get myself moving again. What excites me, what makes me happy, how can I help others and so on.
    Justin | Mazzastick recently posted..The Ego Mind And The Higher Mind

    • Dia says:

      Hi Justin,

      Exactly asking questions help us to find what we want and how we can help ourselves and others. I found my purpose in life when I started asking myself questions such as “what would I be doing now if I could anything I want to?” Questions help guide us… Thanks Justin

  2. Jack Betner says:

    Hi Dia,
    I love it say when you say ”To fix your life, you have to become the change you would like to see in your life and the world.”
    This is so true, everyone should know this.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jack,

      When we begin to change ourselves internally, then we will begin to see the results in our outer life. As within so without. 😉 Thanks Jack

  3. Dia,

    All good strategies for taking back control of your life. One strategy that has worked for me has been to take 100% responsibility for my life. This way, no matter what happens, or what anyone else does, I know that I’m in control and I have the power to take my life wherever I want it to go!


    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      Taking 100% responsibility is a crucial step my friend. If we keep blaming others and the world for our lives, then we would not change anything. Taking responsibility helps us move in the right direction. Thanks Alex

  4. Mika Castro says:

    It’s too bad too hear that your life messed up but for me, follow the steps and being strong to face all your problem will lead you to a better YOU.
    Mika Castro recently posted..ליקויי למידה

    • Dia says:

      Hi Mika,

      I’m not talking about my life here. My life is not messed up as I took charge of my life back then 😉 Hope this has helped you. Thanks Mika

  5. Mika Castro says:

    It’s too bad too hear that your life messed up. but for me, follow the steps and being strong to face all your problem will lead you to a better YOU.
    Mika Castro recently posted..ליקויי למידה

  6. Very true Dia. You have to visualize what it is that you want. When I think of people thinking there life is a mess, I believe we can get in what I call a “Rut” and we have to use these steps you talk about to get out of that rut.

    When i lost my job in the corporate world and pondered “What excites me” until I realize what how I wanted to change my life. By doing this you get a wonderful new look on life and start having some fun along the way.

    If you find your life in a mess, here is the guy that can help get you out of that messed up life and on the right track. Study what he teaches and you will learn just how great life can be.

    You go Dia and thank you for all your inspiration!
    Debbie @ Happy Maker recently posted..How to Understand What Your Women Really Needs for Her Happiness in Your Relationship!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Debbie,

      Thank you for your kind words my friend. 😉 We have got to ask ourselves questions so we can move forward. You asked “what excites me” to find your passion, so you won’t stay in the rut. I know you are on the right direction. Thanks Debbie

  7. Frank says:


    I never knew how powerful visualization was until I put the practice to use in my own life. It started from playing sports. One day I was getting beat badly, which isn’t uncommon for me, and I just started imagining all of my shoots going in. Then guess what happened. Most of my shots went in. A few others never had a chance because they were being blocked back down my throat. But, when I could get a shot up they were going down. It is the same with life. We have got to see ourselves where we want to be and wait for our lives to take that positive thought process and get us there.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      I’m like you when I discovered the power of visualization, I was like “WOW.” I should’ve known this from a long time ago. I personally have achieve great things with visualization and I continue to do so. It is for sure one of the most important steps that a person should take to improve his/her life. Thanks Frank

  8. What a big difference it makes when we frame our minds with purpose and direction. When the roadblocks come out, they don’t stop us because we know where we are headed in the bigger picture.

    Great suggestions. Thanks Dia.

    Bryce Christiansen recently posted..Colossal Lessons From Roman Relics

    • Dia says:

      Hi Bryce,

      Exactly my friend, when we know we are going and have a purpose, we will be in control when we encounter an obstacle. This is why daily work on our mentality is crucial. After all, it all is about our attitude. Thanks Bryce

  9. Hi Dia,

    It is important to take daily steps and visualize what you want. Basically it helps to take the time to plan out your life. I am doing something meaningful with my life now and it feels good to know that I am helping others. That, to me is exciting.
    Cathy | Treatment Talk recently posted..The Gift of Recovery from Addiction

    • Dia says:

      Hi Cathy,

      Taking the time to plan our lives is one of the most crucial things we do in life. Once we do that, visualizing what we want, taking action, expecting the best etc… are crucial if we want to achieve great and positive results and change our lives for the better. Thanks Cathy 😉

  10. Kristina L. says:

    Hi, Dia,
    I sure hope I am not messed up, although I tend to have bad days.
    Still, it is nothing like Megan’s story. Sounds to me as if she was more unfortunate than actually messed up. However, I agree that visualization will always help the dreams come true or at least bring them one step closer to fulfilling.It is important to take one step at a time.
    Kristina L. recently posted..GoToMeeting Coupon Code

    • Dia says:

      Hi Kristina,

      Exactly visualization is a great tool that we have. The more we visualize, the better we get at it and the closer we get to our goals. 😉 Thanks Kristina

  11. Adrienne says:

    Always such great advice from you Dia.

    I have a friend that just got laid off Monday, downsizing unfortunately, and he was the low man on the totem pole. His boss actually cried she didn’t want to let him go but their company is hurting as well and so many cuts have already been made. They are even moving to a different location to cut costs on their rent. This is the first job he’s ever really loved and he’s been so happy since finding this one.

    To say that he’s upset is an understatement. He has these same questions going round and round, why! With the economy in the shape it’s in he’s petrified. I’m going to send this post to him so maybe it can help him find direction. I have been trying to encourage him to step outside the box and do something he loves but like 95% of the people in this world, the fear of uncertainty will always hold them back.

    Thanks Dia for your wonderful insight!

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  12. Hey Dia,

    Those are some great step in order to find why a person’s life is so messed up! Sometimes, I really strongly do believe that a person can also mess their lives up by hangining out with the wrong types of people or having the wrong friends causing their lives to be wrecked, but overall, it’s our decisions whom we make our friendship or what type of crowd we choose to hang around!We usually do that due to lack of attention or friendship, and just wanting to fit in the crowd!
    Tyler J.Logan recently posted..How to worry more and ruin your life

  13. jessica says:

    When you reach a goal and then feel empty and depress then stop chasing the goal and find out that person who is chasing the goals and running away from himself. This is called self realization. Buddha got fade up with his kingdom and start a journey of finding the truth. I think this is the right solution for those who fade up of all achievements and success in their life. This is true wisdom, to know thyself!
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