My girlfriend doesn’t trust me
My girlfriend doesn’t trust me, what should I do? How can I make my girlfriend trust me?
How often do you hear someone says “my girlfriend doesn’t trust me” or “my boyfriend doesn’t trust me?” I’m sure you have heard it at least once in your life. Many relationships struggle due to not being able to trust one another and sometimes this lack of trust makes some relationships break down and end.
Lack of trust is a serious issue that should not be taken lightly as it could have harmful effect on your relationship. As I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that when your partner begins to doubt you, checking your cell phone, wallet, clothes among other acts will be common.
My girlfriend doesn’t trust me
If you want to learn how to make your girlfriend trust you, then follow the guideline below:
Make a list
If your partner doesn’t trust you, then she has to inform you of the causes and reasons. Communication is crucial when dealing with lack of trust issues. Sit together and make a list of all the things that contribute to the lack of trust and examine it. The list could look something like the following:
- I flirt with the opposite sex a lot
- I stay out at night constantly
- I keep making excuses for various issues
- I keep lying
- I cheated on her
- I keep making promises that I can’t keep
- She grew up in a house where her father used to cheat on her mother
Evaluate
Now that you know what kind of issues make your partner not trust you, you can start to evaluate and work together to overcome these lack of trust issues. For example, if your girlfriend says, “you flirt a lot with other girls” then you can stop flirting with other girls and start giving your girlfriend more attention instead. Excessive flirting with the opposite sex could make your girlfriend see you as a player and as someone who just wants to have fun, so you have to be aware of the situation.
On the contrary, if your girlfriend doesn’t trust you because she grew up in a family where lack of trust was common, then you two need to talk about what happened and examine the root cause. You need to assure her that every relationship is different and just because her parents had lack of trust issues, it doesn’t mean you two should experience the same.
In this case, your girlfriend has to work on heeling herself and she might need to work with a counselor or a life coach.
As you can see, when you deal with trust problems, you need to know the issues and situations that contribute to making your girlfriend doubt you. Then you would need to do some evaluation and work together on overcoming these doubts. If you help your partner work on the inner barriers or change some of your behaviors that contribute to lack of trust, then you two can begin to heal your relationship and make it last.
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The strange thing about trust I find is this.
If I trust you and you do something that should make me not trust you then it is easy for you to regain my trust, however, if for some reason I dont trust you without cause then it is more difficult to earn trust.
I think trust is more of an emotion than something that can be treated by logic
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Hi Danika,
If we can’t trust someone for no reason then that means we have barrier inside of us, so we should work on getting rid of those barriers and the limiting beliefs we impose on ourselves. It is those negative feelings we have inside that keep us from not trusting others. I agree with you Danika that it does take some work on oneself to be able to overcome these barriers. Thanks Danika
Dia recently posted..My girlfriend doesn’t trust me
Hey Dia,
Unfortunately we attract what is a vibrational match for us. When we find ourselves in these type of relationships it is best to witness what we can learn about ourselves.
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Hi Justin,
I agree with you, a good way to start is to ask ourselves how we attracted that person into our lives? When we begin to see that we too have some kind of the same inner issues, then we can begin to work on ourselves and the barriers we hold. As the law says, “As within so without.” Thanks my friend
Hi Dia,
Good points here. As you say communication is a big part of trust. And when trust is lacking there is always a reason. I know for myself that when he shows interest in my feelings and concerns of my heart I will trust him more and this starts with communication. If I feel special to him, than I can trust him more, because I see he is putting me before himself.
Great advice Dia and you really have great info in your post.
Blessing always,
Debbie
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Hi Debbie,
Exactly, communication is very important when we deal with trust issues. Both couples have to know the causes and reasons why they lack trust. Then they can work on solving such issues. Thanks Debbie
Hi Dia,
Great post on a very touchy subject. I must admit, I used to have this problem, but have really taken massive action to reduce her anxiety and insecurity. You missed out a great way to make her more secure – spend all your non official time with her. Make her your focus of attention and build that trust again. Let her know that you have no life apart from being with her. After you do this for a few months, you will also realize that you do not want to spend your time in any other way. Case close.
That’s extreme for married middle age people like me. But for you guys who are younger, I am sure you can find something more fun.
Cheers
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I have the same problem with you,the only thing i do is to communicate with my girlfriend every day because all i know is that having a communication will build up your trust to each other.
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Very interesting topic! As a lady like me, proove yourself to me, Show me the word trust on you so i can have trust on you.
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Thanks a lot. I don’t have any more problem right now. But back then, we really had some trouble with the trust. Dunno how, but I guess, we just need some more time to believe one another that moment.
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Hello Dia,
Fine article here sir. I can only imagine how popular this issue is – considering so many people have issues with trust and insecurities from many challenging life experiencing.
I’ve seen this and lived it before. I’ve been at the tail end of a non-trust relationship not because of my own actions, but because of the actions of previous relationships. How fair is that…not fair at all.
I think it all comes down to communication and having a honest relationship. When that’s not present, any relationship is ticking…just waiting to explode.
Wonderful advice Dia. I’m sure it stands to help many!
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Hi Dia,
After 30 years of marriage I hope I am still trusted. Communication, showing that you care go a long way to developing & consolidating ‘trust’.
be good to yourself
David
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I guess assurance is the only way to regain one’s trust again. Together with proper communication and letting your partner know that he/she can trust you can lessen or totally eliminate that trust issue. In most cases, avoiding doing things that can affect your partner’s trust.
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hello dia
how are you?
trust is something that must be earned and at times when there’s a breakdown of trust it’s difficult to rebuild again
however it’s important one remember that there are no quick fixes to building trust , rather constant attention, work and effort is required
thanks for sharing
take care and enjoy the rest of the day