Lost interest in a relationship
I have lost interesting in our relationship! We were happy once, but now, I don’t feel the same anymore!
Mike fell in love with Amanda so he started to do whatever it takes to get her. They stayed deeply in love for a few months, and then he began to lose interest in the relationship. What once was love and excitement, now it has turned to routine and boredom.
Losing interest in love is something very common in our society. We often see couples madly in love, but later on one of them stops to having the loving feelings that once were there.
Losing interest in a relationship
So why do people lose interest in a relationship? What makes someone go from loving his partner to losing interest? Here are a few of the causes that can make someone lose interest in a relationship:
Depreciation
If a guy was deeply in love with a woman for certain reasons and qualities and then if those qualities change, he might lose interest. For example, if a guy loved the way his partner talks and respects others, then suddenly the woman he loves starts to disrespect other people, he will begin to lose interest in her as this is not a quality he enjoys.
Routine
If routine becomes common in a relationship, then this could be a serious sign for one of the couples to lose interest in the relationship. Let’s face it; most of us get tired of daily routine. We want excitement and adventure.
As I stated in my book “how to win your lover’s heart” that some of the best ways to break routine is to actively listen to each other’s interests, spend quality time together, and surprise each other in an unusual ways.
If you keep your relationship fresh and full of adventure, then it will be harder for your partner to lose interest in a relationship.
Different interests
Having different interests is a major reason why couples split and lose interest in the relationship. For example, if the guy likes to spend most of his time playing sports while she prefers to spend most of her time playing instruments then there will be a conflict of interest. Unless they work on managing their time better and be willing to invest in the relationship, the relationship is doom to fail.
Lack of trust
Lack of trust is another quality that can make one of the couples loses interest in the other. Trust is a valuable quality and there is no relationship that can survive or grow if trust is not present.
Make no room for lying and cheating in your relationship and you will eliminate one of the causes for losing interest.
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Dia,
I’ve found that when Mary Beth (my wife of 26 years) and I hit a rut we take a “connection timeout” and focus on our personal lives. Over time, we naturally find ourselves moving back to the relationship. This approach creates less friction, and more spontaneity.
Alex
Hi Alex,
I like this “connection timeout” concept that you apply in your marriage. This helps to clear your thoughts and it might actually bring you closer together. Thanks for sharing this Alex
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Hi Dia,
Happy Festive season to you! Been married 30 years, up’s & down’s occur…..taking time out for own personal space is a good way to go.
be good to yourself
David
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Hi David,
Happy Holidays to you as well my friend. Yep taking time can really help a relationship blossom and bring backt he spark that once was there. Thanks David
Dia recently posted..Lost interest in a relationship
Everything changes in life, doesn’t it? It’s wonderful to water the plant of love. But then there are times when people change and grow apart. It’s not easy to let go of our attachments, but whatever comes together will separate at some point in time!
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Hi Dia,
There are so many factors at play that cause people to lose interest in a relationship. It’s not a surprise to me that the divorce rate is over 50% these days.
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Hi Justin,
Exactly my friend, there are many factors and reasons for people to lose interest in a relationship. The key is look for the reasons that keep the passion and spark in the relationship and this can be achieved by changing our focus to what we want and desire and nuturing our relationship daily among other things. Thanks Justin
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Hi Dia,
Those can definitely be some major factors. I think most people love to be in love so they look for all the great qualities that person has in the beginning but then as time goes by they realize there is a lot they don’t like. People go way too fast in my opinion and they should take a step back and really take the time to get to know one another. That would really help cut down the divorce rate in my opinion.
Great sound advice my friend.
~Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
I agree with you some people tend to move in too quickly to a relationship. If they start to focus on getting to know each other better and focus on the qualities that they once loved, the passion and the spark will return. Thanks Adrienne
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Hi Dia,
Relationships take attention and work. We go through that “honeymoon” period where the partner can do no wrong. After awhile reality sets in and some of the characteristics we didn’t notice before become more clear. It takes time to establish if the relationship is one that will work for a long period of time, but no matter how compatible you are, as you said, relationships need attention to thrive.
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Hi Cathy,
Exactly relationships need daily nurturing and dedication. Many couples lose interest as they stop giving their relationship the time it needs. The way I see it, spending as little as 10 minutes a day with our partner, losing interest becomes very unlikley in such cases. Thanks Cathy
Dia recently posted..Lost interest in a relationship
Ah yes. Tis romantic notions of love that throw folks for a loop. Romance is a high, and when the high wears off folks look for their next fix. When we come to “know thyself” and our core values we find that the greatest relationships are those of complete acceptance.
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Hi Dia- I’ve been married for 6 years now and I look forward to my lifetime with my husband. Just like any other relationship, test and trials in the marriage serve to temper the bonds between the husband and wife. To truly know your partner’s heart allows one to move through those tests and trials with steadfastness. With that said, getting to know one’s partner is lifelong journey that is filled with spontaneous experiences that creates opportunities for one to discover new ways to appreciate and trust the partner.
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Hi Dia!
Nicely said: “Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive.” I love the ideas you share to nourish love in our relationships. I like to leave little notes for my wife in places she’ll come across them during the day. We also talk throughout the day when I’m at work, sometimes calling, sometimes texting. Those littel flirtatious back-and-forths between us are important to keep things light and fun and playful. We also try to have a weekly date night to keep the romance alive.
Great post, Dia!
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