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Losing interest in a relationship

Losing interest in a relationship

Are you losing interest in your relationship? Why love disappears after a while?

Brandon fell in love with Wendy at first sight. He believed he has found the woman of his dreams. They started dating for a few months, and then suddenly he began to lose interest in the relationship. He started to see their relationship as boring and not exiting anymore.

What has happened here? What are the causes that made Brandon lose interest in his relationship with Wendy?

Causes of losing interest in a relationship

Most of us have witnessed many couples lose passion for each other and the love they had for each other disappear. To understand this phenomenon, we must look closely at the root causes. They could be any of the followings:


One of the very common reasons that make love disappear after a while in the relationship is when couples allow their life to stagnate. Their life begins to become dull and routine and they start to lose interest in spending time together.

Excessive sensitivity

When couples start leading a lifeless life, feelings of dissatisfaction begin to surface and one of the couples starts to become very sensitive to everything that the other person says or does. In other words, it becomes very easy to get on each other’s nerves for the smallest things.

Unresolved internal feelings

As I stated in my book “How to win your lover’s heartthat some people go into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Once they become involved with someone, they begin to realize that this is not really what they want, hence they begin to lose interest in the relationship and the love begins to die.

What to do when you lose interest in a relationship?

When you get to a point where there is no love between you two and the love begins to fade away, you have to do the following whether you want to make the relationship work or leave:

Work on your internal feelings and understand what you really want from a relationship. Unless your fix your internal emotions and examine the root causes mentioned above, you will always attract similar types of potential partners and you will not get someone who is more to your liking.

Once this happens and you begin to understand yourself and your emotions better, you can start leading more healthy relationship.

Have you ever lost interest in your relationship? If so, what made the love disappear?

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  1. Pete Goumas says:

    It’s a common issue of present society and the main reason is lack of acceptance either of our feelings or for others. It is best to know what your internal emotions are and work on root cause. I think, we should also work on tolerance because the main cause of increase divorce rate is lack of tolerance or acceptance.
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  2. I’d say along with stagnation (maybe it’s implied) is one or both become too passive, and not active in tending to the relationship, much like a garden. People get disconnected easily this way, lose their ability to be present with each other, and “all of a sudden” things seem to have gone down the drain. Of course it wasn’t all of a sudden, if an honest look is taken. Or perhaps in the scenario you’ve described the “love drug sunglasses” were on, where people can easily filter out things that don’t fit their picture of what they really want in someone and a relationship, so they settle for less.
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