Kindness builds strong relationships
Are you kind to your partner? When you get into an argument do you practice kindness or you try to prove you are right? Do you constantly play the game I’m right and you are wrong? How to be kind to your lover?
Kindness is one of the most important characteristics of every happy and successful relationship. Couples who you see have a successful and fulfilling relationship nurture each other instead of proving each other wrong. Showing compassion is part of them and it is a positive habit that they have ingrained in their personality.
I often see couples have a hard time in their relationship due to the fact that they play “I’m right and you are wrong” game. They start blaming each other instead of taking responsibility and practicing the art of kindness. As long as you stay blaming each other, your relationship will be rocky and if the blame stays constant, your relationship will get affected negatively.
Jennifer mentions that she learned to practice the art of kindness in her relationship from her partner John. She goes on to mention that whenever she used to start blaming him for issues, he starts to be kind and compassionate to her and in return, she started doing the same.
As I mentioned in my book, “How to win your lover’s heart” that if you want to have a successful and happy relationship with you partner, then you have got to eliminate blaming the other individual and start being compassionate and polite.
How to be kind to your partner
If your goal is to learn how to apply the concept “practice being kind rather than being right” in your life, follow the guide below:
1. Put the argument behind you
Putting the problem or argument in the past is crucial if you want to avoid small, petty, and sometimes big arguments and problems in your relationship. When you put the argument in the past, you are saying to yourself the argument is over and it is time to look for solutions.
You might ask how can you put the argument behind you in the past? Glad you asked! The way I do it is by focusing on the end results and how this problem is going to be affecting our relationship in a few days, a few months, and in the long run. This small shift in my mentality has helped me tremendously to put the argument behind me in the past and focus on the solutions instead and in return made a huge positive impact in my relationship.
2. Focus on your partner’s love
After you put the argument in the past, you need to start focusing and reminding yourself of the love you two have for each other. This will help strengthen your focus on the positive. When you’re focused on the positive and the good in your relationship, it will be easier for you to practice to be kind rather than being right.
3. Say something kind
Now it is time to say something kind. I have personally made it a habit to say something kind and positive on a daily basis. The more kind and compassionate I’m, the more I get the same in return.
After you practice these three steps, you will start doing them unconsciously and you won’t notice that you are actually following these powerful steps. These 3 steps might be simple in nature, but powerful when they are applied in life and in your relationship. However, first you have to practice to be able to get to that level. Practice makes perfect 
Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by 2achieveyourgoals.com to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here
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How to mend a broken relationship?
Emotional security in a relationship
Hi,
I agree, kindness builds strong relationships. We all need to start thinking more and more about love, about our feelings and about how to act with the people we love, specially with our sweethearts. Thanks for writing on such a great topic!
Joshua
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Hi Joshua,
Exactly, simple gestures of kindness can affect our relationships positively in a huge way. First we have to recognize that we need to say something kind daily to our partner, then we start taking action and apply it to our lives. Then we begin to see the positive results in our relationships. Thanks Joshua
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Hi Dia,
First time at your blog.
Thank you for reminding me about kindness. I especially like: “Practice being kind rather than being right”. I think that’s crucial. But relationships have always been a challenge to me. Tony Robbins said that the most challenging to him are relationships. Because he can control himself, but he can’t control the other person.
Rock on,
Derek
Hi Derek,
Welcome to my blog, I love seeing new people
Relationships can be tough, however they can be improved dramatically by changing ourselves internally. I believe in the “law” or saying that “As within so without.” If we change ourselves internally, then outer circumstances change and many cases our partners change. It all begins within us. The thing to remember that we are responsible for our own happiness and we can’t control how others behave. We can control however, our attitude to what happens and this can make a huge difference in our relationships. Everyone encounters petty and small annoyances in their relationships. The key is if we learn to practice some actions like respecting our differences, practicing kindness, not depend on the other person of our happiness among other things, our relationships would improve dramatically. Thanks Derek
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
I believe when u practice kindness u can’t hurt the person u love,in anyway possible. Kindness controls 1′s heart.
Hi elundini,
Practicing kindness really does make a huge difference in our relationships. It is probably common sense, yet the problem is most people don’t practice it in their relationships. If we apply what we really read and learn, our relationships will change for the better in a fast way. Thanks elundini
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Hi Dia,
What an appropriate article for me today. Yesterday my significant other and I got into an argument. We are very kind to eacher, never play the blame game, actually the way we difused the situation was very similar to what you have spoke of here.
It makes me happy to know we’re doing things the right way. I mean I guess it wouldn’t be hard to tell if we were being negatively affected, but this was a reassuring post given that neither of us wanted to back down lol
Thanks for sharing!
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Hi Chelsea,
I’m glad you two are handling issues in a healthy way.
This is really what it is all about, building and maintaining a healthy relationship filled with love, peace, and serenity. Thanks my friend
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Hi Dia,
I’m somewhat leery about empty rhetoric where there is incongruity between behavior and words. So for me to say kind words in an effective way they must be heartfelt. And if I’m really upset or angry, silence might be called for because any kind thing I might say will not feel authentic (therefore ineffectual) to either party
Riley
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Hi Riley,
Silence is powerful as well my friend in some cases. It is better to stay silent than say a statement that could ruin or make your relationship worse. You might not feel like “being kind” when you are in an argument, but it can make things way better then if you stay blaming each other. At first it might be hard, but as you practice and ingrain this habit in your personality, you will begin to see the positive affects in your relationship. Thanks my friend
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Hey Dia,
Great content here as always!
I need to start expressing my kindness more. I know at times I can be a little mean without even realizing it. Kindness is the best way to keep a relationship healthy.
I’m happy I dropped by to see what was new! ( : You always have wonderful life helping topics, so keep them coming. Keep up the hard work!
God bless,
William Veasley
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Hi William,
Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it. Exactly being kind rather than right is very helpful in every relationship and it is one of the best ways to build and maintain a healthy relationship. If you change yourself “internally” then expressing kindness will be a lot easier for you my friend. Thanks William and enjoy your day
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Dia,
Being kind is indeed a great way to build strong relationships. I have noticed by me being open and concerned about the people who are important to me opens up opportunities not only to display kindness but also to receive kindness as well. I don’t know to many people who are intentionally mean to someone who is nice to them. Thanks for the great tips.
Hi Frank,
Exactly my friend giving and receiving kindness is crucial. You mention a great point, if you are kind, then the other person tends to be kind in return, in most cases. It might be a small act, but makes a huge different in relationships.
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Kindness as said is very important for the building of stronger relations. It is often the lack of kindness that is a cause for breaking up of relations. Rather than repenting after losing the relation, it is better that we start adjusting and understanding our partner with a little kindness.
-Ranjith
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Hi Ranjith,
Exactly, many relationships end and suffer because of lack of kindness. Small shift in mentality and action create miracles
Thanks Ranjith
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Dia: Great post and approach to really maintain the best relationship. I really appreciate and agree with all your advice on kindness. It is amazing how much we can improve our relationships with just about anyone if we prioritize and focus on kindness. Great list.
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Hi Sibyl,
Exactly my friend, our relationships will be improved dramatically if we learn to practice the art of kindness especially to the ones we care about and love. Kindness really does create miracles. I’m glad you enjoyed the post my friend
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Kindness really builds a strong relationship.In love relationship,we should respect each other and put stubborness outside.If our parter is angry,we should keep silent and go out.We can talk seriously after this
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Hi Van,
Yep for sure being a stubborn doesn’t help build a relationship. Once we learn to practice kindness, the impossible becomes possible.
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
Hi Dia,
Kindness is the key to good relationships. Wonderful 3 steps to take. I have found at times that I need to walk away from the argument for a little while and then come back and talk. this way I can be kind and not go into the blame game.
I really like number 2 Focus on your partners love. Focusing on the love can make a world of difference in any relationship. Wonderful reminders for us all Dia.
Blessing to you, Debbie
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Hi Debbie,
Taking a little walk and taking a deep breath before we speak are great ways. When the mind is clear, practicing kindness will be a lot easier to implement in our lives. Thanks Debbie
Dia recently posted..Kindness builds strong relationships
One of the best ways to put arguments behind you is to make sure that you deal with it fully. So many times these arguments are not dealt with and that’s the main reason they linger like a bad smell. A great relationship is one where you realise that you must have disagreements about things. If you always agree, then one of you is lying!
Personally, I like the arguments – they really help to crystallise how I feel about something. To clarify, I don’t seek arguments, but when they arise I make sure that I do two things: listen & understand and speak my truth. Since doing this, rarely do we have an argument that has any power outside the time it is given. Usually, within 30 minutes or so, the matter is dealt with fully and we have both reached a new place of understanding. Sometimes, we agree that we can’t agree and that’s ok too!
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Hey,
Thanks for your post. It is really true that kindness builds strong relationships. I also completely agree with the three points that you have explained to build a healthy relationship. I also personally feel that “Apologies does not make one small in a relationship”. If you are wrong, apology for that instead of hiding it from your partner.
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Some 80 years ago came a saint on the land of India named as Gandhi, and he taught this lesson to the whole world, and its not an irony that even the most powerful man in today’s world is a disciple of him! Thats the power of kindness.
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