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I’m so stressed out

I’m so stressed out what should I do

I’m so stressed out what do I do? How can I reduce my stress?

Amanda mentions that every morning she has a headache when she gets up. She goes on to mention that if something doesn’t go her way, she becomes upset and stressed out, so she is wondering how she can tackle this issue.

Millions of people can identify with Amanda and share similar issues in regards to stress and anxiety in daily lives. However, when stress starts to affect our relationships, job, and health, then we need to start taking serious steps to reduce stress in our lives.

I’m so stressed out what do I do

If your goal is to learn how to reduce stress in your life and stop being so stressed out, then follow the guideline below which I personally find very helpful:

1.  Exercise daily

I personally wake up at 5 o’clock every morning to exercise including the weekend. I do stretching, aerobics, and alignment exercises, then I go do whatever I want. I find it when my body is relaxed, I become more productive and I get more done.

2.  Talk about your emotions

When you feel stressed out and feel that there is something annoying you, talk about it with someone who is close to you like your partner or family member. As I mentioned in my book “How to overcome worry and have peace of mind” that expressing your emotions helps reduce anxiety and in many cases, you will discover various methods of how to deal with stress.

3.  Meditate

Take some time alone daily and clear your head from all the negative thoughts.  Research shows that more than 80% of our daily thoughts are negative, so if you don’t want to get affected by your negative thoughts, then it would be very helpful to take some time daily to calm your mind.

During your meditation, you are free to start visualizing things that you love and that bring joy to you. For example, I like to visualize that I have accomplished my goals and vision in life as when I take the time to fully visualize my dreams coming true, joy fills my heart and soul.

I also have a ritual where I meditate on the blessings that I have in my life.  When I start focusing on the blessings that I have, serenity and inner peace fill my heart and stress gets reduced dramatically.  Try it, this is what happens when you change your perspective and your focus.

4.  Learn optimism

Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Does pessimism and realism hold you back from achieving your goals and what you desire in life?

There was a study done on learned optimism by Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania that showed when you are optimistic and expect the best out of the situations, stress, anxiety, and depression get reduced dramatically.

There is no reason to stay pessimistic when you have the choice to be optimistic as for the most part, pessimism will affect your health, relationships, and life in a negative way.

Of course there are more steps to help you stop saying, “I’m so stressed out” that I will discuss in a future post, but for now, if you follow these four steps, you will be on your way to reducing anxiety dramatically in your life.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

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  1. Galen Pearl says:

    I like this series of this is my situation–what do I do. All together you are creating a handy reference for life!
    Galen Pearl recently posted..What is Enlightenment?

    • Dia says:

      Hi Galen pearl,

      Thank you for your kind word. If I can make a different in someone’s life, then that is what really counts. Glad you like the new series my friend :)

  2. Hello Dia,
    Stress management is so crucial to maintaining our well being. Learning to keep a positive mindset while keeping our body balanced through diet and exercise will make stress management much easier.

    Ah yes, Meditation, enough can’t be said about this easy and wonderful resource tool.
    Justin | Mazzastick recently posted..How to Meditate for Beginners

    • Dia says:

      Hi Justin,

      Yep, we have to do whatever it takes to reduce stress from life challenges. I personally love meditation. It is a great way to calm our minds as it helps us to achieve peace of mind. Thanks Justin

  3. Stress can be crippling and it can keep up from experiencing and enjoying life to it fullest. Of the tips you provided, exercise works the best for me – it’s perfect for my mind, body and soul!


    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      I love to exercise as well. Some wonder how I get up at 5:00 just to exercise. inform them of the benefits I feel when I exercise such as muscle relaxation. As you said it is great for the body, mind, and soul. Thanks Alex
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  4. Kristina L. says:

    Meditating and keeping an optimistic view can really be helpful in fighting stress. So can the proper food intake and our organization-both with time and our thoughts.
    I recently had some breathing class exercises and I am thrilled with them-a person can have so much from such a small effort..most of us do not even know how to breath, and they should, as that is the key to our tranquility.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Kristina,

      Breathing is a great way to reduce stress as well. As you mentioned not many breathe correctly. If we learn to breathe from our diaphram, then we will start to experience the benefits of breathing. 😉 Thanks Kristina

  5. Sibyl says:

    Dia: Great post and really helpful tips. I think the point you made about exercising daily is a great one. I know that I always feel so much better after working out and I know it is really something I should do everyday. I am still working on doing it daily though;)
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Sibyl,

      Yep excercising for sure helps us to reduce stress and anxiety my friend. When our body is relaxed, we get to be more productive in life. Thanks Sibyl

  6. Hi Dia,

    This is such a short and sweet post. Anyone reading this will instantly get great action ideas to reduce stress. Hey, I am glad to find another person like you who gets up at 5am to exercise. Personally, I run 5km every morning now. It is rule I set myself to improve my physical self. One of my main physical goals is to be able to walk till the day I die.

    Will try some of your other suggested methods here.

    Jimmy/Life Architect recently posted..25 Elementary Principles for Success in Life – Principle 23

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jimmy,

      Running 5 km every day is an awesome thing. This is good for circulation, legs, hands, heart, and all your body. I haven’t tried running, but I’m tempted to try it. 😉 Keep up the excellent work my friend.

  7. Siony says:

    Negative emotions (like sadness, stress, anger, etc.) causes your Serotonin production to be low; when your Serotonin level is low, you are more prone to getting Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Depression, etc.Thats the causes..
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Siony,

      If we learn to not take everything seriously in life and think more positively, then our reduce the chance of getting stress, anxiety, anger, and worry in our lives. It takes practice though to get to this level… Thanks Siony
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  8. You go Dia. People need to get a handle on this problem called stress. With life so busy we have to make time for exercise, meditation and talking to someone about things.

    To me it does come down to having a good attitude and thinking positive. With a good attitude we don’t worry about thing and learn how to go with the flow.
    thanks for the reminder, because we call use reminders to keep us on track.
    Blessing always,
    Debbie @ Happy Maker recently posted..5 Easy Steps to Develop Lasting Relationships

    • Dia says:

      Hi Debbie,

      Exactly my friend, it is our attitude that determines how we handle stress and anxiety. Once we work on our minds and on our attitude, dealing with stress will be much easier. Thanks Debbie

  9. Vilma says:

    Hello Dia, such a helpful tips. For someone like me? when i’m stressed i’m so pessimistic… But reading this really helps a lot and of course… One thing I’ve learned aside from being optimistic, I should make a room for my meditation.. I want a stress free life!! =)
    Vilma recently posted..Difficulty Getting Pregnant

    • Dia says:

      Hi Vilma,

      Meditation is a great way trust me. Once you make the time for it, you will start seeing the positive benefits. When our minds are calm, we will then reduce stress and begin to experience inner peace and serenity. Thanks Vilma

  10. rob white says:

    Empowering tips, Dia. If we want to improve the quality of our life, we must continually study the ways of our mind. Stress need not be a fact of life this day in age. When we look deeply at some recurring trouble in our life and say, “Whoa, I did this to me” We are accepting responsibility for our woeful, stressful experience. We can then take the necessary steps to help ourself.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      Exactly my friend, once we start studying the mind and how it works, we begin to realize that what happens to us in life is a reflect of what is going on inside. Taking responsibility is a major key if we want to stop playing the victim role. Once we do that, we begin to experience inner peace. Thanks Rob 😉
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  11. Frank says:


    Life recently has been busy and chaotic. These tips couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I have a question does exercising really make that big of a difference. I used to work out a lot but never really paid attention to my stress levels.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      For sure exercising helps us to reduce stress. Personally when my body is tired and muscles are tight, I get to be more stressful. This is why I exercise daily. 😉 Thanks my friend

  12. Hi Dia, when I feel stressed I like to take a break from what I am doing. Sometimes just taking a couple minutes to take a qalk or play with the dog, does loads to relieving some stress.

    Bryce Christiansen recently posted..Boosting Your E.Q.: Steps to Build Your Emotional Intelligence

  13. Hi Dia,
    Optimism, Positivity, Keeping fit…..they keep me going.
    I’m procrastinating on Meditation…..I’m pretty sure it’s a good thing however can’t quite get started. Thank you.
    be good to yourself
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  14. Ken Wert says:

    I know so many people who are constantly stressed. I’m going to send them your way, Dia! For me, I de-stress best by either working out or returning to nature. Since I’m a city boy, this requires a drive to the beach or the mountains. There’s also a nature trail not too far from where I am that can serve that same purpose. The best is to combine exercise with nature on a good hike. :)
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  15. Hey Dia,

    Meditating and being optimistic are my 2 favorite ways to get past stress. I’m rarely stress in general because of these two things.

    I’ve also learned that if you focus on actual solution to things or alternatives to things that make you stressed it eliminates time for you to stress about things because you end up being proactive towards getting past that moment.

    It really works a lot for me in the work place.
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  16. Adrienne says:

    I really feel for people who are still in situations that cause them to be stressed. I know that the last few years I was in the corporate world I stressed myself out on a number of occasions mainly because of the frustration I had for a lot of the people I worked with.

    I should have been more in control of how I reacted to those situations. I did removed myself a number of times and just go off some place and take some very deep breaths. I think if that happened to me now, I’d probably head to the ladies room and meditate. I’ve found that to be so comforting Dia.

    Thanks for sharing these tips. I have a few friends I need to send this post to.

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  17. Marcus Baker says:

    Hi Dia,

    An excellent guide to dealing with stress here!

    I implement all of your tips on a daily basis. I also find journaling helps me a lot especially when I am not able to talk about my emotions or express them for some reason. I use a stream of consciousness method which means I write non stop to fill up a page as the thoughts tumble out. There is no paragraphing and no stopping to correct anything. It is an extremely liberating and cathartic activity.

    ~ Marcus
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  18. Mitch says:

    for me if i am stress out all i need to do is go shopping that’s my medicine…
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  19. danika says:

    Also, in this instance, I would think to ask what is the first thing you experiance in a morning? What is the 1st thing that comes into your head to get you down…. address that!
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  20. D. Heath says:

    Learning optimism is definitely essential for reducing stress. Hope and inciting motivation to work towards a better future has been helping me stay relatively stress free.
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  21. waterpearls says:

    Great post.I like the tips that you have shared to avoid stress.I think we should be positive and exercise daily to keep ourselves away from stress.
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  22. Jewel says:

    Hi Dia,
    Only thing that really stressed me out is when I’m staring myself in the mirror.. Because I am obsess I always wanted to lose weight but I could hardly refuse sweets… reading your post somehow helps me realize about self disciplined and be optimistic , I know it’s out of the topic but personally your post helps me a lot to motivate myself. Thanks!!!
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  23. Kisha says:

    Hello DIA, I think stress management is so decisive to maintain our well being. Learning to keep a positive attitude while keeping our body balanced through diet and exercise will make stress management much easier.
    Kisha recently posted..How I Jump Higher

  24. olivia34newton says:

    i like your guidelines, because i’m already applying some of them. i do yoga as my exercise, i do mediate too. i don’t talk much about my emotion. and sometimes i do go for shopping and spa to overcome my stress.
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