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I’m so depressed I want to die

I’m so depressed I want to die

Are you depressed with life? Do you feel like your life is not worth living and you want to die?

I’m so depressed, I want to die is a phrase that we hear often now days whether to loosing our loved one, suffering from a health problem, or losing our jobs.

According to a study done by one of the clinics in San Francisco mentioned that over 70% of the patients in hospitals are there due to psychosomatic diseases. These are illnesses that are caused by our negative thoughts which have huge effect on our bodies like excessive anxiety, excessive worry, and excessive stress. Does that statistic surprise you?

Im so depressed I want to die

If your goal is overcome depression and stop saying the phrase “I’m so depressed I want to die,” then follow the guide below:

Examine the root cause

It happens so often that people who are experiencing depression, start looking for solutions right away without taking the necessary time to examine the root cause of their depression. It is like attempting to fix a car without examining the cause of the problem.  As I mentioned in my book “How to overcome worry” that the problem with this is you will never be able to truly heal yourself and lead a happy life unless you get rid of the root cause first.

Sit in a quiet place and ask yourself the following questions:

  • Why am I depressed with life?
  • Why do I feel this way?
  • When did my depression start?
  • Is feeling this way serving me in any way?
  • What is the cause to my depression?

Dig deep in your subconscious mind and really ponder these statements as they help you examine the root cause for your depression. Answering these questions sincerely could help you find the answers that you are seeking and help you overcome your depression and start seeing life as a beautiful place.

Take action

Now that you have examined the root cause for your depression, you need to start changing your life by taking action. What do I mean by action? What I mean is look for solutions and start taking some serious steps to help your overcome depression.

Start practicing not to take things seriously in life, start improving your health by eating healthier food and exercising. Start spending time with your family and savoring ever minute of it. Have a goal and start taking steps towards it.

Taking action about your current situation is very necessary, otherwise nothing will change and you will not be able to move on and change your life.

Acceptance

When you come across something that you can’t change like the death of a loved one then you have got to accept it. There is no benefit in fighting anything that can’t be changed. The sooner you come in grips with things that can’t be changed, the faster you can begin to heal.

For example, if one member of your family dies and you feel like you can’t go on living, then it is very important to accept the fact, so you can start moving on. I know this is easier said than done. Give yourself time to heal, just realize you have got to come to a point where you accept what has happened to be able to move on.

Finally, to stop being depressed with life, you need first to examine the root cause of your depression and then start to focus on the solution by taking action. If there is something that can’t be changed, then you need to accept it and shift your focus on another area of life that is more positive.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

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29 Comments

  1. Hi Dia,

    What a horrible sentence! :( Eeek. You’ve made some excellent points here. We do have a choice to feel better by focusing on something in a different way, or choosing to focus on something that already feels better. I find that when I’m in a funk, if I go and feel better using a different subject and then come back to the depressing one, I’m able to more easily shift my perspective than if I try to shift while in my funk.

    Hugs!
    Melody
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Melody,

      I agree with you changing our perspective and the way we look at things is crucial. It is the basis if we want to overcome depression and change our vibration. Once we start focusing on happy and positive thoughts, depression will decrease. Thanks Melody
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  2. Dia,

    I agree that acceptance is a major factor is dealing with worry and distress. It’s easy to expect things to be a certain way and expect people to behave a certain way, and when things aren’t this way we feel like it’s horrible and terrible. If we learn to accept that there will be uncertainty and things we don’t have control over we can release much tension that is weighing us down.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Joe,

      Yea acceptance is needed in some cases of depression, especially if something can’t be changed. Also as you said once we accept that there will always be uncertainty, this will reduce distress in us as we learn to go with the flow.
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  3. Lynn Sanders says:

    I’ve been through these states more than one time, not a pleasant thing. Even seriously thought about suicide. Let’s be frank, life is not easy. But i’ve always pulled back thinking about the people around me, thinking i’m not alone and they still need me. Recovering is easy if you get past the selfishness.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Lynn,

      Surrounding ourselves with people we love is for sure a great way to reduce depression. What we have to realize is that there is always someone that loves us and that no matter what happens we will always be ok. It starts with changing our focus. Thanks Lynn
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  4. All important reminders here Dia about the complications of depression. Perhaps the best course of action is admission and then to ask for help. I know, because in my life I’ve done both and it has made all the difference.

    Thanks,

    Alex

  5. Kate says:

    Hi Dia,

    How are you?
    I think you are completely right about finding the root cause and then taking action. Sometimes though, when in the fog of depression, reality becomes distorted and because it is so difficult to see a way out, answering the questions seems near on impossible.

    I think sometimes, action should come first, getting out of your own head even just by walking or some sort of physical activity can raise serotonin enough to make thinking clearer and so make it easier to answer the questions realisitcally rather than from a place of utter despair.

    I also agree with Alex that asking for help is paramount. It is a shame that in this day and age, there is still some stigma attached to this which makes everything worse.

    Excellent thought provoking piece:)
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      I agree with you as well. Sometimes action precedes examining the root cause especially if the individual can’t think clearly. It varies from person to person, situation to situation. Thanks Kate, good to hear from you
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  6. Adrienne says:

    Wow, that title definitely got my attention.

    I hate that some people actually feel this way and it’s not just a saying that you spit out from time to time. Honestly, I’ve never felt like this and just couldn’t for the life of me imagine what would drive someone to this.

    I also agree, asking is so important. I don’t believe anyone really gets through life all alone. We all need some type of support or help from time to time.

    Thanks for sharing this Dia, you always seem to provide so many wonderful tips no matter what the subject.

    Adrienne
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  7. Kristina L. says:

    Hello, Dia,
    I personally never felt this much desperate and depressed, but I know a few people who where on the verge. I think friends are really needed in those moments as well as the support from the family. However, it is sometimes hard to recognize a person is going through this phase of depression. It is great if they can recognize it on time themselves and take steps for preventing the worst from happening.
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  8. Hey Dia,
    Great techniques on dealing with depression. I found that if I am ever feeling low what works best for me is to take some quiet time and allow the emotions to surface to the light.

    This way I can deal with them consciously.
    Justin | Mazzastick recently posted..How To Be A Healthy Being

    • Dia says:

      Hi Justin,

      Taking some quiet time alone is very beneficial. It is actually one of my favorites and that I use personally as I love to meditate to clear my head from the negative thoughts. Thanks Justin
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  9. Claire says:

    I came to the point that I think I want to die because there are problems I thought I can’t overcome them. But lately, I realized that everything happens for a reason. You have great points on how to overcome depression. Nice post!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Claire,

      You are capable of achieving everything you want so there is no reason for depression. Once you shift your focus from negative to positive, your reality will begin to reflect that. Thanks Claire
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  10. rob white says:

    That’s a big one Dia. Millions deny they are depressed and under the spell of “WOE” and “No”, yet their lives are testimony to its effects. We are responsible for most of our WOE. This may be tough to accept but it is true! We reap what we sow, and if we sow WOE, then we take things far too personally and reap the negative consequences.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      Exactly my friend, we reap what we sow. If we keep continue dwellling on negativity and playing the victim, then this will be our life. We have got to take responsibility for our thoughts, so we can change our reality. Thanks Rob
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  11. Jk Allen says:

    This was deep Dia. Depression is sad. For one I believe it’s over-diagnosed and miss-diagnosed too often. Level minded people sad from one bad event are being prescribed anti-depressants at rates that continue to soar each year. It’s like how docs are diagnosing more and more kids with ADD and ADHD. Pharma is a big business with a bad track record and I believe that bad business comes into play when it comes to depression.

    Not to say that I don’t think people get depressed. I know people do. But I think the miss diagnoses creates an additional layer of issues. Anti depressant medications come with their own slew of issues; where people who take them who aren’t truly depressed stand to experience real depression-like symptoms…including thoughts of suicide.

    Despite the corruption I learned about in the 2 years I worked in the pharma industry – I think the advice you offer here is timely and worth a read to anyone who may have these types of harsh thoughts.

    Best to you Dia!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi JK,

      I agree with you many people are diagnosed by doctors with depression because of their sadness and give them anti depressants medications where in reality they might be feeling down for a while. I am personally against anti depressant medications. For the most cases, if we get the depressed or sad person to change their perspective, then slowly they can overcome their depression. Thanks my friend, always love to read your insights. ;)
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  12. Wow Dia,

    Great suggestions and advice. I have to second JK’s comment. Depression is a tough topic to handle and the issue can range significantly from moments of depression to all encompassing full on depression.

    Having advice like you have given here is soooo helpful for dealing with the issue whether you are on medication or not. Even those who take medication benefit so much more from practicing methods like the ones you shared above.

    Great work, thanks for helping out on such a wide problem.

    Bryce
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  13. Ken Wert says:

    I teach high school students and find many of them to suffer from short or long bouts of depression. I think what you wrote here would be wonderful for them to read, Dia!

    One of the problems some of my kids have is that their families are very dysfunctional. So spending time with family only acts to reinforce their depression. When they escape what goes on there to hang out with friends instead, too many end up with the only friends they have as a gang member, which acts to further reinforce that same trapped mentality.

    But there are, of course, those who escape, who find something in their lives to hang their hopes on — often it is a catalyst in the form of an encouraging teacher who connects with them. But in any event, your tips/steps would be hugely helpful to those who have not yet learned to recognize the potential buried underneath a layer of childhood trauma, just waiting to be accessed.

    Thanks for sharing your insight with us!
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  14. Maria Pavel says:

    Acceptance plus willingness to change your current situation is the best combination. Based from my experience, I have that willingness to change but haven’t really accepted all my past experiences in life. As a result, I kept on blaming myself and also other people around me whenever I’m feeling down again. Until now, I’m still in the process but I can already see some results.
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  15. John Sherry says:

    Dia good man for tackling this subject. You know I wrote about this recently and you cover a point I eluded to in that you ask people to self-enquire about what’s making them depressed and perhaps discover that they may be a) spending long periods actively thinking and feeling with a pessimistic outlook and/or b) not actually depressed at all but merely just frustrated or going through a short low spell. Self questioning is the root of reality and realisation and the key to re-investing in a happier future. Being honest, but to yourself first and foremost, is the doorway to the right way to live.
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  16. Peter says:

    I hate it when people say I’m so depressed I want to die because you can’t be that depressed that you want to die. I’ve also been depressed but I didn’t want to die because you can just try to get a new girl if your girl left you or something else. Just make the best of it and don’t be depressed.
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  17. ayo says:

    Hello dia
    How are you?
    the statistics you’ve mentioned are quite scary but they are believeable. the most read article on my blog each day is i am fed up of life.
    i agree with the tips you’ve mentioned and if i may stress please, that one seeks professional help when things become totally out of control.
    thanks for sharing.
    take care and enjoy the rest of the day.
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