I want to be loved
How can I find love so I can be happy?
Jen was sitting with her friend in Starbucks telling her how lonely she feels and how falling in love would make her really happy. Jen explained to her friend, “I really want to be loved and cared about so I can feel happy.”
There are millions of people who are in the same boat like Jen. They look for ways to be in a relationship so they can find happiness in their lives. If you are one of those people, you might know deep inside of you that you are lying to yourself and that you want to be loved so you can compensate for something else you are missing in your life, but afraid to do anything about it.
Does love give you true happiness?
There is no question about it that attracting a harmonious relationship into your life is something good. There is also no question that being loved for who you are does increase the happiness in one’s life, but as I explained in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that before you get into a relationship, you need to be truly happy with your life and with yourself.
You can’t expect your partner to make you happy. No one can give you happiness except yourself. True happiness always comes from within, not outside. Still having a hard time believing this? Allow me to explain…
Imagine you are in a happy healthy relationship now, but you have a disease that you can’t cure. Will you be happy? What if you are in a relationship, but have many problems and issues with one of your parents. Will be truly happy? I don’t think so…
Real happiness is when you are internally happy regardless of what you might be missing in your life. The sooner you accept this, the better for you.
True happiness and love
Let’s find out the real problems and issues you will encounter if you get involved into a relationship for the sake of finding happiness:
1. You might lessen your true standards
If you are desperate to fall in love, then you might get involved in a relationship with any person who offers you companionship. This can be dangerous if the other person is not being sincere and in the long run, you will get hurt or you would have settled for someone that you are not very compatible with.
2. Wrong reasons
Usually when two people start dating, the emotions of happiness and excitement will be strong, but within time they will fade away if one of the two parties is in the relationship for the wrong reasons.
3. Unresolved problems will show up
If you never work through the root cause and the real problems, then these issues will show up again. When they do, it won’t matter if you are in a relationship because feelings of dissatisfaction will appear and you will start experiencing regret.
Solution to finding happiness
So what should you do to find happiness? Since real happiness is found within you, you need to start to learn how to love yourself more and change your negative self-image to positive.
Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by 2achieveyourgoals.com to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here
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