I made a mistake
Do you get upset when you make a mistake? You made a mistake that you regret?
There are no mistakes in life, but experiences that you learn from. Each mistake that you do contains a lesson that you should learn from, so you correct and avoid the mistake from happening again. If you start viewing mistakes as learning opportunities, you will reduce the pressure, become an optimist individual and gain more confidence in yourself.
Many people when they make mistakes, start blaming themselves. You as a human being can’t avoid making mistakes as long as you work and deal with people. Some people try to avoid mistakes by not working and by not dealing with people, which is really a big mistake. Mistakes are true gift from God that he has given us because he wants us to learn and gain various experiences in life.
There are others who refuse to acknowledge the mistakes that they do and blame them on others. They try to play the victim role, want to appear perfect, and completely deny any involvement in making the mistake. Those kinds of people have not learned to take full responsibility for their actions.
I made a mistake, how do I deal with it
To learn how to deal with your mistakes, follow the quick guide below:
1. Accept your mistakes
You have got to accept the idea that you are human and capable of making mistakes. You might make a wrong decision, hurt or offend someone. Learn to take advantage of every mistake that you commit. Making a mistake might hurt you for some time, but you have got to move beyond that and learn from these mistakes, so you can avoid them in the future.
2. Raise your awareness
You have to be aware of your thoughts, beliefs, and actions, so you know how to improve yourself. Look for the weak areas in your life such as limiting beliefs that cause you to make mistakes and then try to change these limiting beliefs, habits, and actions.
Be aware of what you do and why. For instance, you are responsible for what you do or say to people. There is something called emotional intelligence that teaches you how to deal with different people skillfully. You have to be aware of what you do or say, so you won’t end up saying something that you will regret later on.
3. Search for improvements
Instead of wasting your time thinking about who made the mistake or who is most responsible, look at the situation as a whole and see how you can change it for the better. Ask yourself, what can you do to make this situation better and correct the mistake? What can you do to change yourself for better? View what happened as an experience that will improve your behaviors and habits, so you won’t make the same mistake again.
4. Ask
Ask people for their unbiased opinion. Your close friends the ones you trust can see the event from a different view. Sometimes you are immersed in the situation to the extent that you are not able to see the situation for what it is. Many of your friends will see what has happened from a neutral position and will give you unbiased opinion.
5. Congratulate yourself
Congratulate yourself for what you have learned from these mistakes and experiences. Remember that each experience that you went through taught you something and added value to your life. Congratulate yourself for taking responsibility for what has happened and give yourself a pat on the shoulder.
Always remember what Winston Churchill said, “All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from their mistakes.”
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Hi Dia – I’m the master at making mistakes. But I’m a master in training at not repeating my mistakes. Great topic you choose here. It’s one that everyone deals with, but everyone handles differently. We can all use direction in this category for sure.
When I make a mistake I feel the initial let down, but in only harbors until I identify that it happened, then identify my next course of corrective action. I got that from Rob White. “Let problems be in the past”.
My 5 year old son makes a mistake and he’s steaming upset with himself. I was never like that. This proves to me that everyone has a different handle on absorbing mistakes. For me, a mistake is an opportunity for growth…for some, it’s time wasted and a let down.
I was told one time that I lacked passion because I didn’t get upset with myself when I made mistakes. This was in a work setting. They said that if I really cared that I should express some negative emotion because it’s natural. I simply told them I can’t express anything i don’t feel. If you want me to put on a show then I can, but it wouldn’t be natural.
I like the points that you share on dealing with mistakes. It’s important that we know how to deal with them, because they happen, and hopefully often. If you don’t make mistakes, you can’t be making any moves!
Thanks Dia!
Hi JK,
I agree my friend, one of the best ways is to learn from our mistakes and try to not repeat them. It is a good way to focus on the solution when we make mistakes. It is good that you don’t let mistakes bother you, this is a great skill my friend.
Dia, great article!
I think it’s important when you make a mistake to just move on. Learn your lessons from it, but don’t keep thinking about it. Know that dwelling on it won’t change anything!
Hi Tristan,
Exactly my friend, once we learn our lessons, focus on the solutions, then we can move forward. The past can’t change, we only can use it to learn from.
Hey Dia,
I was hoping to find a spelling mistake in your post so I could make a HILARIOUS joke but it seems like to nailed it
I really like what you’ve said here. I am VERY good at making mistakes but also recovering from them. I am a very action oriented person and so I have just learned to expect to make mistakes on my journey (especially my business journey).
I have found that my mistakes often become huge opportunities to improve my credibility with customers. When I make mistakes and clients are angry, I go over the top to repair the problem and deliver some of additional value to show them how much I appreciate their business. 99 times out of 100, they become even more loyal and it strengthens the business relationship.
Justin
Hi Justin,
loooooool
Yea I agree that we all make mistakes. The key is learning from our mistakes. When our customers see that we are willing to go the extra mile for them, the would appreciate it and they would “forgive us” for our mistakes.
Great tips, Dia. As I like to say, the best way to get over our Miss-takes is to have successful Re-Take
Hi Rob,
having a successful retake is very beneficial my friend. This is the way we grow as people.
Great tips Dia, I think the hardest one for me is the first one at least.
Accepting you made a mistake is pretty hard sometimes. But it’s the good way to go!
Hi Fernando,
Yea I agree Fernando. A long time ago, I used to be harsh with myself when I make a mistake. Then, I’ve realized that I should learn from my mistakes and focus on the solution.
A wise person once told me that if I haven’t made any mistakes then I am not taking enough risks. It is impossible to improve if you don’t learn were your weaknesses are. The best way to expose a weakness is to make a mistakes over and over again. Not the same mistakes but new mistakes based off of new experiences and calculated risks. Dia your provided an excellent list of the benefits of learning from your mistakes and how to break free from them. I enjoyed reading this.
Thanks Dia.
Hi Frank,
I agree my friend, if we don’t make mistakes, then we are not taking risks and we are not growing at all. Making mistakes is part of growth. Once we learn from the experiences that we encountered and the mistakes we did, then we are growing.
Awesome post Dia,
See when you made a mistake, try to calm yourself down, think on how you can solve the problem, and if you can’t solve it by yourself try to ask for help from people who can help you with it! Thanks so much for the great post. Have fun.
Hi Samuel,
Yea Focusing on the solutions is very crucial. There is no reason to dwell on the problem and the mistake. When we focus on the solution, then we are moving forward.
No question we all make our share of mistake. Gosh know I have. One thing I’ve learned though Dia– we can’t do anything about it once it’s done, just as you said. And because we can’t do anything to change the past, we can only move forward.
As always, good stuff Dia.
Hi Marcus,
I agree my friend, moving forward is crucial and this is what we shold be concentrating on, so we can benefit ourselves and our growth.
Dia,
Great post.
I think it is important that people not be scared of mistakes. No one like to make them, but they should not be feared and avoided, they can be a great way to learn and grow.
Hi Steve,
For sure my friend, mistakes are a great way to learn from as they help us to grow.
Hi Dia! I think it’s great to have a positive attitude towards our “mistakes” by congratulating ourselves for the lessons learned, bruises and all. In the end, we’re all here to learn and evolve. It’s about the journey and the learning experiences along the way.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Loving blessings!
Hi Andrea,
For sure my friend, mistakes are a great way to learn from and necessary part for growth. The only person who doesn’t do any mistakes is the person who doesn’t do anything
Mistakes or failures are always part of every success. If one committed a mistake, then he or she should learn from it and make sure that it won’t be repeated again.
Exactly, we should learn from our mistakes. If we don’t make mistakes, then we can’t grow and achieve success
Hello there, Dia! This sums everything up so well: “If you start viewing mistakes as learning opportunities, you will reduce the pressure, become an optimist individual and gain more confidence in yourself.”
Mistakes cannot be avoided but we sure learn a lot from them. They are only mistakes when we didn’t become better after the experience. But if we did, then these mistakes aren’t so negative at all. In fact, they fuel us to become better persons. So let’s not make the mistake of aspiring for perfection all the time. Man, that’s too awful a life! Instead, let’s aspire for the best and yet be willing to embrace setbacks and mistakes with positive attitude.
This one’s really fit for the coming New Year, Dia! So thanks! To you and your reader, all the best for a prosperous 2011!
Hi Arina,
Exactly, mistakes are necessary for our growth. If we don’t make and learn from our mistakes, then we won’t grow as human beings. Thanks my friend, I wish you a prosperous 2011 as well
I really enjoyed reading all of the comments. It helped me realize that I cannot keep holding on to one of the biggest mistakes I made. I left my job last year to take another one. It didn’t work out. I called my former boss back and asked if I could have my job back. She said I had to go through the process all over again. Someone already had filled my old position. I was able to come back per diem. Then, I accepted another job too far from where I live because I was desperate and needed health insurance benefits. Well, needless to say, this job didn’t go well either. My former employer took me back a second time but again only had a per diem position open. My old job came up for grabs again but I didn’t get it. Someone else scored higher than I did in the peer interview. I was so sick about this. I had hope that I would be able to go back where I was. Maybe if I had stuck it out with the first change I would be okay. Maybe I should have not been such a wimp and dealt with it. The dept did not have enough help and they admitted it. I know that there are times when don’t think before I act. I should have stopped and thought the impact this would have on me if I quit. Well, same for the other job that was way too far to drive. I really hated the drive and the job. I had to quit. Now I have been looking for another job while working my per diem position at the hospital and I got a call today from an employer offering me a position and I accepted. Everything sounded good except the pay. I was really disappointed. I am used to making 12.53 at the hospital and this job will start out at 9.26 an hour. I am having a hard time with this because I have alot of experience with this kind of work. I do get benefits though. That is a blessing. I am going to continue to pursue another possible job too that I have been working on. Maybe that will come through for me and I will make more money with still getting benefits. Both jobs are close to home. Maybe the company cannot start an employee out very high on pay. I believe they are government funded. That could be why. You do get raises though. I feel as though I am starting from the bottom of the totem pole again. That is very hard to accept. All I can do is keep searching for a job that pays more money. I have some time before starting the job. Maybe this other job will come through for me.