How to think for yourself?
Do you have confidence in yourself? Do you think for yourself or you follow others blindly? Is thinking for yourself important for your relationship? How to think for yourself?
Research shows that one of the qualities that people look for in partners is confidence and the ability to think for themselves. Most couples, especially women want confident partners who are comfortable being themselves and able to make solid decisions. Couples don’t like it when their partners don’t know what they believe, follow other people’s advice blindly, and don’t make decisions because this kind of personality projects weakness.
One of my old neighbors used to mention that she hopes her husband make a decision on his own and think for himself. She mentions that at first, his “submissive” personality is one of the characteristics that attracted her to him because he is not controlling. However, now she is beginning to lose interest in him and finds herself alone when making decisions that pertain to their relationship.
What does she really want? She wants her husband to show confidence in himself and in his opinions. She wants him to think for himself. If he is confident, he won’t depend on his wife all the time to make a decision. People generally don’t find others who have weak personalities attractive. After all, would you follow someone who is not confident in himself and follow others blindly?
Thinking for yourself
To learn how to think for yourself, follow the quick guide below:
1. Read
One of the best things you can do to help you think for yourself is read about various topics to gain knowledge. As we all know, knowledge is power. The more knowledge you have, the more powerful you become. The more knowledge you gain, the more your thinking skills improve.
Despite the fact that I personally read mostly about personal development, I still make the time to read other topics such as politics, religions, history, marketing, humanities, computers, and among other topics.
2. Have an opinion
You were created on this earth for a purpose. People need your opinions and your views on different topics. Instead of following others blindly, learn to think for yourself. When you hear something, examine what is being said, then come up with your own conclusions.
As I discussed in my book “How to win your lovers’ heart” learning to think for yourself is one of the major characteristics that make you irresistible to the opposite sex and help you win your partner. 
3. Build your self confidence
As you might know, having self confidence is one of the major characteristics that couples love about each other. If you have a skill that you are not confident with, then practice to make it better. If you lack social skills, then start practice interacting with others. The more confident you become in yourself, the more you will learn to think for yourself as you will not be afraid to express your views to others and start making decisions in your relationship and life.
Always remember that learning to think for yourself is a characteristic that helps attract couples to each other and helps you win your lover’s heart.
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For more information, read:
You are responsible for your happiness
How to build healthy relationships
How to nurture a relationship?
Dia,
When we think for ourselves we find the keys to the greatest freedom possible. Thanks for this important reminder.
Alex
Hi Alex,
I agree my friend. Many people follow others blindly without thinking for themselves. As my old boss used to say, “I get paid for thinking.” Thinking is a crucial skill that is needed not only in our jobs, but in our relationships and life in general. Thanks Alex
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Hi Dia – everything you listed here has been critical for me learning to think for myself. I once found myself always hovering over the fence, not taking a side or being willing to stand up for what I believe in. But each of the points you shared above really helped me. And, of course maturity! Having an opinion is critical..absolutely critical!
Thanks for the another smash hit! With consistency, you always produce!
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Hi JK,
I think each one of us at some point in time where “hovering over the fence.” It is crucial that we an opinion about everything in life, otherwise, our personality stays weak and we end up living life like what others want. Thanks JK for your continuous support and your kind words
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hello dia
how are you?
thanks for sharing this topic on thinking for ourselves and your tips are quite helpful.
if we dont think for ourselves i strongly believe we would be led by the nose lol!!
having an opinion stands out for me. it’s important we have one because it constitutes to who we are and it makes us stay focused on the paths we intend to follow and this ensures we dont get swayed about too often by differences in view.
take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day
Hi Ayo,
You always bring humor to the posts and I like that
I agree Ayo we have to think for ourselves and develop our personalities as well. Otherwise, others will think for us and we take the back seat. Thanks Ayo
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Hi Dia,
Thinking for yourself is the difference between becoming a leader or remaining a follower. Developing critical thinking skills is essential. You always must be asking yourself challenging questions: “Is that really true”, “What would happen if I did this” etc.
To me confidence is skill that needs to be practiced and eventually mastered. You don’t begin life as a totally confident human being. You learn. And one of the things you learn is to put failure and set backs into proper perspective. The sun always comes up the next day.
Riley
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Hi Riley,
For sure thinking for yourself is crucial. It is a characteristic that people with high confidence have and for sure leaders have. Questioning and examining ideas is crucial. This is what helps to develop critical thinking skills.
In regards to confidence, the more we practice, the more we become confidence in ourselves. Changing our limiting beliefs, attitude, interpreting situations in a positive away among other things are all crucial. Thanks Riley
Dia recently posted..How to think for yourself
Excellent points Dia. I’ve found that acquiring more knowledge helps build my self-confidence, which allows me to articulate my opinion in a calm and confident manner. It also helps me to be open-minded too, for the more I know, the more I realize that I have much more to know
Thanks for sharing!
RB
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Hi Ryan,
Yep, acquiring more knowledge does help build self confidence. After all, knowledge is power, especially if we use it and apply it in life. This is why learning is a never ending process. We are all students of life. Thanks Ryan
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Love the simpleness of this, simple but ultra powerful Dia. My utmost conviction is that in today’s world so many people want to discover who and what they are and the first place to start is how to think for themselves. You’ve tapped into a need and provided firm foundations for further self-growth which can help people skyrocket their confidence. You always help and support and I love reading your work because of the way your inner spirit shines through.
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Hi John,
Exactly John, there are many people who want really to get to know themselves and know who they really are and what their purpose is. Knowing ourselves is a life journey that doesn’t end and we can find the answers to these questions by thinking for ourselves, instead of accepting everything that is being said and taught to us. Thanks John
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Hi Dia,
Great points, Dia. If we are not thinking for ourselves we are allowing the World-Voice to “Thunk” upon us. Our moments of greatest awakening comes when we realize that we have been valuing wrong opinions handed to us by the world. These moments awaken us to the fact that we can break free and think independently.
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Hi Rob,
I love what you said. Yes, many of our great moments come when we realize that we have many “wrong opinions” that have been limiting us for years. Once we realize, then we can start making plans to overcome these wrong and limiting opinions. To achieve this, we have got to think for ourselves. Thanks Rob
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Great post Dia, and a very intelligent take on self-esteem. We all need to think for ourselves. It’s criminal to have someone else, anyone else, think for us.
After all, our mind is the only thing that we control, so to give control of that away is highly foolish
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Hi Stuart,
Exactly Stuart we are responsible for our thoughts and we have got to take control of our life and our thoughts. When we allow others to think for us, we give them power over us and it is like saying, “your view or opinion is more important that mine.” This is why we have got to be proud of our views and opinions and never feel ashamed to express them in a polite and positive way of course. Thanks Stuart
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Hi Dia,
It is very important that you think for yourself. I was in a relationship where I had to make all the decisions and it does get old very quickly. You are right when you say that women want a man that has a mind of his own and can think for himself. We may not agree all the time, but it makes life much easier and funnier. Thank you Dia for reminding everyone to think for themselves. Everyones opinion is important. Debbie
Hi Debbie,
I hear you my friend. Yep women especially want a man to depend on and think for himself and be a leader instead of a follower. It is ok not to like everyone’s opinion, views, way of life etc… The key is respect. Thanks Debbie
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Dia,
You have outdone yourself with this one. Not only did you give great tips but you gave great examples. We have got to learn to think for ourselves and not let other people dictate our reactions. Great post!
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Thanks Frank, glad you liked it
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Dia,
I agree with your points. I especially agree with reading. We can change thought and behavior patterns due to new information not before realized. We must constantly be willing to learn in order to move forward.
Live it LOUD!
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Hi Dia,
Sometimes I have a tendency to be indecisive. When I get like this I get to asking my friends and family for their opinions. But what about my opinion? I’ve minimized my indecisive behavior by trusting my own opinions on things.
Thanks for this!
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The perfect person is the one who thinks in his own way ratehr than depending on others decisions. We should to a graeter extent be independent, unswayed by others thoughts, which often lead us on to the wrong path.
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Yeah, it is true that self confidence is a must. It is surely that we cannot enjoy the life if we not confidence on our self.
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