How to stop judging people?
Do you tend to judge others? How to stop judging people based on their appearance or behaviors?
Tim is an elderly man who was sitting with his 25 year old son, Mike in a train. Mike who was sitting near the window was very happy. He put his hands out of the windows and felt the breeze and said, “Look dad, we are passing beautiful trees.”
Next to Tim and his son, there was a couple who were listening to what Mike is saying in a surprised way.
Suddenly Mike shouted, “Look dad at the pond. It is so beautiful.” The couple continued to be surprised by Mike’s behavior. After all, he is 25 years old, not a child.
At the end, the couple broke their silence and asked Tim, “Why don’t you take your son to the doctor to treat him?” Tim answered, “We just came back from the hospital. He just started to see for the first time in his life.”
What is the purpose of this story? Aren’t there many people who tend to judge others based on their behaviors and looks just like these couples?
Isn’t time to stop judging people based on your assumptions.
Why do you judge others
Usually, people judge others due to their beliefs, insecurities, loneliness, past experiences or because they look for change.
However, judging others can be harmful, especially for ourselves, so we have to get to a point to accept others who are different than us just the way they are. This is the beauty of this world.
Imagine if we were all the same. How would the world be? Boring, right? It is the fact we are all different that makes each one of us unique.
How to stop judging people
Acceptance
To stop judging people, you need to first accept the fact is when you judge others, you are doing so based on your past experiences and beliefs. Just because you see them in a certain way, it doesn’t mean they are what you are judging them to be.
Raise your awareness
Raising your awareness means you have to know when you tend to judge others and on what? Do you tend to judge others based on their behavior? Looks? The way they dress?
This process involves understanding yourself and understanding your thoughts.
Train your thoughts
We often tend to think in a negative way, so it is not surprising that we judge others, often negatively.
Learn to train yourself to look for the positive in others. For every situation there is always something positive to think about. This can be hard at first, but with constant practice, it will become a positive habit in your life.
To stop judging others is a process that involves understanding yourself more, accepting yourself and others, raising your awareness, and learning to think of others in a positive way.
Remember what Carl Gustav Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
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This post really hit home for me. When my son was little, his autistic behavior often looked like naughty behavior. Maybe a sound hurt his sensitive ears, for example, and he would start crying. People could be very cruel by assuming that I was a terrible mother and that he was a bad kid. So I could completely relate to this story and your point about judging. When I see someone in a situation like that, I just think I have no idea what is really going on in their lives.
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Nice anecdote, Dia. There is no better way to reach the remarkable truth about your unlimited potential than to accept that we’ve been wrong about our harsh judgments. When we notice what’s wrong with our current opinions about others and take responsibility for them It gives us inner strength to make changes. It gives you inner strength to make changes. if we’re going to be judgmental, we might as well judge in our OWN favor, and deny the lies that have us harshly judging ourselves.
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Hi Dia,
Thank you for opening the eye’s of others. I have always thought and try to practice it, “Don’t jusge others until you have walked in there shoes.”
i have found when it comes to my adult children that some of the things they do I want to judge it, but I am not in there shoes and if they are making a mistake we all have to learn our way.
many times you can be in a store, you will see a child acting up. I always want to let the parent know that this is OK, because all parents deal with a toddlers behavior in public one time or another or with some many time over.
Now when it comes to your story about the father and 25 year old son. As i was reading it, I am thinking this is great, because the 25 year old knows how to enjoy nature and the beautiful things in this world. I though the kid was pretty smart.
Thank again for keeping us headed down the right path.
Blessings to you,
Debbie
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Beautiful post. This is so key to having a life full of well eing. And the mind can’t help but judge, so I also find it’s important to not judge oneself for having a mind that judges.
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