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How to save your relationship and marriage?

How to save your relationship and marriage?

Do you want to save your relationships and marriage? What are the steps that you need to do to have a healthy and successful relationship and marriage?

Every single day there are couples who face challenges and they search for ways not only to improve their marriage with their spouse, but also to save the marriage. Such couples are often helpless and don’t know what went wrong. In this article, I’m going to talk about some of the steps that couples need to do to save their relationship and marriage.

To save your relationship and marriage, follow the below steps:

1. Don’t only talk, take action

Many couples wonder what they could do to save their marriage. Research shows that there is a need to express your love to your spouse both verbally and by taking action. Usually women tend to express their love and appreciation verbally while men tend to express their love by acting such as providing for the house.  As I mentioned in my book “How to win  your lover’s heart” love and relationships need effort to succeed. 

2. Increase positive actions

You should stop doing something that is not working. Learn to do lots of positive activities that will help improve your relationship. Spend lots of times together and speak with compassion to your spouse all the time.

Why do some couples keep doing things that don’t work with their spouse? Before you say something, ask yourself these questions:

Is what I’m going to stay going to help the situation?
Is what I’m going to say going to help my relationship with my spouse?

If the answer is negative, then it is necessary to stop and say something else that is positive to help bring you two closer to each other.

 3. Focus on the similarities

Know that when you are in the state of resentment, you will forget the happy times you spent together and the reasons you fell in love with your partner. Research shows that when you are angry at your spouse, you tend to focus on what is wrong and the differences instead of focusing on the similarities. Start remembering the happy times you spent together and visit places that will remind the two of you with the love you had for each other.

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

For more information, read:

How to communicate with your partner?

How to make a relationship last and grow?

Stages of a relationship and marriage

Win your lover's heart The ultimate guide to achieve your goals How to have peace of mind


  1. Dandy says:

    Oh this is a fantastic post!! It is remarkable how a relationship can improve by focusing on the positives. It is so important to tell your partner nice things all the time. Even when one is in a bad mood. If you just give your partner a compliment when your feeling frustrated or upset it can totally change things around. The negative feelings just evaporate. I make a point to tell my partner something I appreciate about him before I go to sleep and as soon as I wake up. It lifts his spirits & mine.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Dandy,

      Exactlly, so much can be improved by focusing on the positives. It is a nice thing that you tell your partner something that you appreciate about him before you go to bed. :)

  2. Jk says:

    Dia – I think this article can be expounded beyond the “save” of a relationship to “build and maintain” a relationship.

    Wonderful tips.

  3. Kate says:

    Hi Dia,
    I agree wholeheartedly about taking action. I read something reccently (can’t remember where!) that love is a verb, not a feeling. So when we love someone we act on it, we treasure and cherish them, do things to make their lives easier and happier, not just have a feeling that we are in love.
    I think if everyone looked at relationships this way, they would all work much better!
    Have a great weekend,

    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      Exactly my friend, taking action is crucial and necessary to make a relationship work. We have to do something daily to improve our relationship with our spouse.

  4. Frank says:

    Saving a relationhip can be challenging work and requires effort from both parties. I thank you for sharing some very simple and practical tips to the people who may have this issue. I also think these are good tools to use to maintain a relationship as well. Great Post Dia.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Exactly my friend, saving a relationship and a marriage takes effort from both parties. Both have to be willing to take the necessary actions to save and improve the relationship

  5. Tisha says:

    Hi Dia,
    Great way of breaking down how doing just 3 simple things can make such a HUGE difference in a relationship. I love that the last point was focusing on the similarities because too many couples hold onto grudges about past hurts instead of remembering what was so endearing about their spouse in the beginning. Thanks for sharing some really straightforward and powerful relationship advice – many would do well to heed it!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Tisha,

      Focusing on the similarities is huge and makes things a lot easier. By focusing on the similarities, we are really focusing on the positive in our spouse.

  6. Keith Davis says:

    Hi Dia
    You don’t look old enough to be giving out great advice like this.
    You have to want to save that relationship first and then all the pieces will fall into place.

    Love the idea of “increasing positive actions” that has to be the thing to do.

    I don’t know… perhaps you’re older than you look. LOL

    • Dia says:

      Hi Keith,

      Glad you liked the article my friend. For sure wanting to save the marriage and the relationship is the first step. Both have to want to save the relationship.

      I will turn 31 in 2 months, so I am young 😀 But, on a serious note, I have been studying self-growth for over 10 years.