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How to restore love in a relationship

How to restore love in a relationship

What are the steps needed to restore love in a relationship and marriage? How to restore love in your relationship?

Thousands of couples look for different ways daily to restore love in their relationship after it hits bottom low. Some feel hopeless, some feel helpless, and some are hopeful. If you are in this position, then I have good news for you, there are many ways that you can use to restore love in your relationship.

Restoring love in a relationship

If your goal is to restore love in your relationship and marriage, then here are three solutions you can use:

1.  Nurture your relationship

Everything in life needs effort including relationships. Many couples make the mistake of making no effort to improve or enhance their relationship in any way. If you don’t do something almost on a regular basis to make your relationship better, then eventually the relationship dies and there will be no spark left.

This is why I advised such people to do the 10 minute exercise daily as I explained in my book “How to win your lover’s heart.” In this exercise, you agree with your partner that you two will spend around 10 minutes a day to nurture each other’s needs whether through cooking a meal together, taking a walk, or before you go to bed.

It is very important that you commit to doing this exercise daily. Never allow excuses such as “there is no time” to stop you from doing this exercise. Many relationships have ended due to the lack of nurturing, so make a solid decision to start giving your relationship the time it deserves.

We humans need to love, affection, care, and compassion on a daily basis. Express your love to your partner by saying “I love you” not in a mechanical way, but in a sincere way. Feel the emotions as you are saying it and really mean it.

2.  Show your sense of humor

One of the main reasons your partner became attracted to you when you two first got together and dated, is your sense of humor as studies show that sense of humor is among the top qualities people like in their partner.

Instead of being rigid or negative about life, start to loosen up and begin to have fun with whatever comes your way. Laugh at your own mistakes, stop taking what others say to you personally, and smile a lot.

3.  Improve your looks

Believe it or not, taking care of how you look does help restore your relationship. Your looks are the first things your partner noticed about you when you two met and there is a big possibility that he was attracted to you because of your looks.

Dressing well and taking care of your outer appearance shows to your partner that you love and take care of yourself. After all, how can you take care of others when you don’t take care of yourself first?

One of the most common causes for people losing interest in their partner is not taking care of their physical appearance. Many couples unfortunately stop taking care of their looks after they get married and have children. Excuses like I have no time, the children need my help, I’m too tired are among the excuses that many couples use on a daily basis for not taking care of their appearance, so be sure to avoid such excuses.

Realize that taking care of your physical appearance doesn’t have to take much time and in return you will feel better about yourself and you will remind your partner how you used to take care of your looks when you two first met.

As you can see restoring love in your relationship is possible once you start working on nurturing your relationship regularly, showing your sense of humor, and taking care of your looks.

Remember making a lasting positive change in your relationship doesn’t come from reading my articles or any other article for that matter. Real change comes only when you start applying what you read, so become a doer and restore the love that you need in your relationship with your partner by taking action. 😉

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

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  1. rob white says:

    Good tips, Dia. There is nothing more rewarding than harmonious relationships. These relationships are a consequence of ‘peace of mind’, which comes about by applying and nurturing that natural sense of wonder we fall in love with. Our relationships are puzzles with no specific instructions attached, but adhering to principles that have us express naturally and spontaneously is a winning formula, indeed!
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  2. Hey Dia,
    I really agree with spending at least 10 minutes a day nurturing the needs of our partner. This really does add some intimacy and connection that helps our partner feel appreciated.
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  3. Sibyl says:

    Really important message here Dia and I think you do such a great job of explaining it and pointing us all in the right direction. It is so true that we have to nurture a relationship. It is not just going to continually move in the right direction on auto-pilot.
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  4. Hi Dia,

    There seems to be a belief in our society that we have no control over how our relationships go. When they go bad, we break up. But, as you so rightly pointed out here, we absolutely have the power to rekindle love, and keep a relationship alive by focusing on each other. :)

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  5. Frank says:


    This is an on time read as we all have to work to keep our relationships strong. I have found out that my relationship is only as strong as the effort and attention I put into it. Many times recently I have being working frantically to find a way to restore the spark in my personal relationship. It is just so easy to allow our relationships to become routine. I don’t want my relationships to be a routine. Thanks for this post. I needed to read it.
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  6. Adrienne says:

    These are all good tips Dia. Unfortunately I don’t have a relationship to apply any of these tips to at the moment. lol… But hey, when I do I’m definitely coming over to your place for any tips I might need since it’s been a very long time.

    Always enjoy reading what you share with us.

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  7. Kristina L. says:

    Hi, Dia,
    oh, sure, the one with improving looks always works! And changing styles, as well. It’s a full refreshment for a relationship.
    Honestly, I didn’t know humor is responsible for good relationship and is rated very high between couples-I think this is something more that is involving women and their reaction to humor (women appreciate good humor of their partners), while guys are more to pay attention to women’s looks and therefore, changing or improving looks of their wives will have a great effect. Men are more visual then women, after all.
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  8. allexaU says:

    Loving this post and I super 100% agree on everything that is written here about keeping your relationship like burning fires. I am 4years marriage and keeping and counting more years. Relationship is a matter of how you value it.
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  9. Maria Pavel says:

    Great points here! Overall, make all things positive. Entertaining too much negativity in a relationship can ruin couples’ connection to each other. Much better if couples will help each other to grow. For example, boys need to let their girls know their thoughts about their looks so they could improve more. On the part of girls, they shouldn’t be too sensitive if boys share their honest opinions.
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  10. Lynn Sanders says:

    And believe it or not, studies have shown that once entered into a relationship, people tend to forget to take care of themselves anymore. This stands for both men and women. They don’t dress the same, they stop putting on makeup, etc.
    Getting back to doing all these small things again, showing you care, can help a lot.
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  11. Richard says:

    Most of us tend to forget ourselves, to be ourselves when we’re into a relationship. Based on my personal experience, I lost my sense of humor when I had my recent relationship coz I become more serious by then. From then on, all conversations ended up to quarrels. Absolutely, not a healthy way to live with my partner.
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