How to overcome fear of failure
Are you afraid of failure? Did you give up on your goals because of your fear? How to overcome fear of failure?
Fear of failure is common among people. Everyone wants to achieve success, but the ones who do become successful are the brave ones who are willing to challenge fear. These kinds of people are the ones who took action and did whatever they can to achieve their goals. However, people who’s fear defeated them, kept thinking and dreaming about their goals without challenging fear of failure.
Overcoming fear of failure
To learn how to overcome fear of failure, follow the steps below:
1. Recognize your fear of failure
Look and examine your life. Ask yourself when did you stop going after your goals because of your fear of failure? Be honest with yourself. If you stopped doing something or if you stopped yourself from going after your goals because you are afraid to fail, then know you have fear, which you need to overcome.
2. Decide to win
Everything in life starts with making a solid decision. Decide now that you will not allow fear to stop you from achieve your goals and success. Many people become afraid of failure because they have failed in the past and made mistakes. They think they are responsible for everything that went wrong and usually make things worse than they really are.
3. Take action against the fear
Strong fear prevents you from taking any action and from taking the first step. This strong fear makes you believe that your attempts to reaching your goals are going to go in vain. Remember if you fail, that is fine. The important thing is to keep trying. When you learned to walk as a child, you fell many times, but you stood up and tried again until you were able to walk. Do the same with your goals.
4. Find alternatives
There are several factors that contribute to your success or your failure when you do something. Pay attention to what steps you take. If you take some steps and don’t get the desired results, then change what you are doing, so you can get different results. The important thing to remember not to link your mistakes with who you are.
5. Move forward
When you have a goal that you want to achieve, you are going to come across some people who will tell you not to bother with your goals, or you will not succeed, or you are a dreamer. Ignore such people and focus on what you want to accomplish.
6. Overcome negative thinking
Instead of filling your head with negative thoughts that will cause you doubt and fear, fill your head with optimism and examine your negative beliefs. Other people as successful, so why not you? If other people could become successful, then you can.
7. Learn from your past experiences
The lessons you learn from your experiences are very beneficial for your growth. Study the reasons that caused you to fail and to not get the desired results and learn from them.
Remember what Arthur Ashe said, “Every time you win, it diminishes the fear a little bit. You never really cancel the fear of losing; you keep challenging it.”
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Number 2 really hits home for me. It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by Bill Cosby. “Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.” Many of my accomplishments were made with the presence of fear.
I like this post very much, because I got to the point in my life some years back when I made a decision that I was not going to let fear be the driving force in my life. I got to the point, as Lisa says, that I wanted change in my life more than I was afraid of it. That is a great way to say it.
Hi Golden Pearl,
Glad that you were able to challenge your fear. Once we decide passionatly to go after what we want and desire, fear tend to lose its power.
Hi Lisa,
Yea making a decision is really crucial. If we decide to go after we want and challenge our fear, we will get what we want.
Hi Dia! This is a much needed post. Fear of failure is a very common fear and it can stop us in our tracks. I love #6. When we conquer our negative thoughts and reverse them to positive and empowering thoughts the sky is the limit. Our attitude and the way we see ourselves is a great starting point towards achieving.
Thanks for the powerful insights. Loving blessings!
Hi Andrea,
Exactly my friend, when we switch our negative thoughts to positive, this helps us get closer to our goals and helps to reduce and in some cased eliminate fear. After all, thoughts are power.
Dia – this was a great topic, and your iteration of how to overcome fear was well thought out and written. The point that stuck out to me the most is “Decide to win”. Winning IS a decision. Just as it’s a decision to be fearful. Deciding to go in the opposite direction of fear provides the separation needed to overcome it.
Great job Dia!
Hi JK,
You are right my friend, once we decide to win, then we can stand in the face of fear and achieve our goals. I remember a millionare once said, that the first thing he did to become a millionare is make a decision to become one. We really do have to make a solid decision to conquer our fear of failure and achieve success.
Great post, Dia!
I think that learning from past experiences is especially important. And not only your own experiences, but others’ experiences too. I mean, out of all the people on the planet, you can bet someone else has gone through what you’re going through and can help.
Hi Tristan,
For sure learning from other’s experiences can help us overcome our fear of failure. Since we are all humans, we all experience similar situations.
All good strategies here Dia.
For me, the way I go about silencing my fear is doing it anyway. Sometimes we can talk ourselves out of doing something because we think its too hard, but when we begin, and then do it, we find the fear was only an excuse and not a reality.
Alex
Hi Alex,
Yea taking action against our fear of failure is crucial. Once we take the first step, we find that fear is becoming less. After all, practice makes perfect.
Feeling you here Dia. I do have to be honest though, I have a fear, and really it’s only one fear—- That when all is said and done, I’ll look back and say, “I could have done more.”
Hopefully, I’ll look back and know that I did what I could do….no regrets.
Thanks for the post buddy.
Hi Marcus,
Most of us when we look back, we say “I wish I could have done more.” Hopefully, most of us start taking action now and live in the present, so we won’t get to this point.
Love the post. We conquer failure when we decide to win. And i already see you at the finish line my friend.
Thanks Jonathan,
Deciding to win is crucial. It is really necessary for overcoming our fear of failure.
Hi Dia,
This post really resonated with me. My fears of failure have held me back. These stradegies you mention are wonderful. Overcoming negative self-talk has helped me greatly. The things I used to say to myself were awful & I have put a stop to that. Since then I see I deserve the good things I earn! Thanks Dia. You’re wonderful!!
Dandy
Hi Dandy,
Self talk is really crucial. For sure my friend, you do deserve everything good and positive in your life. When start talking to ourselves in a positive way, this really helps diminish our fears includeind our fear of failure.
Good post, Dia. If only humanity could realize that failure is one of the best teaching tools around, there would truly be nothing we couldn’t accomplish! I did a post on this a few weeks ago and I think you added a lot of stuff I wish I had thought of.
Hi Bryan,
Exactly, if we all learn that challenging our fears is crucial to success, we all would challenge our fear of failure and then start seeing our dreams coming true.
Yes, Dia. Limiting decisions we have made in the past are traitors to our dreams today. We become hesitant to try anything new for fear of failure. Making an immovable decision can challenge any fears we harbor in mind.
Hi Rob,
Exactly limiting decisions can really harm us and rob us from our dreams. Once we overcome our limiting decisions and decide to win, then we will achieve our goals and success.
Fear is like monsters under the bed when we were young as kids – not there in reality but scary as hell in the mind. Fear can grip us and without moving past it can last a lifetime. So your mini-strategy for kicking fear to the kerb is a good ‘un Dia. I like the thought of keep moving forwards (or sideways); just keep moving and never let fear get on your back. That way you take yourself out of the shadows and into the light when everything makes sense and feels good. Wise advice Dia, well crafted my friend.
Hi John,
Exactly my friend, moving forward is really crucial if we want to overcome our fear of failure. I like the analogy you mentioned “fear is like monsters under the bed…” This is so true
Most of the fears that I have conquered have been done by doing just what I feared the most. “By doing what you fear you rob the fear of its power.” I learned that being nervous is normal and that confidence can eliminate fear.
Hi Frank,
Taking action is for sure crucial to overcome fear including fear of failure.
excellent tips, i would just like to add that, decisions are made on the basis of logical and rational thinking and hence do not stop on fear, do it if you know it is the rational thing to do.
Year for sure when make a decision, it should be logical, otherwise, it might not benefit us. Thanks for your comment
Hi Dia,
‘Take action against fear.’ I believe this is the answer for me…I sometimes hide my fear of failure deep inside the fog of clutter in my mind and daily life. They need to be hunted out of their hiding place and given a good airing before we can move forward. My personal decluterring starts now! Thanks for great tips Dia!
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