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How to nurture a relationship?

How to nurture a relationship?

Do you really need work on your relationship with your partner? Does love really need work and effort? Are there ways to make a relationship work? How to nurture a relationship?

Jennifer mentions that after her relationship with her partner passed the dating stage, coldness and lack of intimacy has become part of their relationship. The connection between them is not as it was when they were dating as her partner stopped spending time with her like before, stopped being close to her, and stopped being affectionate like before.

Does that sound familiar? There are many couples who stop working on their relationship because they come up with all different excuses such as:

  • There is not enough time
  • Relationships don’t need work and effort
  • All relationships change after the dating phase and affection decreases
  • My partner already knows that I love her, so why should I keep saying it?

If you want to have a happy and healthy relationship, then you have got to nurture your relationship with your lover. Now, let me ask you something, when you have children, do you let your children grow up by themselves or do you start nurturing them, taking care of them, guiding them, and helping them?

Love and relationships just like many things in life need consistent effort and work. This is why I explained in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that nurturing your relationship with your partner and making consistent effort is a major key to winning your partner’s heart and to having a successful relationship.

No time for a relationship

I can hear you say “there is not time for our relationship.” However, this is not true, you always have time if you want to work on your relationship with your partner. The key is to create a balance in your life and to manage your time effectively. If your relationship with your partner is crucial for you, then you will find the time to make your relationship work and prosper.

One of the exercises that I mentioned in “How to win your lover’s heart” is the 10 minute exercise. For example, from now on, make a decision to spend around 10 minutes a day with your partner and really connect with each other.

The key of this exercise is to be 100% mentally connected with your partner. Forget about your worries, your job, your friends, your children and focus on each other for those 10 minutes. If you two are fully connected, then I can guarantee you that this exercise will do wonders for your relationship with your partner.

Always remember that “Love is like a flower; with proper nurturing it blooms and flourishes as each day passes. Yet, if it is neglected, in a moment’s time it soon withers and dies.”

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

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  1. True words Dia.

    The condition of a relationship is based on what is invested into it. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and we still work on our relationship because it’s still changing and growing!


  2. rob white says:

    Indeed agreed, Dia. Time will expand or contract depending on our priorities. Busy people have time for wonderful, loving relationships because the time they invest is mindful and meaningful. The greatest gift we can give a loved one is our full presence… joy and harmony is always the experience if love is the center of attention.
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  3. Frank says:


    I am grateful I was able to read this post today. I love the exercise that you shared. It sounds like a true game changer. I can testify that in a true relationship that it requires a ton of work and commitment. In order to live happily ever after sometimes you have to learn how to make sacrifices that can be uncomfortable and be willing to but the needs of someone else before your own. So I agree with you. If you don’t have time you have to make time. If you don’t feel like saying I love you, you need to say it anyway.

    Thanks for sharing these tips my friend and I have yet to purchase my book yet but I will do so in the near, near future.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Exactly my friend. I like what you said, “If you don’t feel like saying I love you, you need to say it anyway.” this is so Frank. We have got to nurture the relationship and practice to be kind rather than being right. Thanks Frank
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  4. Dia, right on my friend. Relationships don’t happen without a clear-cut plan and the time to implement that commitment. It’s important that we understand going into it that it’s not all about us. It’s about our partner just as much. If we’re committed to giving the other person our love and commitment, we will show them in a way we know matters to them!

    Thanks for your commitment to help, buddy!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Bryan,

      Exactly my friend, we have to plan how we are going to make the relationship grow with our partner. We should do something daily, so the relationship can blossom. After all, a day gone is a day lost… Thanks Byran
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  5. Jk Allen says:

    Hey Dia! Like you, I too think that relationships require nurturing. For this very reason, I say that most instances of human love are not unconditional as we typically throw out there. If they were unconditional, nurturing wouldn’t be required.

    Anyway…I’m glad that you brought up “time”, because I’ve seen too many friends use it as a scapegoat. But when their relationship ends, and they have ALL THE TIME INT HE WORLD, they realize that they too advantage of their situation (relationship).

    Great post as usual Dia. Thanks for sharing!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi JK,

      Exactly my friend. I agree with you, unfortunately more than 99.5% of relationships are not unconditional, this is why we need to nurture a relationship. I believe if someone starts practicing unconditional love, let say 80% of the time, then he or she is on the right path and is nurturing his relationship. Even doing small things to our partner daily could make a huge difference in the relationship. Thanks JK
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  6. Wow, what an important subject this is Dia. I’m not sure if you’ve ever read the book “The Five Love Languages”, but it’s a book that has changed my life in many ways, as it helped my wife and I better understand the way we individually receive love.

    The problem for most couples is that they give love in the manner that they’d like to receive it– which is really not the right way to go about it. We must show love in the way the other person wants to receive it.

    Powerful stuff, as always Dia.

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    • Dia says:

      Hi Marcus,

      Unfortunately, I haven’t read this book, thanks for mentioning it Marcus as I love to read everything that is beneficial. Now, it is on my list 😉

      You have mentioned something very powerful Marcus, “We must show love in the way the other person wants to receive it.” How relationships would be if we all practice this sentence my friend? Unfortunately, alas….Thanks Marcus
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  7. John Sherry says:

    EVERY relationship needs constant care especially the one with ourselves. All hearts need looking after and the love has to keep on flowing. After all, what you give you get back, right Dia?
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    • Dia says:

      Hi John,

      Exactly my friend. Everyone needs to be looking after. You are right John, we get what we give, this is why we should give as much as we can because this is what we will get my friend. Thanks John
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  8. Joe Wilner says:


    Great stuff, the new book looks wonderful! Much of building and enhancing relationships comes from understanding where the other person is coming from. In particular, realizing how their past emotional baggage and our own personal baggage come together and possible cause problems. We all have wounds and learning how to deal with these is one crucial area for healthy relationships.

  9. Dia says:

    Hi Joe,

    Understanding where the other person is coming from is crucial as it makes things a lot easier. The key is to make effort and nurture the relationship daily, so it prospers. Thanks Joe
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  10. Stuart says:

    Rock on Dia! I agree with you here, every relationship needs constant nurturing for it to blossom. It’s just like any other living organism; you can’t just start it up and then leave it to its own devices! Give it tender loving care, and it will respond in kind :-)

    • Dia says:

      Hi Stuart,

      For sure Stuart, every relationship needs nurturing, otherwise the relationship stays where it is. Thanks Stuart

  11. I think you have accept that there are many models for a successful marriage. My first marriage didn’t work and my second marriage is indispensable to my happiness and yet I’ve remained the some person throughout both marriages. So marrying the right person with the right temperament goes a long ways in insure the success of a happy relationship. When you love someone (in a healthy way) the nurturing comes naturally

    • Dia says:

      Hi Riley,

      Yes when you love someone in the healthy way, things will be way easier as you give from your heart without expecting much in return. However, for the majority of relationships, nurturing a relationship is crucial for the success of it. Thanks Riley :)