How to make people like me
How to make people like me? Why don’t they want to be my friends? How to attract harmonious relationships?
We humans love to be liked by others and we love to be admired, there is no doubt about it. What you have to realize is that it is ok to want to be liked by other people as long as it doesn’t turn to a need. If you say I need to be liked by someone and you are going to collapse if you don’t get it, then you are seeking approval.
Kelly doesn’t have many friends and she feels that people don’t like her because according to her she is boring and dull. Kelly says people tend to always brush her off and toss her aside. She wonders how she can make people like her and enjoy her company, so let’s help her out. 
How to make people like me
If your goal is to learn how to make people like you, then follow the outline below:
1. Change how you view yourself
The first step to making others like you is for you to like and love yourself. You have to be able to see in your mind that people already love to be around you and love your company. It all begins with your mind.
I’m sure you are saying right now this is great, but how can I change my view about myself? Glad you asked!
One of the best methods I personally found helpful and brings lasting change in changing your view about yourself is through the use of meditation and visualization.
Sit in a quiet place and imagine people are taking to you politely. See their face and their facial expression. Feel the enjoyment while they are talking to you. Hear their voices and the actual positive words they use.
Repeat this process daily until it becomes ingrained in your subconscious mind and you get the actual results you are seeking. Remember, you have got to have faith in the process in order for it to work. Read “does visualization really work” to see what I have achieved through the use of creative visualization.
2. Respect
One of the main elements to making people like you is to show them respect, but what does respect mean? Respect means you have to respect their opinions even if you disagree with them. Respect their culture, background, interests, family, political views and religion. In short, you have to respect their humanity.
I can hear you say “but I don’t like them.” The fact of the matter is you don’t have to like everyone. There is no one that is liked by everyone and that is fine. A difference of opinions, life styles, religion, etc… is a good thing. All you have to do is respect these differences and you will make people like you more as they will see you respect them even if you disagree with them.
3. Help them out
Helping others is one of the most effective ways to win and make people like you. Helping each other in life is crucial to make everyone a winner.
One of the main reasons I was liked at my old job is due to the fact that I used to help many of my colleagues when they needed to. They would call me a coach or consultant because of the help that I would offer them and in return, I got their love. After all, who does not like to be helped?
If you offer people your help, respect, and change your perspective about yourself and people, then you will begin to attract harmonious relationships and you will never ask the question “How to make people like me” ever again.
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Three good ideas Dia.
Another idea that works for me is confidence. When I come across as being secure and confident then my attraction level increases, too.
Sometimes to get others to like us, we need to be sure we like ourselves first.
Alex
Hi Alex,
Confidence for sure helps increase our attraction level and people love that about us.
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I love this post Dia. I have a friend that is having a hard time with this right now. I may have to send him this.
When I got married he no longer wanted to hang out. Now he is being excluded from a new group of friends that he made after several of the friends his age got married.
I reached out to him recently after hearing his troubles on Facebook.
Thanks for sharing this.
Bryce
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Hi Bryce,
Building relationships and making others like us can also be achieved by spending time with others. If your friend tries to spend sometime with his friends, this will help others feel more confortable with us and like us.
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Hi Dia,
I’ve seen you around commenting on other blogs, but this is the first time I’ve gotten around to commenting on yours.
You have a nice post here. One thing I’d like to add on the first point of “changing how you view yourself” is that, besides visualization, it would also help a great deal to do three more things:
1. Start counting your blessings and all the things that make you unique and special, however small those blessings might be.
2. Stop comparing yourself with others and trying to imitate them. Be unique. If that doesn’t make them like you, then they are not the ones who you should be worried about.
3. Stop trying to satisfy people. This goes hand in hand with the second point. Don’t try to make people love you. Just be yourself, and be good to people in general. Those who like you will eventually find you.
Just my two (er, three) cents…
Keep up the great writing!
Cheers,
Mark
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Hi Mark,
Welcome here
I agree with you 100% that counting our blessings is crucial. This is an act of humbleness that makes others like and respect us. Also, when we stop comparing ourselves with others, people will begin to see how we love ourselves and hence start to like us more. Thanks Mark
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Hi Dia,
I don’t care what anyone says, it feels good when we are liked/loved by others.
I found that being authentic is one way to like ourselves more and when we like ourselves others are sure to do the same.
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Hi Justin,
Being authentic for sure is a great way to make others like us. After all, if we don’t like ourselves how can others like us? Thanks my friend
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Hi Dia,
Three great points. No 1 is a starting point, look at yourself first, who are you, what are you projecting?
Thanks for this.
be good to yourself
David
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Hi David,
Exactly, first we should start with ourselves. As the law says, “As within so without.” Thanks David
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If people don’t like you that’s not a problem as long as you do no harm to them. Just be yourself.
Hi Christy,
Yea seeking people’s approval is something that we should avoid, but enhancing the ways to make others like us is a good thing. We all want to be liked by others as long as it doesn’t become a need.
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Hey Dia!
Its been a long time since I’ve been able to make it back to your blog! Feels a bit refreshing to be here.
Interesting article here though, because many people will fight to the death to say they don’t care what people say/think about them or if people like them or not, but we all know that’s not true.
Like Justin said, It feels good to be liked. The awesome part about this is to have enough self esteem and confidence in ourselves that it doesn’t phase us when we aren’t liked by someone. Yea it may suck for a second or two, but life goes on.
Those are some great tips you listed about how to be liked and its a great start, but becareful because people can always tell when one is trying too hard. I say just be yourself and the “real” friends will come along.
So as for Kelly, who cares if she’s dull, some people like dull, its a nice change from all the chaos that goes on all around us
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Hi Chelsea,
Yea we all want to be liked. It is part of humanity. As long as the want to be liked doesn’t turnt to a need, then it is ok.
We all can enhance ourselves to make others like us more. Thanks Chelsea
Dia recently posted..My relationship is breaking what do I do
Hi Dia
Nice list. I like that confidence was added, and agree with Justin that authenticity plays an important role. When we are being our genuine self, we invariably invite others to do the same, and are unwilling to partake in games requiring less than our truest self. Nice post!
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Hi Antonia,
I agree with you, when we are ourselves and confident in who we are, we tend to attract others to us. People tend to love others who are confident and comfortable in themselves. Thanks Antonia
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Hi, Dia!
I have to say I don’t try to impose myself to others in order for them to like me. It seems to me I was doing that when being a teenager-always wanted that others admire me. But, now I am just natural,and whoever has problem with it, doesn’t have to like me. I really don’t mind-I do not wish to adapt myself or my behavior to everyone.
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Hi Kristina,
Exactly my friend. Not everyone has to like us and we should make it a goal to make everyone like us. As long as we stay true to ourselves and stop being needy, then others will like us. Once we accept that there will be people that like us and some that don’t, we are on the right track.
We all want others to like us, but what we have to realize is if someone doesn’t like us, then that if fine and we shouldn’t get upset. As long as it doen’t turn to be a “need” then we are fine.
Dia recently posted..My relationship is breaking what do I do
Hi Dia,
Short and sharp tips for us all to be better person. But I am sure you are a much better person than the three points you just pointed out. Why don’t you show us more about yourself so we can lift ourselves higher.
Cheers
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Hi Jimmy,
Thanks for your comment and welcome here. You will learn more about me in the coming posts.
Thanks Jimmy
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Dia,
Wonderful suggestions here! If we show respect, are honest, and are kind to others we are likely to have healthy relationships. I think many people run into the issue of a lack of self-confidence and insecurities, so this is certainly a place to start when interacting with others. It is difficult to make a positive impression we aren’t comfortable in our own skin. This is an important part of the package along with trust, respect, and kindness.
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Hi Joe,
Exactly, if we are not comfortable in ourselves, then it will be hard to make others like us and enjoy our company. It all start from within. Thanks Joe
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Being a great example plus being nice to everybody are two of the most effective ways to win other’s heart… In this business industry, it is important for everybody to work on themselves, make necessary improvements, to be loved by others in order to increase their charisma or literally their convincing power.
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