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How to make a relationship last and grow?

How to make a relationship last and grow?

Many couples wonder how to make their relationship last for ever. Studies show that more than 50% of marriages end up in divorce. Did you ask yourself why that is the case? What happened to the old times where people used to stay together for ever? Time has changed and now there are many issues that contribute to the failure of a relationship.

To make a relationship last, follow the below guidelines:

1. Learn to communicate with your partner

Learn to listen to he/she says without judgment. Your partner might have different opinion than you and that is fine. You can’t make your partner accept your opinion if he/she does not want to. Be interested and sympathetic because you should care about your partner concerns.

2. Appreciate the other person

If your partner does something special for you, thank him/her. If your partner makes you a special meal, appreciate the effort. This is a simple thing, but it shows that you appreciate your partner.

3. Trust

Building trust between you and your partner is essential to making the relationship work and last. You have to be honest with your partner about your intentions and actions. Don’t try to hide things because remember truth will always comes out. Always remember “honesty is the best policy.”

4. Spending time together-

Couples must spend time together alone at least once a week. I know you say you are busy with work, children, house errands among other things and there is not much time. The truth of the matter is there is always time. We all have 24 hours every single day. Why don’t you get up half an hour earlier than usual and eat breakfast together? What about running errands together? I know many families where the wife takes care of the household chores and the husband does the grocery shopping. It is best to collaborate and do the house chores together and go do the grocery shopping together.

5. Keep things private-

All couples argue and quarrel. This is the spice of life. There is not one single relationship that does not have arguments. Remember to keep all arguments private 

between you and your partner. A lot of couples when they have arguments, they start telling parents or friends about their arguments. This is not healthy because if you tell your mother for example, the chances are she will interfere in your relationship and your relationship with your partner becomes worse. If you have an argument, agree to solve it between both of you in your own home, not in front of people.

6. Don’t change your partner-

Many couples try to change something about their partner that they don’t like which could harm the relationship as I discussed in my book “How to win your lover’s heart.”  If you don’t like something about your partner, tell him/her about your concerns, but don’t force him/her to do something they don’t want. If you don’t like the fact that your partner doesn’t exercise for example, you can talk to him/her about it. You can explain the benefits of joining the gym, but you should not force him/her to exercise. Another example, if your partner dresses sloppy and you want him/her to pay more attention to the way he/she dresses, suggest that to them and then it is up to them to take your advice or not.

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

For more information, read:

How to save your relationship and marriage

How to build healthy relationships

6 steps to improve your relationship with your spouse

Win your lover's heart The ultimate guide to achieve your goals How to have peace of mind


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  2. Dia says:

    Thanks Emerilyn. I will let you know if I know someone

  3. So why feel good about yourself to help improve relations? Because when you have an inner feeling of love (and focus on that), situations and people that have a similar feeling of love is brought to you. For your accepting who you are, others will accepted for who you are. The relationships that you want to improve will improve if you want to feel those feelings to others in your life to feel about you. ” You know that old saying, “Treat others as you would like to be treated.” By having this attitude, every relationship in your life will improve, but does not have to improve.

  4. Dia says:

    Thanks Jamey, You are absolutly right. If we have an inner feelin gof love and happiness, then this is what we will attract into our life. Thanks for sharing

  5. Frank says:

    In my own marriage I have had a lot of success by doing something unexpected at least once a week. I try to spend as much time and energy getting to know what she needs (material) and what she wants and make sure I go above and beyond to make her feel as great and happy as I do by just being around her. #1 I feel is hte most important place to start. I guess that is why you put it first. lol!

  6. Dia says:

    I think doing unexpected every week is a nice thing to do Frank. It is for sure one of the best things people should do to make a relationship last and grow

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  9. For me , to be able to achieve strong relationship, trust is the most important thing we should bear in mind once there is no trust relationship with partner will go nowhere. trust will test our mind , body and soul. love and care is included , we should never forget these things. because it will guide us to good relationship.
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  10. Tshilidzi sigwadi says:

    I wou like to thank u Dia for this article, it had thought me a lot.