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How to make a relationship better?

How to make a relationship better?

Are you one of the many people who look for ways to grow their relationship? Do you know how to have a healthy relationship? How to make a relationship better and grow?

Every relationship goes through some arguments and miscommunication from time to time as each person has his own opinions, beliefs, point of view about the world.

Many couples insist that their opinion, point of view, or the way they look at things is the correct way and other opinions are wrong. This kind of mindset contributes greatly to relationship problems.

Jennifer mentions that her partner believes he is right all the time regarding various issues and that her opinion is not important nor needed. She goes on to mention that the way her partner looks at things is very different from the way she looks at things. Sounds familiar?

Making a relationship better

There are many ways and methods you can use to learn how to make a relationship better. In this article, I will mention two of these ways:

  • Know each other’s definition and view about life issues
  • Nurture your relationship

Know each other’s definition and view about life issues

One of the biggest relationship problems happen due to misunderstandings and not knowing what each person thinks about issues in life. Take a couple, for example, each of them sees love as an important aspect in their relationship, yet each one of them views love differently.

The man, for instance, might view love as giving his partner protection and care where the woman might view love as sacrifice and giving. The man might believe his wife loves him when she listens to him where the woman might believe the time her partner spends with her as love. Do you see the difference? Love is one issue, yet each one of them views it in a different way.

As I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that couples have preconceptions about love, relationships, marriage, children, and life issues in general, which is why it is indispensable for couples to know and understand how each one of them thinks, believes, and views these kinds of issues.

Pick a day, if you haven’t done already and discuss certain topics. Ask questions like:

1. What is your definition about love?

2. What kind of compliments you would like to receive?

3. How do you know that you are appreciated and loved?

The list goes on and on…

These questions are very necessary to making a relationship better. You also might be surprised what kind of answer you will receive from your partner.

Nurture your relationship daily

As I mentioned in my previous article, “How to nurture a relationship that relationships take and need work.  You can’t expect your relationship to grow and get better if you don’t nurture it daily.

Making the mistake that many couples make like saying “there is no time,” “this is how I am” are all excuses for not doing what is necessary to help your relationship grow. For example, if you make it a habit to spend around 15 minutes a day with each other and fully be engaged with your partner, you will start noticing how your relationship starts to improve, get better, and grow.

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

For more information, read:

What is conditional love?

How to mend a broken relationship?

Emotional security in a relationship

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  1. Sibyl says:

    Really good advice you have here Dia. I particularly appreciated the list of questions and your recommendation to keep the lines of communication very open. I think that is crucial and really can help maintain and keep any relationship on track.

  2. rob white says:

    Great tips, Dia. Our job as a communicator is to make sure we are understood. If we ever feel misunderstood it is up to us to take responsibility for not communicating well. When we take 100% responsibility for everything we are trying to communicate we can have healthy and happy relationships — strong relationships don’t rely on mind reading!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      Exactly my friend. I couldn’t have said it better. It is our responsibility for making sure others understand us. Taking 100% responsibility is crucial, not only in relationships but in life in general. Thanks Rob
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  3. Hey Dia,
    Great topic. Relationships with ourselves and others is the foundation of well-being. It helps when we are able to be open and honest with our partners without having to walk on eggshells.

    Like anything else in life it takes consistent focus and action in order to improve.
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  4. John Sherry says:

    Relationships are all about meeting each other half way Dia so that you can live as one all the way. We need to trust, open up, share, care, and understand. They challenge us more than most things in life but give us back more than we can ever have dreamed. What I’ve learnt fullest in life has been not when I’m on my own, but when I’m in a relationship and baring all I have. Life isn’t meant to be lived alone and it’s in our DNA to be with another!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi John,

      I like what you said. Exactly relationships need care, honesty, care, and understanding. The key is to apply these concepts in our relationships my friend. Then, we will be on the road to success. 😉 Thanks John
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  5. Well done Dia! Relationships are always best right at the beginning. Why? Because we focus almost exclusively on all the good stuff. Over time, we start to nitpick and look for what’s wrong with our partner. For me, part of the formula for a successful relationship is definitely in continuously focusing on the things I like about my partner.

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    • Dia says:

      Hi Melody,

      Exactly my friend, usually at the beginning, we focus on all prosperity and the good stuff, but usually after a while, the majority start focusing on the negative and start being picky. The key is to keep our focus on the good qualities. Thanks Melody
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  6. I believe in what you said there at the end, in every way. Take the time to do something, lots of things, that are kind for your significant other often. And in every relationship, culture that kindness and service.

    I’ve heard it once said that no relationship will go far unless you both believe yourselves to be lucky to have the other. I love that.

    This is a great post to help remind me, right at the start of my week, to be a little better. To love a little more and to give of myself to others in deeper and more meaningful ways. It’s so important to do so.

    One of the saddest things to see, so I’ve been told by family who are in the medical field, are people who are on their death bed with nobody. Out of all things in the world – that’s crushing. I don’t want that to be me – so I’m going to strive to build a lot of relationships, and learn and grow in the process.

    Life’s a joy.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Christian,

      We have to believe that we lucky, this helps the relationship to stay healthy. Taking care of our partner is crucial as well as showing kindness and compassion. This is a major key for making a relationship better. Thanks Christian
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  7. Steven says:

    My two favorite tips for better relationships are:

    1) Accept each other’s differences.
    2) Encourage each other’s strengths.
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  8. Adrienne says:

    Boy, can I ever relate to Jennifer. My ex-husband was the exact same way which is why he’s my ex. We even went through counseling and I bet you can imagine what he told the counselor. Yep, he’s ALWAYS right! That didn’t go over well with her either.

    The way I communicate in a relationship is that you need to really get to know your partner. Their likes, their dislikes, the way they feel about certain issues, their beliefs on certain topics so when you sit down to discuss things, you know why they feel the way they do. You either work through those issues or agree to disagree. Having open communication is definitely huge.

    You also have to be open to change or admitting when you are wrong. If you love each other, that should never even be an issue.

    Thanks for this powerful post Dia. I love reading what you share with us on this topic. You do know your stuff young man. Thank you for that!

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  9. Dan O'Neil says:

    Hi Dia,

    It’s always communication – the strength of your relationship lies in your ability to communicate with each other. If men take the time to listen and really understand their partners (without giving advice) and if women allow men the time to come to them with their issues (if they want to) then half the battle is won.

    Most couples spend their whole relationship trying to mould their partner into the person they want to be, or trying desperately hard to make the other person happy, thinking that will help them be happy. It’s all going to end in tears.

    Thanks, Dan.
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  10. Jk Allen says:

    Hello Dia,

    Good advice. Especially nurturing the relationship daily. Just as we have to care for ourselves daily, we can’t forget and get complacent with our relationships. Because before they know it, they can end up in a state of despair. If we leave a plant with out proper attention, it will whittle away.
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  11. Frank says:


    This was some seriously good advice as everyone need to learn how to improve their relationships. I have recnetly pretending that I am dating my wife all over again and I am doing all I can to win her heart. It has me doing some silly stuff but it has been really fun. Now I need to get down to the meat of or relationship and find out how we each define what love is and use that to help us grow. Great post.

  12. Lisa H. says:

    Hi Dia,
    I agree that one of the biggest relationship problems happen due to misunderstandings and not knowing what each person thinks about issues in life. What has made my relationship with my sweetie so good is that we spent the first two years asking a lot of questions and really getting to know each other. Ten years later, I am still learning more about him, but those first two years were about knowing where each other stood on the issues.
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  13. Kristina L. says:

    Hi, Dia,
    to make a relationship better means to nurture it, and, as you say, to give attention to it as if it was a plant.
    I like to go for long walks with my hubby-besides being good for health, it also allows us to spend quality time together and talk about different topics, of just about anything under the open sky. I noticed those moments make us stronger and better, as we show appreciation to each other opinions and share thoughts.
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