How to keep a secret?
Can you keep a secret? Do you have the urge to divulge a secret? How to keep a secret?
Jennifer mentions that she always has the compulsion and the urge to tell the secret that some tells her. She equates having a secret with having stress. Jennifer feels if she tells the secret, then the “stress” goes away. Do you know someone like Jennifer?
Keeping a secret can sometimes be hard for some people. Sometimes, the individual gets very tempted to tell a secret. To keep a secret requires determination and strong will. Not being able to keep a secret could put you in a difficult position with the people you associate with.
Types of secrets
You have to remember that there are two main types of secrets:
1. Secrets that must be kept private and never told.
2. Secrets that must be told especially if there is harm to someone.
In this article, I will be talking about the first type that must be kept private and never told to anyone without permission.
Keep a secret
To learn how to keep a secret, follow the guide below:
1. Change your focus
Many people when they know a secret, they feel they have this compulsion to tell someone about it. If you have compulsion to tell a secret, then you need to change your focus. Think and focus on something else other than the secret. The more you keep focusing on telling the secret to someone, the more urge you will continue to have.
Changing focus is a powerful skill that can be developed and strengthened by studying concentration and focus. Shift your focus to a different topic. The more you start focusing on a different topic, the easier it will become for you to keep a secret.
Not only can focus help you keep a secret, but it also can improve other parts in your life as discussed in the “ultimate guide to achieve your goals.”
2. Remind yourself of your loyalty
Usually when someone tells you a secret, he is trusting you to keep it and has huge trust and respect for you. Remind yourself that if you tell the secret, then others will stop respecting you as this shows people that you can‘t be trusted when it comes to keeping a secret. People would start to wonder if when they tell you a secret, you would tell it to someone else. Would you like people to see you as someone who can’t be trusted?
3. Write it down
When you have the compulsion to tell a secret, you should learn to write it down instead. Research shows that expressing your thoughts on a piece of paper helps to reduce the urgency and the compulsion to tell a secret.
4. Avoid gossiping
One of the main reasons people tell secrets is to start gossiping about others. Know that gossiping about others doesn’t do anyone good and it is a negative behavior. If you avoid situations where gossip is common, you will start avoiding situations where you must tell a secret.
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Hi Dia – I think being told a secret shows that we’re trusted. Being trust is a gift. Your simple 4-part process is excellent advise on how to keep a secret. I’ve practiced them all except for writing it down.
If the information is damaging, other considerations should be made…but in normal context – loyalty should prevail.
Thanks Dia!
Hi JK,
Exactly my friend, keeping a secret shows that we can be trusted. People admire the individuals who are able to keep a secret as these people can be relied and depended on. Thanks JK
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The best way to keep something secret is to forget about it
kidding. Enjoyed the post 
Hi Jaky,
Glad you liked the post
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For me, the art of keeping a secret comes down to one, simple thing: The importance of keeping my word!
Alex
Hi Alex,
Keeping one’s word is crucial for sure. If we keep our words, then that means we are keeping the secret, which will make others trust us and look up to us. Thanks Alex
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Hi Dia, I think I’m pretty good at keeping secrets. If I feel that something doesn’t need to be said, then I won’t say it, not even to my closest friends or girlfriend. There’s value in discretion, and needless gossip can really lower your self-esteem over time.
Thanks for sharing
Hi Stuart,
Exactly my friend, there is a huge value in discretion. When we keep a secret, we are not engaging in acts of negativity and we keep our positive energy at a high level. Thanks Stuart
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Dia,
Keeping a secret is very important for any short term or long term relationship. It also is a great way to build credibility amongst new peers as it demonstrates that you can be trusted. Great Tips
Hi Frank,
Yep, for sure keeping a secret is a great way to build credibility and trust among people. After all a trust, if you give it, you will get it. Thanks Frank
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Dia,
There’s nothing that will violate the trust between two people like divulging a secret.
I liked in your opening remarks when you wrote:
“She equates having a secret with having stress. Jennifer feels if she tells the secret, then the “stress” goes away.
It’s funny how we feel that way….until after we tell the secret. Then the stress is greater for having done so.
Enjoyed it Dia…thanks!
Hi Jason,
Exactly divulging a secret can cause the other person feel betrayed. Keeping a secret is crucial for the success of a relationship. We have got to remember the effect that we will encounter if we tell a secret. Thanks Jason
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