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How to improve your self esteem and self image

How to improve your self esteem and self image

How do you see yourself? Do you have problems seeing yourself beautiful and successful or you have a poor self image? Are you looking for ways to improve your self esteem?

A vast majority of folks who have poor self image and low self esteem compare themselves to others who they think look better than themselves.

How often do you see women compare themselves to other women who are more beautiful than them?

Julie is a young woman in her 20s who keeps comparing herself to other beautiful women including celebrities, singers, and movie stars. She keeps focusing on what she doesn’t like in her look, hence her self esteem keeps to get lower and lower.

So how can someone like Julie improve her self esteem and self image? Let’s find out, but first, let’s look at some studies.

Some facts about self esteem and poor self image

According to research, more than 80% of women are not happy with their looks. That means a vast majority of women keep judging themselves based on their appearance especially their body and face.

This is some serious problem that the majority of women have a poor self image, so there has to be something done about it. It is worth mentioning that women who are dissatisfied with their careers and jobs are more likely to have poor self image.

Common statements that such women tend to use are:

  • I’m too fat and ugly
  • I will never find someone to love
  • People don’t find me attractive

So no wonder why many have a poor self image and low confidence in themselves, but how can we change that?  Let’s find out!

How to improve your self esteem and poor self image

1. Stop focusing on what you don’t like

“Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image.” ~ Denis Waitley

If you tend to focus on the features that you don’t like about your body and appearance, then it is time to shift your focus to what you do like.

Each day, pick 5 things that make you happy and focus on them. The subconscious mind gets programmed by repetition, so the more you focus on what you do like about yourself, the more your confidence increases.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

Realize that most folks have certain features that they don’t like about their looks. Just because you see someone beautiful, it doesn’t mean they see themselves perfect.

God created each one with different looks so there will be a variety and that is a good thing. Wouldn’t life be boring if we all look alike? Focus on the gifts that God has bestowed upon you and stop comparing yourself to others.

3. Change what you don’t like

If there is something you don’t like about your looks, then make plans to change it.

Once you begin to examine the false views you have been holding on to since childhood and the negative thoughts, then you can begin to correct your thoughts and beliefs about how you see yourself.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying?  Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind?  My e-book How to overcome worry answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

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6 Comments

  1. We all have ‘choice’ Dia…and we can choose to change for the better…thanks my friend
    be good to yourself
    David
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  2. Melissa says:

    Think of things you can do or projects you can undertake that use and develop these strengths.
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  3. Hi Dia,

    I really like this part, “God created each one with different looks so there will be a variety and that is a good thing. Wouldn’t life be boring if we all look alike? Focus on the gifts that God has bestowed upon you and stop comparing yourself to others.”

    So much truth in it. We are all special because of our variety.

    You are also right when you talk about concentrating on the parts we like. My nose is not the best in the world, I feel that God has blessed me with pretty nice hair and some talent with styling it, so I can distract from my nose.

    What it does come down to is what is in the inside that counts anyway. You can be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you don’t have a loving heart the beauty doesn’t count for a thing.

    So ladies listen to Dia here and concentrate of the good parts you have be blessed with, have love in your heart and this is going to make you very lovable.
    Thanks again Dia and blessings to you,
    Debbie
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  4. Adrienne says:

    I use to be that person Dia. In my younger days I would compare myself to the beautiful girls. I was a little overweight and my hair did what it wanted due to our horrible humidity. I was never happy with myself, not really.

    I eventually learned over the years that I’m fine just the way I was. I dated guys who actually didn’t like skinny girls or those that were better looking then me. Looks are in the eyes of the beholder aren’t they.

    I came to appreciate the people who had a better personality and weren’t perfect. They were much more down to earth and in the end, none of us can ever stand up to that kind of pressure anyway. We’re great just the way we are.

    Wonderful post and message Dia. Definitely sharing this one.

    ~Adrienne
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  5. rob white says:

    Indeed, Dia. Improving our self image is about knowing that there are two selves to know. The Counterfeit Self lives as an out-picturing of one’s internal self-image. This self-image is projected outwardly by the mind. This image is comprised of a collection of wrong thoughts, and when it projects outward, it vandalizes one’s life by making wrong choices of action.

    The Counterfeit Self is the self that represents you when you are feeling insecure and inadequate. On the other hand, there is an incredible power that comes to you when you come to know the Authentic Self.
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  6. Dia says:

    Thank you all for your comments and support ;)
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