How to have a stress free life?
How to have a stress free life? Is there is a way to eliminate stress once and for all?
When I first got into personal development in 1998, I thought once I study personal development, then I can come to a point where I will have no stress anymore. I thought that I would eliminate stress and anxiety once and for all from my life.
Almost fifteen years later, I still face challenges and I still do get stressed from time to time, but I’m in a better position now to control and manage anxiety.
While there are many methods that we can use to manage worry, anxiety, and stress, there is one method that I personally use which works very well for me and that is emotional detachment.
Emotional detachment and stress free life
When we feel attached to an idea or an emotion, we become kind of slaved to this idea or emotion. Have you ever been at work and your day was not productive like some other days and then you got stressed because of it? Did you ever get angry at someone because they didn’t behave the way you want him or her to behave?
Being attached to an idea, a concept, or an emotion can be harmful for you especially if it is negative. You are here to lead a happy life filled with success, not to struggle and suffer. Once you let go of this attachment, you will begin to feel better almost immediately and begin to experience inner peace in life.
Emotional detachment and success
There is a big difference between wanting to reach success and being attached to it. When you want to achieve success or something you want like a healthy relationship, peace of mind, money, or anything else, you will be optimistic, happy, and enthusiastic. You will be enjoying your journey and looking forward for what is coming.
On the other hand, if you are emotionally attached to something you want to achieve and negatively obsessed over it, your emotions most likely will be full of doubt and fear. You will also begin to lose your passion and enthusiasm due to the fact that your happiness is at stake.
Once you learn to become emotionally unattached to anything in life, you will begin to find peace of mind more often in your life. You will begin to become in harmony with everything else and you will be on your way to lead almost a stress free life.
Always remember that “There are things that we never want to let go of…But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”
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Loved this.
You are so right as well. Developing emotional attachment allows one to realise they are far, far more than their emotions and what they feel. One can continue doing what they want to, and if it works out, then great. And if it doesn’t, that’s ok too.
Hi Dia,
I have been practising this in recent times. Even though I have situations to be stressed about, I feel a reasonable sense of ‘calm’ when I let go(of expectations & attachments). Have your goals, have your dreams…..just show up, often, and all will be “good”
be good to yourself
David
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It would be so nice of we could live without stress! But I am afraid it is impossible. Stress is everywhere around us. At the office, sometimes at home, in the traffic etc. But I really do like your tips, they could help us to reduce the stress-level as low as possible. And I think that’s the real goal.
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Dia, this is excellent. It can be easy to get obsessive over our ideas, but there comes a point where we have to let go and allow it to come into our lives. Obsessive can borderline on competition, which goes against creating change in our lives. Great post, my friend!
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Everyone encounters that problem. However, this idea is good. having a stress-free life is one way to enhance the ability to work well in daily task and even outside.
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I think emotional detachment is the key to having a stress free life. Stress is caused by “wanting it my way” and “now”.
I think one of the ways to develop emotional detachment is to drop the sense of entitlement. There is no need for things to go one’s way. If that happens, well and good. But first dropping the expectation that “universe needs to unfold things in such a way that it is in line with what I want” helps.
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Hi Dia,
Wonderful post on letting go of your attachment. I like this line – Once you learn to become emotionally unattached to anything in life, you will begin to find peace of mind more often in your life.
When we hang on and become attached to the outcome, it just brings anxiety and stress as you mentioned. Focusing on your life and what you can control brings you peace of mind. Just being happy with the here and now brings serenity. Take care.
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Ah, if only there was such a thing as being totally stress free Dia.
Things will continue to crop up from time to time so as you stated, we just need to learn to detach ourselves from the outcome and we’ll lead a much better life. The majority of things we are faced with we have no control over anyway so all we do is just beat ourselves up worrying about the what ifs. When people can learn to let all of that go, oh wow… Life is so much better.
Thanks for these tips, I know others can definitely relate to what you’re sharing here.
Have a wonderful weekend Dia.
~Adrienne
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Thank you all for your comments and support
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Hi Dia,
Emotionally attachment can stress us out. You are right. We have to be willing to bend, like a tree in the wind. When we do this we can live a stress free life.
I love the way you explain this Dia. Stress can be a killer if we don’t learn how to live without it.
Life is short and I have learned to go with the flow
Thanks again and many blessing to you,
Debbie
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They say once we learn how to detach from any want or desire we allow the universe the space to allow manifestation.
True manifestation occurs when we set intention, give attention (taking action) and letting go emotionally. Sometimes the more we want something to occur the less power we have to achieve it.
Did you know that the word “want” actually means not having in the dictionary? So it actually has a negative meaning. It is ok to want as long as we allow ourselves to also be grateful for what we have already (the power of gratitude). Thank you for sharing this great post
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