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How to forgive when you don’t feel like it

How to forgive when you don’t feel like it?

 Are you having a hard time forgiving others?  Perhaps someone has hurt you and you don’t feel like letting this individual off the hook?

Thousands of folks struggle with letting go of the pain that is caused by past events and circumstances.   Let’s face it; none of us is perfect and we all might say something that could hurt someone else in the process.  You can’t change the past.  What you can do though is realize that we are all humans who make mistakes and then immediately make a decision and choose to let go of the wounds and resentful emotions you have within you.

If you choose to continue to play the victim role and continue saying that he or she has hurt you tremendously, then I assure you that you will stay having negative emotions.  If you don’t take the decision to let go of the pain you are holding onto, then you will not only miss on living in the present moment, but you are also causing yourself health problems.  Sooner or later you could get a heart disease, ulcer, or even depression.  

So how can you forgive when it feels hard to do so? 

1.        Learn acceptance

That is right!  You need to accept what has happened since you can’t change it.  What you can do instead of being resentful is begin to view the event as a lesson.  Life always tries to teach us new lessons and you need to be alert, study and analyze. (for more info, check –Power of forgiveness: How to forgive anyone if a few days)

2.        Make an unwavering decision to forgive

One of the best blessings that God has given us is the choice to choose and make decisions.  You can’t go from point A to point B unless you first choose to do it.  You need to be firm, otherwise, you will go back to point A faster than you think. 

3.       Shift your focus

Realize that holding on to the resentful emotions will only hurt one person; YOU.  Therefore, since you love and value yourself, you need to nurture and take care of yourself.  Begin to focus on the idea we are all humans and could easily make mistakes from time to time.  Focus on the “goodness” that is in each and everyone of us.  This type of focus and self-talk makes it easier to let go of past hurt and move on.

In future articles, I will be discussing other tips on how to let go of the wounds and move on.  For now, start to implement the above tips in your life so you will start living a life that is full of inner peace, tranquility, and happiness. 

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