How to find inner peace by acceptance
How can I start accepting uncontrollable situations and events in life so I can find inner peace? How can I accept things that can’t be changed?
Heather applied for a job that she wanted so badly last week. She went to the interview all exited. A few days later when she learned that she didn’t get the job, she started to experience excessive anxiety.
Heather can’t take her mind off of what has happened and she can’t accept the fact that she was not chosen for the job. As her anxiety increases, the further inner peace seems to go from her.
Acceptance and finding inner peace
Finding inner peace is something we all want in life, but many finds it challenging to really experience inner peace. I explained in my book “How to overcome worry and have peace of mind” that we tend to focus more on what is missing in our lives and often we don’t accept the things that we have no control of. As long as we don’t accept what can’t be changed, we will never be able to truly find peace of mind in life.
What does acceptance mean? By acceptance, I mean you have to accept what can’t be changed like the loss of someone, your height, your color, and people’s opinions of you among other things. As long as you keep worrying and fretting over things that can’t be changed, you won’t be able to enjoy inner peace.
Unfortunately many people lack inner peace and serenity as they keep concentrating on things and issues that they have no control over. Let me ask you a question; is there any benefit in dwelling over something that will not be changed? How often have you heard someone say something like:
If only she/he would change
If only I’m tall
If only people would like me more
If only she loves me
If only it is always sunny
A few years ago, I used to worry constantly in the winter about driving in the snow. Driving in this weather used to cause me excessive anxiety and stress. However, when I realized that my worrying will not change anything, I started to change my perception of the event, so I can start experiencing peace of mind in my life. I didn’t start to
experience inner peace until I decided to change my thoughts and perception about the snow and accept what I can’t change.
Acceptance is very crucial for leading a happy and serene life. Once you start improving what needs to be improved and changing what needs to be changed in your life, your focus will be primarily on what you desire. Your mind will be free from worry and you will experience and find inner peace.
Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to overcome worry answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.
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Hi Dia,
I found that using these ‘if only’ questions about imagined negative events from the past, did make me worry without reason. The moment I stopped asking myself these questions, it stopped. It gave me more inner peace.
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Hi Dia, great post on overcoming anxiety and your book goes deeper into the subject! If we could learn to take things as they come and not take ourselves and our lives so seriously, it would be amazing what kind of peace would come our way.
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It’s true that people who can accept their reality are generally happier than those who don’t. When people don’t accept their reality it’s as if they are resisting what is. That leads to a forever inner conflict that just causes stress. Great post Dia.
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I do like this a lot Dia – the feeling of letting go and trusting more, of accepting what we can’t change, to allow more to naturally happen, and to not decide too soon whether things will turn out good or not. Acceptance really is release!
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Thank you all for your comments
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