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How to encourage others?

How to encourage others?

Do you know how to encourage others?  Do you offer words of encouragement to others?

Encouraging someone to achieve what he or she wants is one of the best things you can do to someone, especially if that person is your partner.  As you know encouraging others not only can help improve your relationship with them, but also can help them achieve something great as well. 

John mentioned how he used to criticize his wife and make it hard for her whenever she wants to achieve a goal in life.  He mentions that a few years ago, his wife had a goal of losing weight, however, he didn’t encourage her at all.  Instead, he used to bring ice cream and sweets, so it will be hard for her to stick with her diet.  He also kept on telling her that it is better to give up on trying to lose weight.  If you want to win your mate for instance, then you have got to encourage your lover and avoid unconstructive criticism as I discussed in my book “How to win your lover’s heart.”

Putting others down and criticizing their goal is one of main reasons that could harm someone’s progress in life.  It could also harm their self confidence if the individual is easily shaken by what others tell them and seeks people’s approval constantly.  Instead of putting others down, start to encourage others to give their best.

Benefits of encouragement

  • Bring the best in people
  • Helping others achieve their goal
  • Increased happiness

How to encourage others

If your goal is to learn how to encourage others, follow the below steps:

1.  Listen

To encourage others, you have to be able to listen first to their needs.  You need to listen before you start taking action and offer simple words of encouragement.  Ask the individuals what their needs are and what their super objectives are.  When you listen to others carefully, then you can start to offer words of encouragements based on what they say. 

2.  Offer constructive feedback

If you have feedback that you wish to give to others, then do so as long as it is constructive where the other person will get encouraged to give his or her best.  For example, if your partner wants to lose weight, but doesn’t exercise, you can start by informing your partner of the benefits of exercising and how she could improve her health.  The more you look for ways to encourage the individual, the better it is. 

Never give unconstructive feedback such as “You are weak” or “You will never have a nice body like the other women.”  These kinds of statements are discouraging and could have a lasting negative impact on the person.

3.  Practice unconditional love

As I mentioned in my previous article “What is unconditional love?” that practicing the art of unconditional love is one of the main keys not only to win your partner, but also to winning people’s hearts.  The more you offer unconditional love to others, the more they will get encouraged to go after their goals and start feeling worthy.

4.  Offer daily words of encouragement

When you offer daily words of encouragement, you are helping the other person to go after his goal and persist.  As you know words are energy, the more you use uplifting and positive words, the more the other individual gets encouraged.  

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  1. Good list of ideas Dia. May I offer one more? Set the example by doing what you say.


    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      Leading by example is an excellent way to encourage people. After all, if someone says something but does something else, we won’t take that person seriously and would not encourage us to follow with what he/she says. Thanks Alex
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  2. Jk Allen says:

    Hey Dia,

    I love to just listen. It makes people feel important because they are able to get their point across completely. But it’s only natural to have call/response conversations so listening intently shows that you care…it inspires people.

    I love Alex’s example of keeping it real. Gotta love that!

    Thanks Dia!
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Jk,

      Listening is crucial my friend as it encourages people to share what their side of things. It also encourages people to listen to you when you talk which makes a win/win situation. Thanks JK
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  3. rob white says:

    Hi Dia,
    A ‘good listening’ is a wonderful gift. So many folks get anxious about what they will say next that they never truly and deeply listen to each other. Only when we listen deeply can we then offer the right words of encouragement.
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  4. John Sherry says:

    No.1 is No.1 in life Dia; listen. We all get so bombarded by messages every single day that we are all tired of being spoken at and too. Those who listen are refreshing and refresh us as we feel acknowledged, validated, and respected. It’s a long lost skill that is so simple but can change the face of the earth. Marvellous message you have shared here my friend!
    John Sherry recently posted..Why Life Changing Inspiration Happens When You Least Expect

    • Dia says:

      Hi John,

      Exactly my friend, when we listen, we are encouraging others to show respect to others as well when they talk. If we truly listen, listening can be a great example to encourage others to do the same. Thanks John
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  5. Stuart says:

    The best way to encourage others, I feel, is to show them that you aren’t interested in yourself, like everyone else is. You’re interested in them.

    As Robin Sharma coined it, be an ‘aggressive listener’. Listen with intent, show that you’re absorbing what they say, let them do the talking and follow their conversational flow. If they then lead onto a different topic, join them. If they want to keep talking about the same thing, stay with them.

    Show that you’re prepared to let them lead. They’ll love you for it :-)
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Stuart,

      Showing people that we are interested in them is a great way to encourage others to be around you that is for sure. It will also encourage others to start showing interest in others. What a great way. Thanks Stuart
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  6. Hey Dia,
    Good listening is really the name of the game isn’t it. Everything good seems to flow from good listening.
    I guess my one concern is offering UNSOLICITED constructive criticism. My experience is that it is usually wasted breath and has no impact. You can be a catalyst but the other person has to do the heavy lifting if change is really going to occur.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Riley,

      Yea, at the end it is up to the individual to apply what he hears or listens, but it doesn’t hurt as we can inform the person something that he or she might not be aware of. Thanks Riley
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  7. Frank says:


    I have found that the best way to encourage people is to share personal stories of encourgment. I think people find a lot of value to know that the situations that they face others has faced them as well. This is even better when the person encouraging has passed the test that they are taking. These tips were outstanding. Great post!
    Frank recently posted..The Reconstruction of Life

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Offering personal stories is powerful as it can help others learn to handle a situation and gain better understanding. It also could encourage them to take similar steps to improve their lives or solve a specific problem. Great addition Frank
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  8. Dia, as always, well spoken my friend. Personally, I’d add one to your list–

    Walk with them

    In other words, encouraging thru words is one thing, but encouraging thru actions is a whole new ball game, and way more effective and motivating. The persons in my life that have grabbed my hand and helped me along the way when I’ve been down— those are the ones I love the most today.

    Thanks for the great list Dia.

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    • Dia says:

      Hi Marcus,

      For sure walking through with them is a great way of encouraging others. It is a great way to offer help to others as well. Walking with them can also encourage them to do the same to others as well and help them out. It is a win/win situation. Thanks Marcus
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  9. Rob says:

    I’m with Frank in sharing stories of encouragement. It is so much less ‘preachy’ when I can tell someone, “I’ve been there and made it out.This is how”.

    It is great to see encouraging words being built upon. We never know which ones will inspire so we should do it early and often. There is someone who needs to hear.

    Live it LOUD!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      You are right, there is also someone to listen and who is interested to hear about our stories, so they can learn from. This is a great way of encouraging others. Thanks Rob
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  10. Dia,

    Great reminder to encourage others especially the one’s that are closest to us. It’s easy for us to be pessimistic to people that are close to us for fear that their growth could somehow threaten us.

    I have experienced this in my own life with certain friends and family members. It is a symptom of a deeper issue being insecurity.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Justin,

      Yea it is a great way to inform others that there is abundance in the world. Therefore, success should be for them, for us, and for everyone else. Thanks Justin
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  11. Ranjith says:

    One cannot continue any work without the support of others because he needs encouragement. It gives the confidence to work even harder and is a measure of the benefit taht we are going to receive.
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    • Dia says:

      Hi Ranjith,

      Yes, we all want to receive encouragement from others in one way or another. It helps us to move forward as well. If we make the act of encouragement a daily habit, the world would be a better place. Thanks Ranjith
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  12. Dia, right on, my friend! We are here on this earth largely to bring out the best in each other. We are all connected to each other in this significantly spiritual world and when one of us is struggling, we’re all struggling at our core. Our words and actions can bring so much hope and joy to others. And when we do that, we win! Always!
    Bryan Thompson recently posted..5 Surefire Methods That Will Make You Rich if Followed

    • Dia says:

      Hi Bryan,

      Wonderful response my friend. If we humans learn to bring out the best in each other, the world would be a better place, that is for sure Bryan. It is a win/win situation. It is very important that we wish others what we wish for ourselves. We have got to encourage each others, so the world would be a better place. Thanks Bryan for the excellent reply
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  13. The power of listening is much stronger than many people realize. If you just start listening to people more you’ll know just how you can help them the best way possible. Without listening to people you’ll never know whats tuely wrong. Listening always will give you opportunity to learn and develop for the better. It’s all double sided sword for positivity!

    God bless,
    William Veasley
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  14. Dia,

    How are you doing? It has been a while!

    Anyhow, great article. It can seem very difficult to encourage someone without seeming overbearing, but you pointed out some great methods. Just listening, enocouraging and being there can do a lot for people when they want/are ready for your help and assistance.

    Thanks for the article. Have a great weekend
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  15. Hi Dia,
    Encouraging others is an amazing feeling. It’s like teaching a young child to walk or ride a bike or read a book. It’s a win/win for everyone involved.

    I feel so amazing when I see the light shine in people’s eyes when they realize someone else belives in them. It’s a feeling like no other.

    Great Post! Thanks for sharing,
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