How to deal with relationship rejection easily
How to deal with relationship rejection? Is there is a way to deal with rejection in a relationship easily?
Dealing with relationship rejection can be difficult for many people as they feel they will not be able to find another one who has the same or similar characteristics. Emotions of sadness, low self esteem, and rejection settle in and we start to feel down.
Let me ask you a question! What do you do when someone you have your eye on or you love rejects you? Do you feel sad and your life is over? Or you brush of what has happened and you move on in your life? Ponder this question and the answer you come up with as your answer could be a majoy key in how you handle relationship rejection.
Major causes of relationship rejection
- They might not be interested in you
- They might not be interested in a relationship now
- They might be interested in someone else
- Perhaps they don’t like your personality and life style
Dealing with relationship rejection the easy way
If your goal is to learn how to deal with relationship rejection and find someone to love, then follow the guide below:
1. Change your focus
I can guarantee if you don’t change your focus from focusing on the rejection to something else more uplifting, dealing with rejection will stay difficult for you.
There are many different methods that will help you change your focus like meditation, visualization, remembering a positive experience from your past, smiling, and laughing. At first focusing can be difficult especially if you have been just rejected, but with constant practice on shifting your focus, it will get easier and becomes a positive habit in your life.
2. Assign a positive purpose
Assigning a positive purpose to the situation is one of the best ways to deal with relationship rejection. Once someone rejects you; simply say to yourself that what has happened is for the best because you are meant to find someone else who is better in all ways.
As stated in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that people who deal with relationship rejection skillfully are masters at assigning a positive purpose to situations and events. Their self esteem is high and believe they are worth of the best, nothing less. Here are some positive purposes you can assign when you get rejected:
- It is her/his loss for rejecting me
- I know God wants the best for me. The fact that I got rejected means someone better is on the way.
- This rejection is meant to teach me something so I’m going to look for the lesson.
- The list is endless so feel free to add more to the list. The key is for the purpose to be positive and uplifting.
3. Take responsibility
Take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions and stop playing the victim. Often when people get rejected in a relationship, they start thinking there is something wrong with them. Statements such as “Why didn’t she or he like me? There is something wrong with me, otherwise she/he would’ve liked me” are very common.
Playing the victim doesn’t serve you any good and it makes it very difficult for you to deal with relationship rejection. The sooner you say to yourself that your happiness is what matters and you will not let anyone’s rejection upset you, the better it will be for you.
4. Stop seeking approval
So what she/he has rejected you? It is not the end of the world. Once you learn not to care about the opinions of others, dealing with rejection in your relationship will be piece of cake. 
Let me ask you a question; do you like everyone you meet? Of course not! Once you learn to accept the fact that not everyone you meet will like you, the better you will be at dealing with relationship rejection.
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Hi Dia,
One thing that I have learned about rejection is that it is seldom if ever about the other person. The one doing the rejection has their own thoughts or beliefs about me or the situation that is their own baggage.
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Hi Dia,
I used to have very low self esteem in relationships. I would get hurt quite easily whenever someone that I am interested in, passes me by. When that happens, I generally take a long time getting over it. But I find that I did use #2 as you have suggested before. That helped to move me out of rejection faster.
These days, I don’t have any such problems. I am married with kids anyway. But the best advise I can give anyone involved in relationships is this: “Relationship is about attracting others into your life; not going out to find them.” Just work on becoming attractive and people in your vibration range will come into your picture.
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Hi Dia,
I am currently in a great relationship, so I don’t have this problem anymore.
But I still remember a time that I had to deal with relationship rejection rather often. Luckily, I learnt to deal with it. Every time after a ‘rejection’, I first tried to win her back – which sometimes worked. When it did not work out, I waited for 1 week to let it cool down and contacted her with the message that I fully accepted the end of the relationship and I was deeply touched by it. After that I would ask her what the real reason was for the break-up and she would explain me what I could do better in the next relationships.
This brought me the greatest learning moments I ever had.
Thanks for reminding me about this.
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Hey Dia,
Great post here. Love the tips you’ve presented on relationships. This used to be one of my major problems. I used to be ignored a lot and it was definitely painful at times. Now, I am loving life. Relationships with different people are definitely going great so far. Very important to have healthy relationships in life. And I agree with what Jimmy said “better to start attracting people into your life”. I really believe in the law of attraction and it is definitely very powerful. Thanks for sharing this post! Keep it up!
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For me relationship rejections are very hard to cope up with because feeling rejected alone can make our self confidence reduced. Your tips are very helpful to see positive aspects on rejections.
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Same to me…They are heard. But, I’ve found one good way to not make relationships suck…expect what you should expect…more than that, you are only around screwing up…
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Hi, Dia,
back when I was a teengaer, the issues of rejection would intrigue me and make me investigate deeper into the subject. Now, when I am married, I do not have to think about it or deal with it anymore. Luckily for me, I am happy the way I am.
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Being positive is huge. Many times rejection is really a good thing. Going into a relationship where only one person feels committed is going to lead to some hard times. It’s better to learn from your experience and try again than to prolong the inevitable.
Thanks,
Bryce
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Hi Dia,
It’s been so long since I’ve been in a relationship but I do remember being rejected. More times then I care to remember. Way back then because they never told me why the relationship was ending, you can’t help but wonder what you did wrong. I never found out with any of them either which really put a bad taste in my mouth.
Through the years though I have come to understand that a lot of that really had more to do with them then me. Just the process of learning more about myself and that these things just happen. Today I’m in such a better place so when and if a relationship were to come into my life again, I would be much better prepared. At least I would hope so!
Thanks Dia!
~Adrienne
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When we get rejected, it is more important to learn what we are doing wrong instead of struggling..you are right…time heals way better than any medicine..but then again, we got to understand that life has to move on…
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Empowering advice, Dia. There is no use playing the victim when the universe is constantly supporting us in myriad other ways. When things don’t work out, trust that there is a higher intelligence at work that supports the full expression of our Authentic Self.
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Hi Dia,
Too right. I like to think of it as puzzle pieces. When you try to push two pieces that aren’t a perfect fit, you can try all you like, it’s not going to happen. This does not mean that one piece is not “worthy” of the other, or that it did something wrong. it simply wasn’t a fit.
When we get rejected by someone, that’s all that happened. They let us know that the pieces didn’t fit, we were not a match for each other. Period. We don’t have to assign any judgment to what happened (which is where the pain comes from) and can simply keep looking for the piece that will fit perfectly, that person who is a match to us. Because who wants to ram two pieces together that don’t fit? They wouldn’t make a very nice picture… And they wouldn’t make for a good relationship, either.
Hugs!
Melody
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hello dia
how are you?
thanks for sharing this.
although tough but one thing that helps several people deal with the feelings of rejection is a change of focus. it can be a tough struggle because emotions are involved however a a gradual shift of attention from the feeling of rejection brings us to a point of restoration.
another issue is being a people pleaser. i strongly object to it because it leads to one being taken for granted in their vulnerable state.
take care and enjoy the rest of the day
Great post Dia. Rejection is something that we all have to live with. It can be in a relationship, job, or even family. One think that I have learned is not to take it personal. Everyone has an opinion and like you say, “Not everyone is going to like you.”
I do like the way Marc handled it. Asking what went wrong. By knowing the reason helps many not it take it personal and at the same time it can help people grow and learn about themselves.
Thanks again and have a wonderful day
Blessing always,
Debbie
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All the things listed here about relationship easily rejected is very true, if one is not contented with other, their relationship will end up to nothing. basing on my experience before I have met my husband many guys try to court me. but I was thinking it is not the right time,I can feel that we are not compatible.
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