How to deal with Failure in College
Note: This is a guest post by Abyooda from StrongerStudents.com
How to deal with failure in college
He was inspired by the way he entered his university, after that he wished he never face failure, but anyway he was wrong, failing was wrong and wishing he never face failure was also wrong.
That was my story in short and to know what went with me from two years when i was at university keep reading this article.
I have had great years at school, i used to get As and A+s, and being an excellent student is another story you can read it later on, but for now to be an excellent student and successful in life you should be genuine in your type, and being genuine comes by stepping on your own shoes.
I have had 93% in grade 9, 90% in grade 11 and 97% in grade 12 that are all turning school years for the year after, you may read this before but those who didn’t read it, this must be impressing because i was one of few who did this, this lead me to join engineering faculty which is also one of the few faculties which accept certain type of students, and those are the ones who had gotten high marks during school and i was one of them.
At first i was so happy with my achievement to join engineering faculty, and it was so fulfilling to join such university, i didn’t consider previously that at school i have had a vision to join engineering faculty and it was a big vision for me as i visualized it with all its parts and how my kids will be proud of me among their friends when they say that their dad is an engineer, anyway after that i found that this title (engineer) can be told to anyone who got some easy certificates from microsoft, cisco, or anyone who starts opening electric things imaging that he is an engineer or anyone who learned some programming languages and he get happy ever after when someone call him so, never knowing what an engineer students faced to become one or what an engineer student know to become one too.
I found also that there is always some sort of non-clear air between these people (who think they are engineers) and real engineers who are graduated from engineering faculty and who face many obstacles along the way.
I was really successful in my first year at my engineering faculty, as i was from the first 10 among 1500 students in my first term as i got more than 85% that also few can get this score too.
For this score i joined the highest department in my faculty which is communication department. And for those who don’t know what communication means, it means all connections of telephones, mobiles, networks … etc. with all its details (circuits, electronics, towers, electromagnetic fields … etc.) which for the first impression i have no idea about it.
I joined communication department and in my first year I was amazed by the way doctors talks about the subject, and as I was in a public university, doctors main concern is to buy their books to gain money for it, frankly not all doctors was this way, but there was one that I still remember till now that was like this, and for this I didn’t understand anything from him and his reputation to let students understand him was so bad, so here comes my first failure.
I used to listen to students around me and that used to affect me a lot, I used not to study for this doctor and that also affect my performance for other doctors, that I used also not to study for other doctors and it seems hard for me to understand among so many students (500 or something in communication department) and I discovered after that, this was only because I felt that I reached what I want to reach (entering engineering faculty and joining communication department) but for you to know I was about to be expelled from my college for my failure but thank God it didn’t happen.
I repeated my first year in communication department as I failed it, and it was so hard for me to feel the failure feelings at first, then I thought that was normal for students at college to fail, but when I experienced my second year my whole consideration was to pass the year to make my parents happy for me.
This vision (to pass the year to make my parents happy) wasn’t enough to make me get high marks in exams, but I really did, as it was an empty year with only three subjects to study, I got high marks on them.
After that I learned the lesson well but not that well!
In my second year in communication department I studied even harder but I didn’t have a vision, my small vision was just to pass the year and nothing else matters.
It seems my morals started deviating, and that was for real, I started knowing people that fails a lot, and that do disgraceful things that is not our story right here, but that really affected me a lot because I left my boat for the scattered wind to blow me here and there, and that was only because I didn’t direct the sail with the wind to pass my years straight.
I joined computer minor by purpose as I like computers and as it was easier than other minors, and my first year in computer minor I also scored great and was also from the first 10 but this time among approximately 100 students that made me really happy, but I won’t tell you that I sit with myself to have a good vision but this was only because I like this minor but that was also not enough to reach my goal.
In my second year at computer minor, I was proud enough that made me lose my vision again, the year was easy, I liked the students with me, but I didn’t like a doctor there, and also in the middle of the year my friends left me alone with no help to complete my project.
Failing to complete my project let the doctor that supervise my project take a bad attitude towards me, he swore not to attend my project presentation and to give me zero in my project which will make me also repeat the year.
I repeated my fourth year twice, one for the project and one for the subject that I hate the doctor for.
I was really relaxed these years and it was like I was resisting myself, but that wasn’t a reason for someone to fail, hating a doctor or hating the subject (although I liked it) and all this was about to disappear if only I have had a big vision as to serve humanity as an engineer.
If I have had this vision, and visualized it right there won’t be any types of problems and my way was about to be the high way.
So if you want to deal with failure in college and life and want your way is the high way, you must have a big vision.
And about me, this is Abyooda the one behind StrongerStudents.com Abyooda have a target to educate students psychologically and personally as he got 93% in grade 9, 90% in grade 11 and 97% in grade 12, he was also from the first 10 among 1500 students in his first and third year at engineering faculty.
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