How to deal with a workaholic partner?
Kelly mentions that her partner is a workaholic. She says that he lives and breaths through his work and it is the number one priority for him. Kelly mentions that she suffers because he is neglecting her and doesn’t spend much time with her.
Is your partner a workaholic? Does your partner pay attention more to his work than you? How to deal with a workaholic partner?
One of the best things in life is that people work and then become successful. It is always good to create a balance in life. However, if your work becomes the most important aspect in your life, then this would affect your relationship with your partner and your relationship will worsen. I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that when you focus on work more than you focus on your partner, then you are neglecting your mate and this negligence could harm your relationship.
Life is about creating a balance. Make time to your family, friends, health, and God. You have to create a balanced life, otherwise, your relationship will suffer if you focus and spend your time working and ignoring your partner. When you create a balance in your life, that is when you become successful.
John who is retired now, has spent his life focusing on his work and he didn’t spend much time with his wife. After more than 25 years of marriage, their relationship started to deteriorate. She felt that she is not important for him, so she asked for divorce. Now, after he retired from his work, he admits his mistake. Always keep in mind that you have to create a balance in life, don’t become the next John.
Dealing with a workaholic partner
To learn how to deal with a workaholic partner, follow the quick guide below:
1. Help your partner Create a balance
Help your partner to create a balance in his life. For example, if your partner work for 10 hours a day, then inform him taking a few minutes during the day to call you and tell you how much he misses you is necessary as it helps to bring both of you closer emotionally.
When your partner goes home, you could even spend as little as 10 minutes together. During that time, the focus should be on each other and nothing else.
2. Give your partner subtle messages
Since workaholics work for too many hours, they often neglect their health and stop exercising. You can begin to give your partner subtle messages that he is neglecting his health and needs to exercise. Inform your partner, you two can take a walk together, go to
the gym together, so you both take care of your health and spend time together at the same time. In other words, you are killing two birds with one stone. 
3. Help your partner seek professional help
If your partner seems addicted to his work and the previous steps didn’t help, then it could be time to turn to professional help. Have your mate talk to a coach that will help him understand the causes that makes him want to work most of the time. Professional coaching also helps to change your partner’s thoughts and views about work and could really help return the spark to your relationship.
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Sometimes Dia, I think the workaholic partner is me. I attempt to keep a balanced perspective as you mention. One way I do this is to get up early and put in some work so it doesn’t interfere with our time together – especially on the weekends.
It’s something I must always keep in check.
Thanks for the helpful suggestions,
Alex
Hi Alex,
You are doing a great job my friend. Once we make a balance and give our partner the time she deserves, then we are on the right path
Thanks Alex
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It’s hard when your partner is a workaholic.
I agree, it’s all about balance but sometimes their perfectionism doesn’t allow them to see it. It’s hard to stop working when you work for yourself, too. My husband always had the excuse ‘If I don’t do the work, who will?’
He worked every hour, despite counselling and sadly, he died, suddenly and totally unexpectedly 3 days after he retired. The long hours definitely contributed to his death. Hindsight is winderful, but doing something about it before it’s too late is the answer…
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Hi Linda,
I agree with you, many people tend to focus on one aspect of life and ignore the other areas. If we want to create success in our lives, then there has to be a balance, time for work, time for improving our health, time for family, time for God, etc…
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Dia, I would have to admit along with Alex that I have often been the workaholic. I come from a family with a strong work ethic, and sometimes that can translate to “workaholic.” I would get so caught up in tasks that – in the end – really didn’t matter. I missed out on some great opportunities to get to know my wife better. I have tried to make it a rule that I don’t work on projects, blogs, or any other business-related stuff, until I’ve spent time with my kids and with her. It helps to put things into perspective when I get it right.
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Hi Bryan,
Good for your my friend. It is great that you have a balance in life Bryan. This is one of the major things that it really takes to keep your relationship with your wife successful.
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Dia,
I will forward this one on to my wife because just like Bryan and Alex I have been at one point a workaholic. My work is generally tied to my blogging. As you all can relate to, it takes a lot of time to be able to put together great content and network with like minded individuals.
As for professional help anyone have any good referrals. lol!
What worked for me was to create a specific schedule in which I do my business. I have yet to stick to it appropriately but I have a plan in place.
Thanks for this post Dia. Great work.
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Hi Frank,
lol Having a schedule really helps Frank. When we learn to manage our time and give each aspect of our life what it really deserves including our partner, then you know you are on the right path. Thanks Frank
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I’M THE WORKAHOLIC-PARTNER! It’s in my blood, I like to go-get, so I can go-give. Lately, I’ve been non-stop, I have a full time job; a rather demanding career – but I’m very fortunately to have an excellent schedule and nice amount of freedom. But outside of work, I have a busy life with 3 kids and two of them are at the age to have extra activities. I love it – but it keeps me extremely limited on time. This means, that while most sleep, I’m up – chipping away at my goals, working out, or something besides relaxing. I have to find the balance – but honestly – this is one of those sacrificial points in my life where I have to go all out so that I can create a new environment in which I can relax and take it much more easy.
So – this is a great post for my wife to read. She thinks that I’m crazy for going to sleep at midnight and waking up at 5:00am.
Dia – I was very joking in many parts of my comment here, but I do think that this is a serious topic. You read about my bout with stress – so overworking and overextending are areas that I certainly have to pay attention to. And I do – but I probably should be treating myself a little better, more often. Thank you for the post my friend. I love it here!
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Hi JK,
It is all about creating a balance my friend in relationships and life in general. You are doing great my friend that you are able to keep with your job, wife, children, health, and own goals. You exemplify the word success.
Peace bro
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Hey Dia,
Thanks for another fantastic article!
I am really starting to enjoy reading what you have to say! Everytime I drop by to see what’s going on around the scenes I’m smacked with a great article! You stay on point my dude. Many of us are work ah holics or have work ah holic partners and the points you listed are awesome points.
Personally, I just need my space. I might work too many hours but that’s something your just going to have to give to me haha. Either that or throw up the duces and be about my business. I couldn’t give a middle finger about a relationship I’m all about getting my respect & paper.
That’s just my 2 cents.
Thanks again!
God bless,
William Veasley
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Thanks William for your kind words
We all need our space from time to time my friend, this is why creating a balance is crucial. Thanks William
Hi Dia,
Yes indeed. It can be difficult to balance our drive to realize our aims and aspirations in a relationship. For the workaholic type – which would be myself – I remind myself that the most important gift we can give anyone is our true presence. No matter how limited our time we can always be truly present. It makes 10 minutes together as meaningful as 10 hours.
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Hi Rob,
Exactly my friend. Many of us are workaholics, the key is to give our relationship the time it needs. As you mention Rob, 10 meaningful minutes better than 5 hours that are not meaningful. The key is to focus on your partner when you two are together
You know Dia, it is good to have a workaholic partner. The harder you work the more progress you make in any field. I mean Jordan was a workaholic, but he also had balance..i think..lol..Great post.
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Yea for sure Jonathan, the harder the individual works, the more progress the person makes. However, people who focus 100% on work, they do achieve success and status, but they might lose on other aspects in life such as relationships, health, etc… That is why having a balance is crucial if the individual wants to create a balanced life.
Hey Dia, I love how your topics spur such excellent conversation. I would imagine most of us on here are of the ‘workaholic’ type. I know I am, but I try to, as you so well stated, have balance. When I get home at nights, I try to focus on family for at least an hour or two until they go to bed. Once everyone is asleep, I’m back at it again. I don’t do so well in getting enough sleep, but that’s OK
Thanks Dia!
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Hi Marcus,
That is good my friend that you have balance. This is what make a relationship a success is that you give it the time it deserves.
All work, no play, makes Jack a dull boy, a famous adage may say. Indeed, a life that is not balance is a life that will end up empty and without meaning. And speaking of being workaholic, it could really affect relationship, eh. Personally speaking, I believe that our relationships are more important than our work, for relationships could create memories and will last till we die,however, work will never last. At the end, we will not say that we are the greatest worker but we will reflect what we have done with our relationships.
Relationship is just like planting a seed. It need to be watered everyday, need sunlight, fertilizer, proper air and other elements for it to grow. Without these basic factors that seed will surely die, just like relationships.
Hi Peny,
Yep, this is my friend the best we can do is to create a balance in our life. If we don’t create balance, then we would risk destroying our relationship with our partner and family. There has to be time for work, wife, children, family, etc… Thanks Peny