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How to control your emotions and overcome negative thoughts?

How to control your emotions?

Do you know how to overcome negative thoughts?  Can you control your emotions? How to control your emotions?

If we talk about controlling our emotions, then we have to talk about beliefs.  One of the most important thing you have to be aware of is your beliefs and the way you talk to yourself.  The ideas and thoughts that are in your head are the powerful forces that make you have the emotions you are having right now. 

Studies show that the majority of  people’s daily thoughts are negative and 7% of those negative thoughts cause stress and heart problems.  You might ask if the majority of our thoughts are negative, then how come some people have quiet, happy, and successful life? 

These kinds of people have learned the secrets to controlling their emotions by controlling their thoughts.  Some do it consciously and some do it unconsciously.  Most of their beliefs are positive and they concentrate on the good and positive aspects in their lives. 

As I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” that you need to learn concentration and focus, so you can focus on the positive and what you want to achieve in life. 

Studies show that 90% of our beliefs are formed by the age 7.  This programming is acquired mainly from our parents, and then friends and the media.  If a child is programmed to thinking and saying to himself “I’m stupid” or “I’m ugly,” he will grow believing that he is stupid or ugly and this belief could lead him to commit suicide in the long run if he gets to the point that he can‘t deal with it anymore.

How to control  your emotions?

To learn how to control your emotions and overcome negative thoughts, follow the steps below:

1.  Watch what you say to yourself.

2.  Watch what you say to your friends and family.

3.  Watch what people say to you.

If you control your thoughts, what you say to yourself, and what people say to you, then you will be able to control your emotions.  Realize that you can’t have an emotion without first having a thought.  At first it might be hard, but with constant practice, you will be able to control your emotions and overcome negative thoughts. 

Always remember what Robert Kiyosaki said, “If you want to change your life, begin by changing your words. Start speaking the words of your dreams, of who you want to become, not the words of fear and failure.”

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  1. Jean Sarauer says:

    There are still times when I catch myself engaging in negative self-talk. I smile over it now because I know it isn’t the truth and is just some old ‘tapes’ playing in my mind. Life sure changes when we wake up and see how we have a choice in our thoughts, attitudes, and actions!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jean,
      Yea, all of us have a choice really to let which thoughts in our heads. While it is hard at first to control which thoughts to let in, with constant practice, it will become second nature.

  2. Uzma says:

    Hi. U’re so right. Very useful points. If we learn to control our negative thoughts and be aware of what we say and what we believe. Much can change.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Uzma,

      Exactly, so many things can change if we become aware of our thoughts. We just have to learn to control your thoughts and we will be able to control our emotions

  3. My Reverie says:

    And I may also add that if you have not getting a good nap or have not eaten for some time, negative thoughts pop up easier – and also if you’re hormonal, you have to treat that first, and watch your own thoughts come and go. I just had an episode of the dry heaves and I’m still recovering. Haha. Great Post Dia!

    • Dia says:

      Yea, many people who lack sleep or who have not eaten for sometime become cranky and negative thoughts pop into their heads. In that case, these people should get enough sleep and eat more often, so they won’t experience negativity. Thanks and have a nice day Shanaz

  4. It’s so true, our self-talk can be terribly defeating. And It’s easy to fall into the habit of saying more negative things to ourselves than positive. This is self-defeating behavior and sadly often spills into our relationships as well.

    Great post. We all need to put the focus on the positive in every situation possible. It is the only way to help ourselves and others really move forward and grow.

    • Dia says:

      Thanks Joella, Exactly, once we concentrate on the positive in every situation, the more good and positive things will come our way. The more we are aware of our thoughts, the faster we will improve and achieve our goals.

  5. Joshua Noerr says:

    Dia, I think one of the things about negativity is that, for most people out there, it is just plain easier. If the talk around the water cooler gets going, someone throws in a sarcastic remark, and the whole thing starts to snowball into a mass of negativity.

    We do this to ourselves. I have always talked myself out of it by saying, “Josh, you are being mentally lazy right now. Where is the good in this situation?” That little reminder has helped out a lot.

    Thanks for a great post.

  6. Dia says:

    Thanks Joshua, yea unfortunately, most people take the easy path, which is to think negatively just as they are used to. For me personally, everytime a negative thought pops into my head, I remind myself that I have two choices, either I choose the positive thought or I choose the negative thought. Then, I decide to choose the positive thought. When I started following this example a long time ago, it was hard, but the more I practiced, the more it became ingrained in me.

  7. The old advice of “think before you speak” doesn’t seem to happen as often as it should.

    Thinking before you speak is a good way to limit unnecessary criticism– of others and of ourselves. Most of the time I’m my own worst critic, but when I start to realize that I’d never say the things to others that I think about myself, it’s time for a wake-up call. Thanks for the good article and advice.

    • Dia says:

      Thinking before we speak is crucial Steve. Otherwise, what we speak could hurt us or others in the process.

  8. Great post!

    I am big on positive thoughts & talk. Too many people are stressed because of their thoughts and language. This post hit this subject hard.

    Nice job!

    – Ali

    • Dia says:

      Thanks Ali, positive thoughts are crucial to our happiness. Unfortunately, the majority of people think negatively.

  9. Hulbert Lee says:

    Hi Dia, I like reading your posts because they are straight to the point. I believe the our emotions and our thoughts are linked. If we think negative thoughts, then we will feel negative emotions. If we think positive thoughts, then we will feel positive emotions. That’s why it’s so important to be aware of what we are thinking about so we can direct our mood in a healthier manner. Good job and I like that quote that you posted here by Robert Kiyosaki.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Hulbert,
      Absolutly, thoughts and emotions are related as our emotions are the results of our thoughts. Everything begins with a thought…Thanks Hulbert

  10. rob white says:

    Hi Dia,
    You bring up a great point: by the age of 7 we have been bombarded with so many “No’s” that most peoples collection of beliefs become burdensome. I was raised in a negative environment where everyone acted on angry emotions.

    Only when I took 100% responsibility for my life, my beliefs and the self-talk was I able to transmute my anger into passion and positivity.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,
      You are absaloutly right, once we take 100% responsibility for our thoughts and beliefs, then our lives begin to change for the better and we begin to experience positive things.

  11. Dia,

    Negative thoughts can turn good day into bad. Often time I catch myself if negative thought emerges and nip at the bud before it gets bad. Doing something good for yourself or other helps having positive influence.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Preeti,

      That is for sure, negative thoughts can ruin someone’s mood and can lead to a lot of stress, that is why it is crucial to control them. Thanks Preeti

  12. Kate says:

    Great post. I think at first it can be a little difficult to pvercome these thoughts – partly because they can often happen without us even realising. But as we start to notice and change them it becomes easier and easier!
    Best wishes,

    • Dia says:

      Thanks Kate, at first it is hard to overcome negative thoughts, that is for sure, but the more we practice, the easier it gets.

  13. Anto says:

    Very nice post!

    I have been going through negative thoughts this year and I think your post will help me start being positive again.

    By the way, is Robert Kiyosaki the author who wrote “Rich Dad, Poor Dad”? I have read a few of his books years ago and I still apply what he said. Maybe I should re-read the books to be up to date.

    Thanks again for your post, it was helpful and I submitted it to Stumble Upon :)


    • Dia says:

      Hi Anto,

      Glad that you liked it and thanks for submitting it to stumble upon. Yep, that is him. He wrote “Rich dad, poor dad.” He has very good books. Have a nice day Anto

  14. Dia: What great information and insights. I couldn’t agree more that we really do have to monitor the information we are feeding ourselves. If we are programming ourselves with the wrong thoughts, they really can work against us and in the end, in order to ever succeed, we will have to reprogram ourselves. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and insights. I thought this was a really great post.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Sibyl! programming our thoughts and being aware of which thoughts we choose to let in our heads is crucial. If we want success, then we need to program our minds with positive thoughts. Thanks and have nice day Sibyl!

  15. Pr. Raymond says:

    Emotions are very powerful. They can motivate you for good or bad. They affect your thinking ability and how you behave. At times, they may even seem to overwhelm you. Other times you feel like you’re not good enough. However people of all ages and backgrounds struggle to control this emotional feelings.

  16. Penny says:

    Very good article. I am a very deep thinker, and for the most part have a very positive outlook. I feel these contribute to being able to control my emotions. But, when deep hurt takes place in one’s life, its hard to put these qualities into perspective. Dealing with pain from a broken relationship, is real and it does not go away quickly. This takes time to heal, I do feel having the qualities of a positive nature helps heal sooner then one who is of negative nature.
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