How to boost your self confidence
Do you want to increase your confidence? How to boost your self confidence?
Self confidence is having the belief that whatever you encounter in your life and whatever your mood is, you will achieve your goals. Self confidence is strength that makes the individual grow and prosper. Without self confidence, the individual feels afraid to fail and becomes afraid from the unknown where the person doesn’t dare to change anything outside his comfort zone.
An individual could be very unhappy in his work and complains constantly from his boss, yet doesn’t do anything to change his current situation due to fear of failure. A wife could be very unhappy in her marriage, yet doesn’t do anything positive to change her life with her lover. A student could study hard, yet on the day of the exam, starts thinking of negative thoughts which could result in his failing.
The individual could be confident, yet when he experiences a challenge in his life, he starts to think to himself that he is a failure. His thoughts expand and lack of confidence manifest.
John who is in his twenties mentions he was very successful in high school and used to get all A’s in his classes. Then, he went to study medicine at college where he failed in two of his classes. Since John failed in those two classes, he began to lose confidence in himself and started to become afraid of failing.
Jennifer who is in her thirties mentions that she is afraid of getting married again since she got divorced twice already. Since she got divorced the second time, she lost all of the confidence in herself and in others. She also believes that if she marries again, her marriage will end up in divorce.
Do those two stories sound familiar? These stories give you an idea about lack of confidence and how the challenges in life could affect the human thoughts and make him start thinking in a negative way, hence he begins to lose confidence in himself.
On the other hand, we find that positive thoughts help to build self confidence which could result in a positive action from the individual, which will help him to progress despite all the challenges he faces in life. For example, Mohamed Ali used to repeat to himself constantly that he is a great boxer despite all the circumstances he experiences. When you keep repeating positive statements to yourself with strong belief, then your subconscious mind accepts these as true. As Mohamed Ali said, “It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”
As I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” that your subconscious mind gets programmed by constant repetition. Your subconscious mind doesn’t get programmed by simply saying “I’m confident.” These words won’t help if you don’t have faith and belief in what you are saying. The key to programming your subconscious mind is for your emotions to compliment your words and your image that you have in your mind and with constant repetition.
Mohamed Ali mentions that mental exercises are among the top causes that helped him succeed. He focuses on positive thoughts and then connects these thoughts with strong emotions and imagines himself that he is confident at all times.
If you want to boost your self confidence, focus on the positive thoughts that help you remain confident at all times despite all challenges and make sure you have faith and belief in what you are saying.
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The one tip that I use to boost my self-confidence is this: I believe in myself.
I tell myself that I can do it, no matter how hard the challenge is, because I can do anything. The universe will give me as much help as I need, and the rest is up to me
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Hi Stuart,
That is good my friend as long as you believe in what you say. The subconscious mind gets programmed by repeition provided that you believe in what you say.
Life is not easy for anyone.Every one have their own problems.Having self confidence to key to success in life.We need to love and respect ourself.
Believe in ourself and trust your own. No one is good here …Every one have some positive and negatives in them
We have build ourself on our positive skills and grow a head.
Just understand one thing, you are the one who lack self confidence..there are many of us.
Just believe and love yourself.
Hi Mujibur,
Yea having self confidence is crucial to success in life. We have to love ourselves and be confident of who we are. We have got to program our subconscious mind with positive thoughts that lead to confidence and overcome the limiting beliefs we have.
Dia,
The power of the mind is absolutly amazing. You can clearly see some of its powers from the examples that you wrote in your post. For some odd reason it is natural for people to think negative thoughts and a challenge in order to speak and think positively. The benefits though greatly outweigh the challenges. From a simple act of consciously changing your mindset you can open up a lifetime of endless possibilites and it all starts with the behavior of speaking and thinking positively.
Thanks for some awesome insight on how to change ones mindset and boost confidence.
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Hi Frank,
Exactly my friend, the mind is powerful. It is up to us to use it to our advantage. If we learn to use our mental power, then we can go very far in life.
Dia, my friend – I find this to be great advice. Personally, my abilities between when I’m confident and not are drastically different. I find that positive thinking does give me a jolt of confidence, but it’s not a long-lasting confidence; meaning that every time I face the same situation, I have to hype myself up – it’s not a natural occurring confidence as I have everyday with certain things like walking and talking. Does that make sense. Any suggestions on getting that lasting effect?
Great job Dia!
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Hi JK,
Yea I hear you my friend. Positive thinking works if we believe what we are saying to ourselves. This is why many people repeat certain statements to themselves, become motivated or confident, but after a few days or so, they go back to their old ways. It is because when they say such statements, they don’t believe in what they are saying, so the subconscious mind rejects such statements. The best way to develop confidence is to first recognize the causes, develop the necessary skills to overcome the causes, and program our subconscious mind with confident tips.
For example, if someone is not confident using computers, he identified the cause. Then he has to deveop the necessary skills to become confident, in this case, would be taking computer classes. Then, through the use of visualization, the individual would program his subconscious mind that he is becoming better at using computers (he has to feel what he is saying). With constant practice, the individual will be able to develop the necessary skills to overcome lack of confidence at least in using computers for his example. This process is applicable to all other issues where the individual feels “less” confident that what he should be.
Dia – Thank you for the great reply my friend. I appreciate you taking the time!
Great advice:
“The best way to develop confidence is to first recognize the causes, develop the necessary skills to overcome the causes, and program our subconscious mind with confident tips.”
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Hi Dia,
Excellent advice here. Positive thoughts and the emotions behind those thoughts will lead us to more confidence. Also having respect for ourselves. When we present ourselves with poise and dignity we will come to feel that we are poised and dignified. Ali is right – the constant repetition of positive thoughts works and is very powerful. Thanks Dia!
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Hi Dandy,
For sure my friend, if we overcome our limiting beliefs, program our subconscious mind with positive thoughts that are accompanied by strong emotions, will lead us to become more confident. Repetition is needed my friend. Thanks Dandy
I think that if you want to keep a positive view in life that you must look for the positives in any situation. I go to sleep at night while listening to many different e-books and audio programs that help me keep a good positive outlook. I had been taught years ago when I was a member of AmWay, yes I said AmWay, to listen to motivational tapes while going to sleep, they taught me that listening to those tapes would stick with me better by allow me to program my sub-conscience while I slept. It has worked for me thus far.
Thanks
Patrick Simpson
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Hi Patrick,
This is great! I also like to listen audio programs that help to program my subconscious mind with positive ideas. The best audio programs that I enjoy are “the power of your subconscious mind” by Joseph Murphy and “the science of getting rich” by Wallace D. Wattles. Both audio programs are available on youtube. Thanks Patrick
Dia recently posted..How to boost your self confidence
Great advice. “What you think you are you will be.” I had to learn this the hard way many years ago. Self talk can really slow you down. If you think you can do it you will. It is wonderful what the mind can do when we give it a chance. “faith and belief” alone with positive self talk work wonders.
Thanks Dia for the reminders.
Debbie
Hi Debbie,
Exactly, self talk has a huge power on us and on our attitude. When we start talking “positively” to ourselves, we are programming our subconscious mind with positive ideas and images.
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