How to attract a lover into your life?
Is attracting a lover difficult? Can you really attract your soul mate? How to attract the love of your life?
Many people wonder how to attract someone they really love. I talk to many people who are trying to find their soul mate and someone to share their life with, but they stay frustrated when they don’t get the results that they desire.
I see many unfortunately in negative relationships, where there is no emotional security, no love, and not loyalty. Yet, they stay with their current partner for various reasons such as lack of self confidence, low self esteem, and for not believing they really can attract the love of their life.
I always had high standards for the woman I want to be with and I wasn’t going to settle for anything less than what I want in a woman. I started applying what I have been learning in my journey in personal development and positive results started to appear in my life.
As I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” you really can achieve everything you set your mind to, you just have to take action and apply what you learn in your life.
In this article, I’m going to tell you how I attracted the woman of my dreams who has over 97% of the inner and outer attributes that I want in a woman into my life.
Attracting love
If you want to learn how to attract a lover into your life, follow the steps below:
1. Know what you want
To be able to attract the lover you want, you first have to know the qualities and characteristics you want in a person. After all, how can you attract something that you are not clear about?
Write a list with all the qualities you want in your lover and read it a few times a day. This will help you focus on what you want.
When I attracted the woman of my dreams into my life, I knew the exact characteristics I want. I was very specific. Knowing the
qualities and the attributes I want in a mate has helped me to focus on what I want instead of what I don’t want.
2. Visualize
In my previous article “Does visualization really work?” I mentioned how visualization has helped me manifest some of my goals in life. When it comes to attracting a mate, it is very much recommended that you set a specific time to visualize daily.
I personally spent around 15-20 minutes every night visualizing myself with my dream woman. I included all the 5 senses as well.
Combining the 5 senses in your visualization helps you to feel the emotions as if they are real.
3. Faith
I had absolute faith that I’m going to find the woman of my dreams. I had trust in God that he will make everything happen. I didn’t know how and when I will find my partner; I just had faith that it is going to happen.
It is very important when you have faith to be unattached to the results. The chances are if you have strong faith, you will be unattached to the results, which will help you achieve your goal faster.
4. Persist
Many people when they try for a few months and nothing happens, they end up giving up due to lack of patience, belief, and persistence. Had I given up in 3 or even 6 months, I won’t have attracted the woman of my dreams. It took me 9 months to attract the woman I want. In return, my persistence has paid off.
Next time you want to give up, remember that you might be too close to achieving your goals and to attracting the partner you want. If others could do it, I could do it, you can do it too. You just have to become persistent.
5. Take an inspired action
When the time is right, you have got to act on the inspired action. If you do all the above, and fail to take action, then you won’t attract the mate you are dreaming of and all your work will go in vain.
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Hi Dia!
These are some good tips. When I attracted my husband, I already knew the type of man I wanted to date and I wasn’t about to lower my standards. It definitely paid off.
I met my husband when I wasn’t even looking. That’s how it always happens.
Take care,
Evelyn
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Hi Evelyn,
Knowing what we want sure is very helpful, so we focus on what we do want instead of what we don’t want.
Believe it or not, there are many who don’t know what they want, not only in a partner, but in life in general. Knowing what we want is really crucial in all areas of life. Thanks Evelyn
Dia recently posted..How to live in the present
That was a very good deterministic approach taken in finding your girl who would not be below your standard. Even if you have put that rule down, you would have taken the marriage vows with the same person because everything is predetermined by God.
The feeling that arises on seeing our life partner for the first time is a consequence of what is written in our destiny. No one can change it. however, we can try as much as possible. The quoted points by Dia also help in finding a friend, for love and like is the core and everything is secondary.
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Hi Dia,
Excellent post. Your tips are right on. I’ve always believed that the qualites we want most in a partner are the qualites we need to work on in ourselves. Like attracts like. I also like what you say about faith. When I told God what I wanted in a partner and prayed to meet someone like that, he answered my prayer. Relationships take work. But when you find the right partner, the work is worth it. Thanks Dia!!
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Hi Dandy,
I love your reply! Yes the qualities we like in a partner are qualities that we like, at least for me. The more we improve ourselves, we would start wanting those qualities in a mate. However, first we have to improve ourselves.
Praying is the best in my opinion. It has happened so many times for me. When I turn to God, ask him for what I want and have faith in him, he answers all the time. Thanks Dandy for your reply
Dia recently posted..How to live in the present
All good steps Dia. And if I may add one more: Believe you are worthy to receive love.
alex
Hi Alex,
There is no doubt about it myself. Without believing we are worth it and really deserve love, all the steps above won’t help much. After all, we have to love ourselves to be able to give love to others. Thanks Alex
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Dia,
I have found the greatest way to attract love is to love yourself. The more confidence you build the greater the chance you will be ready to jump on the opportunity when it presents itself. The funny thing is love found me when I least expected it and I used a lot of the tips you provided without even knowing it. Thanks Dia.
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Hi Frank,
Loving ourselves is crucial, not only if we want to attract a partner, but in all areas of life and at all times. People who “usually” settle for less than what they want are the ones who don’t believe they can get the best. When we start loving ourselves, a lot of things start coming our own way. Thanks Frank
Dia recently posted..How to live in the present
Well for me you have to be authentic and let the real you shine through in order to attract your soul mate. If you project a false image and the other persons responds to your false image what kind of relationship do you have and what happens when the real you surfaces (and it will). In my first marriage I pretended to be more extroverted than I was. My wife always wanted to socialize and I always wanted to read. Of you have to have to have a healthy balance between extroversion and introversion. But you have be in a relationship that allows you to be yourself.
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Hi Riley,
Being authentic and showing who we really are necessary to the success of a relationship. There is not reason for us to pretend to be someone we are not as we can find someone who would love us for who we really are without changing us. When we know what we want, visualize, ask God for what really want, then the chances are we will attract someone on the same spiritual level. In other words, someone we will compatible with.
Thanks Riley
Dia recently posted..How to live in the present
Wonderful tips Dia. After my divorce I did make a list of just what I wanted in a husband and didn’t settle for anything less. With all things we do need faith and the visualizing really works. I always wondered how someone could pray for something and at the same time not have faith that the pray would be answered. Why ask if you don’t belileve you will receive?
One I would add though is when you see a person where every you maybe be and feel the need to say Hi, don’t let that moment slip by. It just may be the one. So put any fear away. Thank you Dia, I enjoyed thinking back to when I met my very special man. Debbie
Hi Debbie,
This is wonderful that you didn’t settle for anything else. Exactly Debbie, when we ask God for something, we have got to have faith. If we believe, then we can receive.
Yea, I agree Debbie, we have to be ready to act on the inspired action. When the time is right, we can approach the other person and make some kind of contact. Otherwise, we might lost that chance. Thanks Debbie
Dia, I really like how you have laid these five things out. I COMPLETELY agree – know what you want, and visualize how you want your relationship to look. I did these things, though I was unaware at the time. One thing I would add is not to be so sure you have to know HOW God will bring this person about. Just know that there are no accidents. Thanks for sharing, buddy!
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Hi Bryan,
Yep, knowing what we want and visualization are a must Bryan if we want to attract our dream partner. We don’t have to know when or how it will happen, but we must believe that it will. Thanks Bryan
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Hey Dia,
I love the subject of this post.
I got into personal development about 4 years ago and started really learning a lot more about me. I started understanding why all my past relationships were doomed. I expected them to be doomed. It took me quite awhile to understand that I have to totally change the way I think about this.
I am still a work in progress but I will tell you, I’ve come a very long way. I have NO doubt that the right guy will show up in my life when the time is right. And, I know this one will last.
I now enjoy reading about this topic since I’ve learned so much more about it. Glad I came over here to see you today.
Thanks Dia…
Adrienne
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Hi Adrienne,
Happy to hear that you are thinking in the positive direction and that you have faith you will find your partner. If you can see it, then you can achieve it
Thanks Adrienne
Dia recently posted..How to become self aware
We have an ability to attract exactly what we are a match for whether good or bad. The Universe doesn’t discriminate. You can tell where you are vibrationally by what or who you are attracting into you life.
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Hi Justin,
Yep, we have to pay close attention to what our vibration is. The more our vibration is with what we desire, the faster for us to manifest our desires. But first, we have to know what really want, visualize, and have faith. Thanks Justin
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Great Tips Dia!
For me, when I met my wife…it was during a stage that I was just me. I wasn’t putting up any facades or fronts, I was just really into being me. That allowed me to really get to know her and her to really get to know me. In a matter of time, it happened, and now here are, been together for going on a decade with 3 kids!
I hope that anyone in hunt the best of luck to attract a lover into their life!
Thank you Dia!
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Hi JK,
This is great my friend. We have got to be ourselves all the time. It is doesn’t benefit anyone to put an act or pretend to be someone we are not. If we do this, we would be setting ourselves for problems later on in the road. Thanks JK
Dia recently posted..How to become self aware
Great work Dia. Action is the key to all things. When we act we create. Without action we are nothing.
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Hi Jonathan,
Action is crucial my friend, there is no doubt about it. Without action, we won’t achieve much in life. Thanks Jonathan
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hello dia
how are you?
well first of all we see your softer side in this post and say hello to mrs. thabet for me.
i totally agree that you need to know what you want in a partner but i always add the caveat of having realistic expectations
as for visualizing thats quite important particularly when it comes to having a home, children, cars… i mean it’s envisaging how life would be theoretically or in your imaginations with your partner.
for me faith just gives me the assurance that it would be okay with reference to seeking my partner
finally i think one should remain persistent and work at finding a loving partner because he/she is not just going to fall on your lap randomly.
take care and enjoy the rest of the day
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Hi Ayo,
Thanks my friend, appreciate your kind words. I’m still not married though, will be there very soon
Yea we have to be clear on what we want and visualize. At the same time, we have to have faith that God will grant us our wishes. Without faith, doubt will fill our subconscious mind and most likely, we won’t get what we want.
Thanks Ayo
Dia recently posted..How to become self aware
Visualisation, as mentioned in the above article helps a lot. Whether you get what you wish to have or not is a secondary issue. But you definitely get happiness from it. Even if your lover rejects your proposal, you can spend your life visualising a life in dreams with your loved one. That is what is true love.
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Hi Ranjith,
Visualization is a powerful method that is crucial for achieving success. When we talk about relationships, visualization is a method that helps you find the partner that has the attributes that you like and who you are compatible with. It worked for many people and for me too
Thanks Ranjith
Dia recently posted..How to become self aware
Good tips to find our soul-mate. I mostly like the visualization method, it is an-usual way but effective. Not only to find soul-mate but also on any aspects our our life.
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Hi Dia!
Awesome stuff! You are so right about faith. I knew exactly what I wanted but didn’t know when it would show up. It showed up when I least expected it. For once I really appreciated the thrill of the unknowing.
I believe these tips will work in all our relationships. The person you are will attract the type of people you come in contact with. I live a certain way and I hold myself to a certain caliber level which is why I believe I interact with the people I interact with. Which is why I keep coming back to your blog. It’s all in the law of attraction.
I advice people to change their thought process if they want change in their life.
Great stuff here!
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Liked reading your post! These comments, not so much!