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How do you change behavior?

How do you change behavior

Do you know how to change your behavior? What are the steps needed to change your behavior?

We all want to change some behaviors or habits from time to time. For ambitious people, they tend to have many behaviors that they want to change or improve in themselves.  Let me ask you something, do you exercise? Do you eat lots of fast food? Do you have problems in your social life? Are you shy? Do you want to alter them?

Behavior Change

If your goal is to learn how to change behavior, follow the below steps:

1. Recognition

Watch yourself and how you act in life. Beware of how you react to situations until you find a bad behavior that you want to change. You will find that you have some behaviors you don’t like or behaviors that cause problems for you. Recognize those behaviors as recognition is the first step.

2. Decision

After you recognize the bad behavior you want to change, it is time to make a decision to get rid of it. If for example, you watch a lot of television, then decide to stop. If you want to quit smoking, get cigarette case out and destroy it. If you don’t eat healthy food, decide to start eating healthier.

If you recognize a behavior that you want to change in your life, then you need to make a decision to change that behavior.

3. Knowledge

You might want to change a certain behavior that keeps annoying you, but don’t know how because you lack the necessary knowledge that you need to have in order to change. What you need to do in this situation is to gain knowledge through reading and educating yourself.

4. Slow steps

Some people want to change a certain behavior drastically, but unfortunately they go back to their old behavior slowly. An overweight person could go on rigorous diet, loses weight, but at the end, reverts to his old weight.

A person who wants to quit smoking, might stop smoking for a few weeks or months, but at the end, might go back to smoking.

This happens all the time, therefore, slow and steady steps are more important than taking drastic and huge steps. As I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” the more slow steps you take, the more you and your subconscious mind will absorb these small changes.

5. Practice

You have to practice, so the new behavior gets ingrained in you. Practice makes perfect as the Roman proverb says, “Practice is the best of all instructors.”

6. Continuity

To continue with the new behavior is necessary. Your behavior will not last if you stop or neglect the steps that you took to change your behavior.

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  1. Jk says:

    Hey Dia,

    I’m always in quest to change. The way I see it is that if I want to reach the next level that I desire, I have to change something in the process…something has to change and be different than what I’m doing now. So, I find this article particularly interesting for that very reason – I’m always in quest to change. Not only did I like the list you provided. I also thought the points were listed in great order. Is the list strategically ordered, or just coincidence? Great job, my friend!

    • Dia says:

      Hi JK,

      For sure my friend, we always have to look for change, so we can grow as human beings. If we don’t grow, we stay the same way where we are right now. Of course my friend, the list is in this order for a reason, first we recognize what we want to change, then we follow the rest of the steps.

  2. Numbers One and Four feel right to me.

    Number One: We must first recognize where change is needed. Without this step, we keep doing what we are doing.

    Number Four: Taking small steps leads to the greatest chance of success because it feels more doable.


    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      Yea, recognizing what we want to change and taking small steps are crucial. Without recognizing what we want to change, then we won’t be able to change our behavior to the positive. And taking small steps is the way to go, many people take huge steps, then they go back to their old ways, the best is taking slow steps.

  3. Kate says:

    I like what you said about making a decision. It is so easy to think I waill do that one day, or at some point, or I’m thinking about it…….when you make that firm decision there is a shift in perceptions and all starts to fall into place.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      For sure making a decision is powerr in itself. Once we make a firm decision, nothing can stop us and this creates a burning desire for us to get our goal and change our behavior to the positive.

  4. Richard says:

    I think you always have to be asking yourself the question of how can I be a better person. Then identify what you want to improve and take small steps towards doing those little things.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Richard,

      Absaloutly right, if we stop asking ourselves the question “how can we change our behavior for better?” then we would really stay where we are. It is asking ourselves the right questions and doing whatever it takes to improve ourselves and behaviors.

  5. Vernon says:

    Hi Dia,

    I just came across your blog today. I’ve been, without realizing it, following basically step by step what you have written here with my exercise over this year and have finally got as fit as I was years ago. I’ll have to try it with other areas of my life.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Vernon,

      Good for you that you are following the steps. This is really great to hear that you are on the right path and taking steps to improving yourself. :)

  6. rob white says:

    Great tips Dia. Never leave the scene of a decision without taking supportive action. We will be carried toward the change we intend when all our energy is moving in the right direction. Once we make that decision we must give entirely of ourselves, holding nothing back.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      This is exactly right my friend, making a decision is necessary. When we decide to change or improve something in us, then we have to take supportive action, so we can achieve what we want.

  7. Dandy says:

    Hi Dia,
    I like this post. Steps 5 & 6 are good reminders for me. Changing takes commitment. You need to always remind yourself of what you want to do. It’s so easy to fall of the path. But practice is what forms a habit. This post is really thought provoking!!


    • Dia says:

      Hi Dandy,

      For sure my friend, practice and commitment as crucial. Many people take huge steps, then fall off the path. Slow steps, practice, and then committment are all needed to change our behavior for the positive and to achieve our goals.

  8. Hi Dia! I love the concept of slow steps. Sometimes we don’t change a behavior because we think it will take a lot of work. But actually all we need to do is one little step at a time. That’s not too bad when we think of it. The idea of a slow progressive change is more organically and therefore it feels natural and doable.
    Thanks for this wonderful post! Loving blessings!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Andrea,

      Taking slow steps really work because taking slow and steady steps, are more likely to last then taking huge steps.