How do I move on from a relationship
Does moving on from a relationship need so much effort? How do I move on from a relationship?
Jennifer’s boyfriend broke up with her three months ago, but she still can’t move on. She believes she will not be able to attract someone else as she feels he is the perfect guy for her, so she keeps reminiscing about the happy times the two shared together. The question that Jennifer keeps asking herself is “how can I move on from this relationship and forget him?”
Millions of people are unable to move on after they break up with their partner. They feel stuck in the past and many give up on life and they experience severe depression. Taking charge of their lives and moving on seems to be an impossible task for such people, especially at the beginning of a breakup.
How do I move on from a relationship
There are many ways that can help you move on from a relationship. In this article, I will give you three ways that can help you learn how to move on from a relationship smoothly:
1. Recognize the reasons and take responsibility
Whenever you feel that you can’t move on, ask yourself the following questions:
- Why I can’t move on?
- What are the reasons that I still cling to my partner?
- Is it really worth it to stay stuck in the past while I know he/she doesn’t want me?
- How can I move on from this relationship?
Whenever you feel you can’t move on, start asking yourself these questions and start examining the answers you come up with. By doing this, you have moved from the victim role to I take responsibility for my life role.
For example, see the following scenario with Jennifer’s example above:
Jennifer: Why can’t I move on?
Her answer: I fee attached to him
Jennifer: Why do I feel attached to him? He hurt me and doesn’t appreciate me. I deserve better.
Her answer: Yea, I do deserve better. I’m going to start taking charge of my life and start giving myself the care I truly deserve.
Usually, after you start asking yourself such questions and start taking responsibility for your thoughts and choices in life, you start realizing what you need to do in order to learn from the break up and move on with your life.
2. Surround yourself with positive people
It has been proven that surrounding yourself with family and friends who can support you is very beneficial and helps you to move on from a relationship much faster.
Find yourself a true friend who is positive that can help you see the light in your tough times. Have your friend help you see the benefits of the break up and the new opportunity that is waiting for you.
3. Make a plan
After you become aware that you need to move on to be able to lead a better life and ask yourself some solution focused questions as I mentioned above, you need to make a plan on how to get there.
One of the main reasons people fail to move on from a relationship easily is because they don’t have a clear plan on how to get to where they want to be.
Let me ask you a question, if you live in Paris and you want to get to London, how are you going to get there without a clear plan. You will eventually get there, but it will take you longer. This is why having a plan is an important element of moving on from a relationship.
Working on a goal, volunteering, and helping someone can all be plans that you use to help you move on in your life and mend your broken heart much faster.
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Hey Dia,
I believe the hardest part of getting over a relationship is letting go of the attachment of the other person.
The truth is there are millions of people out there who would be a perfect match for us.
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Hi Justin,
Exactly my friend, the key is to become unattached. Once we realize that there are many people who are a match for us, we then are able to move on. The key is to be able to recognize that.
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Hey Dia,
First time stopping, by but I’ve read your comments on many of the blogs I read so I thought I’d check yours out.
I really enjoyed this article. Recently a good friend of mine had a divorce and was devastated by it. If not for being surrounded by good people, he may have struggled more than necessary.
Now he is remarried, has a kid on the way and is happier than ever.
Your advice is right on.
Bryce
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Hi Bryce,
Thanks for stopping by, glad to hear it.
Surrounding ourselves with our friends and family is very important as they can help us realize that we will be find and we will find someone who is better suited for us. Thanks Bryce
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Hi Dia,
Your advice is spot on. Having positive people around you when you’re down is essential. They will not only help to pull you out of your despair, but keep you from sliding back down. And having a plan, even if it’s just coming up with a list of feel-good distractions until you truly feel better, is a fantastic idea.
Great insights!
Hugs,
Melody
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Hi Melody,
Exactly, when we have others beside us, we feel that we are not alone. They can help us focus on the positive in life. Thanks
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Sensible, heartfelt advise Dia. The ability to recognize the need for some self care (and patience throughout the process) is key to staying whole so we have a whole heart to give the next time.
Thank you for this,
Alex
Hi Alex,
Exactly my friend, once we take care of ourselves and start realizing that the more we give ourselves love, the more we can to others, the better our relationship will be. In other words, it is a growth process.
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Dia – this just makes sense, flat out. It’s practical, simple and easy for us to understand. I can only imagine that even a person who is experiencing the bout of “non-separation” could read this and see the light that it offers them.
Wonderful job Dia.
Best to you
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Hi JK,
Thanks my friend, yep sometimes, just reminding such people of what they might know could make a big difference in their lives. The key is to apply what they read and learn to their lives.
Thanks JK
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Hi Dia this is a great post, in fact a very special one, there are many people right now who need a friend or at least some wise words to heal the heart – your doing a great job
Blessing
Be will
Be great
Hi Lioyd,
Thanks for your kind words, helping people who want to move on from a relationship is a great thing as help them change their lives for better.
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Hi Dia,
This is really a brave and courageous article. Well most people are unable to move on like this but your article is powerful enough to help them. Thanks for sharing.
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Hi Shivam,
Yea, it is very hard for most people to move on quickly from a relationship, but it should take long. If they just change themselves internally and their interpretation to the situation, they are able to move a lot faster. The key is change from within. Thanks Shivam
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Hi Dia. Thanks for sharing this. It’s a very nice share. Sometimes, people are surely having a hard time to move on from their past. That’s sucks, I know.
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Hi Andrew,
Yea it could be hard, but it is not impossible to move on quickly.
Dia recently posted..How do I move on from a relationship
Really important topic Dia because you are so right that it is easy to fall into the trap of getting stuck after a relationship fails. I thought your list was great and insightful. I thought point #3 was really great advice. I had never really thought of the importance of making a plan, but you are so right. I like that ida because it is proactive and allows you to take matters into your own hands and see that you can control where you are going and how you really can put your focus on the right things and make good progress.
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We cling to bad relationships because of our poor self esteem, and as you said because we don’t think there is anyone out there who will love us. Some learn the hard way, but it is better to be single and happy, than in a bad relationship.
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hello dia
how are you?
I guess people find the difficulty in moving on because of the memorable times and events shared whilst in a relationship lasted. Besides a lot of emotions are involved and time is often required to heal wounds.
Your tips are quite helpful and a few of the things that have worked for me in the past are taking responsibility for my own happiness. I recognised the importance of being happy and would do anything constructive to make sure I’m happy
Also friends, family, networks are quite supportive when it comes to cheering one up, taking one
out or discussing the issue.
Finally planning is a good thing because it makes one evaluate the whole relationship, see what to look for in a relationship and when to start a new one….
take care and enjoy the rest of the day.
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I guess we’ve all been there, right?
There’s healthy moving on, and unhealthy moving on. We all chose the second one, at least at first. What i do in these situations is try to find new things to do, set high goals and invest that energy into something constructive. With time, the heart heals.
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My past caused me lots of troubles especially my self-esteem. Based from my experience, it is better not to know anything unless you’re at lest 50% over with your relationship. You can’t face your past partner if you’re still in pain to avoid pointing of finger. Also, insecurities from other people connected to your ex will surely arise. In this point, your ex will choose to be with other people than to have you in his/her life.
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Dia,
getting over a realtionship is not an easy thing. Particularly for those that have been in the relationship for a long time.
It is easy to get into a relationship rut and not know how to get out after it ends
Cheers,
Chase
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Engaging yourself in different social activities. Being alone all day long will only make you feel more depressed about the situation so making yourself busy is the way to go.
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