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Free from the past

Free from the past

Do you live in the past? How do you free yourself from the past?

There is no individual that hasn’t experienced pain or sadness as this is a normal thing in life. However, some stay living in the past for a long time. As life goes on, it becomes harder for them to overcome these negative feelings that they experienced and can end up in depression. When the individual keeps living in the past, he could be hurting his emotions, current relationships with others, lose focus, and become a procrastinator.

Some people wait for the new year to start making resolutions and new changes in their lives. What they don’t realize that every day is a new day and can be used for change. If you want to free yourself from the past, you shouldn’t wait for new year, you can start right now.

Holding on to the sadness and pain from the past is harmful since you will be focusing on the negative emotions, instead of focusing on the emotions of happiness. To overcome the sadness and depression that you acquired, you need to free yourself from the past and focus on the present time.

I want to live in the present

You might be saying I want to live free from the past and move on with you life, but don‘t know how. To learn how to become free from the past, follow the quick guide below:

1. Express your inner feelings

Talk to someone about the pain and sadness you feel. Expressing your emotions and venting helps to relax you. Don’t be shy to talk to someone about your pain and sadness. Talk and complain until you get everything out of your heart, so with time, you can move forward.

2. Decide to live in the present

“If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And, if you improve on the present what comes later will also be better.” -Paulo Coelho

Realize how living in the past is hurting you. Ask yourself, how it is affecting you? Is it affecting your relationship with others? Is it affecting your career? Is it affecting your health? If the answer is yes to these questions, then make a decision to free yourself from the past. Decide to take care of yourself first and you can do that by living in the present and by focusing on the positive qualities you have in your life.

3. You have a choice

You can’t control the actions of others, but you can control your thoughts and actions. You can commit to stop focusing on the bad experiences from the past and the pain you have. Choose to move forward and not backwards.

4. Know your responsibilities

Know that you were part of the event and situation and you could have done something to avoid what happened in the past. This doesn’t mean you are to blame, but you have to realize that you are not the victim, but you are a person who is a participant in life and its events like everyone else.

5. Forgiveness

Forgiveness will change your life for the better. However, forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to forget what has happened completely. What you have to do is forgive, so you can overcome the pain, anger, and sadness you hold from the past.

6. Acceptance

Accept the past completely. The past helps you to learn from and gain experiences.  Acceptance is the key to getting away from the past and moving on with your life. You are on the way to freedom if you accept what can’t be changed.

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26 Comments

  1. Powerful article Dia.

    To be free from the past, we must first acknowledge it and then choose to live in the here and now.

    Thanks for this important reminder.

    Alex

    • Dia says:

      Hi Alex,

      Exactly my friend, we do have to acknowledge it and then make a decision to live in the present, so we can overcome the negative emotions we have.

  2. Why would you wanna be free from the past if it is a beautiful past…?

    I have wonderful memories of my past

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rinatis,

      Of course we don’t want to free ourselves from the beautiful memories that we had in the past. This post is about freeing yourself from the past in regards to the negative emotions, not the positive ones.

  3. Lisa H. says:

    Great tips. It is only when we release the negative feelings of the past can we fully live in the present. It is up to us to decide how we want to feel about our live and then to do the things that will make it happen. Forgiveness, acceptance and choice are key.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Lisa,

      Exactly, we really have to release the negative feelings from the past, so we can live a positive life.

  4. This is quite possibly one of the most important decisions we’ll ever make in this life Dia– living in the present and not living in or dwelling on the past. What a negative behavior it can be to sit there and look back on our valleys of life and dwell on them, allowing them to affect our present happiness. Stuff happens to all of us. May we all look back fondly on the ups and downs of our life and be grateful they made us what we are today.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Marcus,

      Exactly my friend, it is an important decision that we have to make to live in the present and to free ourselves from the negative emotions that we acquires from the past. Once we do, we can experience prosperity and freedom.

  5. Joshua Noerr says:

    I always say, “You can’t drive your car staring in the rear view mirror.”

    Good stuff Dia

  6. Fernando says:

    I think you are totally right, Dia.
    It’s funny every time I read your blog I feel like you are talking directly to me.
    I’m in a moment of life I’m learning to let go and stop looking at the past. Thanks for the inspiration.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Fernando,

      Good for you my friend that you are letting go and focusing on the present time. It is crucial to put our sadness and depression in the past and focus on the present and our goals.

  7. ayo says:

    hello dia
    how are you?
    first of all thank you so much for contributing to this months edition of the magazine.
    you have touched on an important subject here and it is important we decide to move forward despite the obstacles that are in our ways. it is funny you mention forgiveness because i am currently writing about it.
    take crae and enjoy the rest of the day

    • Dia says:

      Hi Ayo,

      Exactly my friend, we have got to move forward and overcome the obstacles that are in our way. Once we leave sadness behind us and focus on the present, we are on the way to success.

  8. Elise says:

    I used to live in the past… not anymore. There’s only one way to go and that’s forward! Really great article, Dia. Thanks for the tips!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Elise,

      Good for you my friend, it is very curcial to become free from the past and move forward, so we can grow as human beings.

  9. Frank says:

    Dia,

    This was great. It is so important to live in the present and let the past go. You can’t change things that have happened but you can set up your present day to maximize your future. Thanks.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      Exactly my friend, we can’t change things that already happened. What we can do is live in the present and prepare for our future, so is necessary that we let go of the hurt pain that we experienced from the past.

  10. Whats crackling DIA,

    Live in the present. Live in the present. WHOO WHOO WHOO ( Eagles Rock). I just had to get that off my chest. None the less, you are absolutely wrong! Jking, your absolutely right. We must live in the present moment. You see ( breathe in, breathe out, I’m typing right now.) You see, live in the present moment folks, it all that matters. Great Post Dia.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jonathan,,

      I love your sense of humor ;) Exactly my friend, living in the present is crucial, so we can achieve happiness and our goals.

  11. Dandy says:

    Hi Dia,
    I just love reading your blog! This is another really good post. It can be very hard to move on when there is no sense of closuer. It can make one feel really stuck. You are right about acceptance! Without it moving on and living our lives wouldn’t happen. We would only stay stuck in our unhappiness. Thanks for the positivity Dia!

    ~Dandy

    • Dia says:

      Hi Dandy,

      Thank you for your kind words my friend. :) I agree that we have to accept the past including the negative experiences, and focus on the present. If we keep dwelling on the past, then we are in a sense wasting valuable time.

  12. Joe Wilner says:

    Dia,

    Great post! I meet with a friend today and we discussed how important it is to stay in the moment and learn to value each and every encounter we have. If we are worried about the past or future we will miss the impact the present moment has to offer and could really miss a great opportunity to grow as an individual. In this sense sometimes always being so goal directed, as I tend to be, can lead to neglecting the value in each moment.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Joe,

      I agree many people get worried about the future or keep living in the sad memories from the past and never live in the present time. It is crucial to give each moment its right, so we can grow as human beings.

  13. Holding on to the past can be a very limiting belief in one’s life. It can hinder progress because it will not make one focus on the priorities and needs of the present. A good way of letting go of the past is to see the past as an opportunity for learning. Every pain or mistake brings us closer to our best self. When we learn to view the past as a learning experience, we would not suffer the limiting beliefs it can have on someone.

    Thank you Dia for this past. This is very useful at this time of the year like now.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Tito,

      I agree we should view the past as a learning experience and focus on the present. By learning from the past and focusing on the present, we can grow, achieve our goals, and enjoy our moments.