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Forgiveness in life

Forgiveness in life

Is forgiveness a sign of weakness? Does unforgiveness hurt you? Does forgiving someone benefit you?

Every person should learn how to forgive, which really means when you think of someone that upset or hurt you, you wish him or her good and prosperity. When you don’t forgive people, then you are producing negative energy and are hurting yourself.

Negative definitions of forgiveness

1. Forgiveness means weakness

How many times have you heard people say to you that if you forgive someone who hurt you, then you are weak? There are many people who believe forgiveness is weakness and they don’t forgive the other person, so the other person won’t think that he or she is weak.

2. Forgiveness means controlling

Some people think that if you forgive someone, then you are giving the other person a chance to control you.

3. Forgiveness means you forget what happened

Some people think that if you forgive someone, then you are telling this person is ok what he or she did.

Unforgiveness Increases your negative emotions

As long as you stay thinking about the pain that the other person has caused you, the more your negative emotions will increase.

Jen mentions that she was with her friend in a restaurant, suddenly they disagreed about some topic. While Jen was going home, her thoughts became more and more negative toward her friend. Jen started to focus on the negative issues and on what is wrong with her friend. When Jen got home, her thoughts were full of negativity and her energy is down.

You see what happened over here? As long as Jen stays not forgiving her friend, her negative emotions towards her friend will be dominant, which is really not helpful for Jen. If Jen forgives her friend, a positive emotion will follow and she can start working on her goals. I mentioned in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals” that to be able to succeed, it is better if you have positive emotions.  Unforgiveness and resentment will stop Jen from being positive, but forgiveness releases the bad energy and frees her up, so she can grow as a human being in a positive way.

Benefits of forgiveness

When you forgive, you are thinking in the right and positive way, therefore, your emotions are positive. Practicing forgiveness will help you to dissolve the negative energy around you, will also clear up the relationships you have with everyone in your life, and freedom from the anger and resentment of the past.

If your goal is to learn how to be more forgiving, follow the quick guide below:

1. Realization

Your first have to realize that you have to forgive for your own benefits. When you realize that it is better for you to forgive, half the work is done.

2. Know your lesson

 Ask yourself, what is the lesson that this experience has taught you? Once you know the positive lessons you learned, this will help reduce and overcome your negative emotions.

3. Pray

There is a study that was done a few months ago on prayer and forgiveness, which showed the more you pray, the easier it becomes for you to forgive.

4. Action

Action is when you decide to forgive and then do it, which is the best you can do for yourself.

Always remember what Catherine Ponder said, “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an unemotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”

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  1. Frank says:


    Outstanding tips on the importance of forgiving. I have heard that caring around things from you past can also effect your health. There have been studies about people who have developed ulsers and even cancer from carring around bitter and stressful situations and not letting them go. It is better to forgive and forget. Great Job!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Frank,

      For sure my friend, unforgiveness can cause pain, ulcers, and affect our health. It is crucial for forgive for our sake.

  2. Love the fact that you wrote about this often over-looked and under appreciated topic of forgiveness Dia….This is something that I’m sure we can all continue to work on and refine— The art of just letting bad emotions, feelings, and words go.

    Great tips, thanks for sharing man.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Marcus,

      Exactly my friend, forgiveness is something we call continue to work on and improve. It helps to get rid of negative emotions.

  3. ayo says:

    hello dia
    how are you?
    is forgiveness the sign of weakness? my answer no!!! rather it’s a sign of strength.
    in certain circumstances it appears difficult to forgive but i dare say it’s the best option.
    forgiveness frees up the tense emotions, gives you peace of mind and it also allows you gain clarity.
    thanks for sharing these tips dia.
    take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Ayo,

      For sure my friend, forgiveness is a sign of strength, it is sad though that some people think forgiveness is a sign of weakness. You are right, forgiveness also gives us peace of mind and clarity.

  4. Only when we forgive, do we show how strong we are. Great post.

  5. Dandy says:

    I believe forgivness is a very private thing and that it has nothing to do with the person(s) who harmed you. It is not about letting them go. It is about letting ourselves go and moving on with grace and wisdom. I like what yous said about know your lesson. We do need to look at our strenths and victories! Thanks for sharing this important information!!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Dandy,

      Exactly my friend, forgivness helps us move on and helps us to lead a positive life.

  6. For me once you are motivated to change your past life in forgiving your self, this can be a better solution. one motto in my life is forgive and forget.
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