Why do I feel helpless?  I’m stuck in my life and nothing seems to work for me, why is that? 

Feeling stuck in life is very common across all walks of life.  Sometimes, things might not go the way you want them to be.  As you experience challenges in your life, you might start to feel stuck and frustrated from time to time. 

As you have fear, insecurities, and negative beliefs, you tend to feel that there is no way out.  You might start making weak decisions that will affect you negatively in the future. 

In order to end your feelings of being stuck, you need first to understand the root cause of why you tend to feel helpless.

Symptoms of helplessness

1.  Negative habits

Bad habits are hard to break and they can stand in your way of achieving your goals.  Ask yourself:

“Is there a habit I’m doing that is causing me misery?”

“What can I do to end bad habits from my life?”

“How can I substitute bad habits with good habits?”

These are all questions that you need to ponder as negative habits are a major source for helplessness.  (For more info, check power of habits: How to build good habits that last for ever.)

2.  Negative previous programming

Negative previous programming has also a big impact on your feeling of helplessness.  The experiences you go through have a direct impact on you and your attitude.

For instance, if you have failed in the past in your businesses and ventures, most likely you would have gotten affected.  Feelings of frustration and helplessness would start to surface again unless you take the time to correct any unwanted previous programming. 

3. Complains

Are you a complainer?  If so, you need to be aware of your complaining attitude so it won’t get you to a point where you lose hope.  Unfortunately, complaining drains your energy by focusing on what is missing in your life.

Instead, you need to shift focus by appreciating the blessings you currently have and by aiming for more good things to come your way.

4.  Lack of skills

Often folks who lack a certain skill feel helpless especially if the skill is necessary to help them reach an important goal that they have in mind.  They might believe the skill is too hard to acquire; hence they never even try or they might be too lazy to learn this new skill by saying there is not enough time.

How to overcome helplessness and frustration?

So how can you stop feeling helpless?  The answer lies in the following tips:

1.  Build good habits

Although, it might be a challenge to build good habits in order to combat helplessness, rest assured it can be done.  For example, if you want to open your own business, but you’re having a hard time finding time, then you might need to enhance your time management skills.  Once you do, you will become more enthusiastic about life and helplessness will decrease.

2.  Learn a new skill

Learning new skills is necessary to end frustration.  For instance, if you want to become a singer, but don’t have a good voice, you can then consider taking voice classes to learn the art of singing.  If you want to be a chef, but don’t know how to cook, then you would need to start practicing in order to become a professional chef.

Once you learn a new skills, your confidence in yourself will improve and you will be more competent to deal with any challenge that might come across your way.

3.  Fix your beliefs

As long as you believe there is no solution to your current dilemma, I guarantee you will stay feeling helpless.  Thoughts of giving up, unworthiness, and depression are very common.  So what is the solution?  Fix your beliefs!

One of the best methods that you can try to change your negative beliefs is by reminding yourself that there are at least two different ways of looking at a situation.  Ask yourself:

Is it worth it to keep voting yes to something you don’t want in your life?

Is it worth it to keep imagining the same scenario over and over again when you hate it?

Is it worth it to waste your precious time over trivial issues and circumstances? 

Remember, you have the chance to vote NO to any thought and belief that you do not like.  It is only a matter of using your vote in a way to help you succeed at whatever you desire in life.  Once you do fix your beliefs, there will be no room for feeling helplessness. 

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Do you have faith that you will reach your dreams and aspirations? Do you have faith that everything in your life will turn out to be beautiful as you dream to be? How do you increase faith in your life?

We all have challenges in our lives. Whether the challenges are from work, relationships, health, or money. Many people when they face an obstacle in life or face a challenge that they are not used to, they begin to give up on their aspirations. The dreams that they once have become part of the past; hence they stay stuck in their current unsatisfying circumstances. Are you one of those people?

If so, then you need to ask yourself; why is that? Is it because you can’t deal with such challenges and obstacles? Is it because you lack confidence in yourself? Or is it because you feel that you are not worthy of success?

Faith is the key to success

Yes, having faith is important if you intend to reach your goals. Otherwise, you would be doing like someone who is sowing some seeds, but has doubts that he will reap multiples. Even if right now you are having a hard time finding evidence to support you on your journey to success, you need to begin to trust that everything will turn out as you want it to. Life is full of obstacles and you can’t choose most of your events, but you can choose to have faith.

If someone tries to brainwash you into thinking you will never reach your goals and desires, then you need to become stubborn and persist until you reach your aspirations. Never listen to someone who tries to tell you that you are not worthy of success.

How to increase faith in hard times?

In order to increase faith in your life, especially in hard times, you need to do the followings:

1. Take some time to meditate

Nothing is helpful as much as taking the time to be by yourself to clear your head from all the chaotic thoughts. Thoughts are powerful whether negative or positive, so if you are experiencing some tough events, then most likely, your thoughts are negative and they could make your current situation worse.

Taking the time to meditate can help you calm your wavering thoughts and achieve serenity. When you are calm, you can then start to make a decision to help you find a solution to your current dilemma or find a way to get you closer to your wildest aspirations.

2. Be optimistic

There are at least two different ways to looking at an event; one positive and one negative. Why choose to look at the negative when you have a choice to look at the event as a positive experience you can learn from? Learning from the events that you experience on a daily basis will help you avoid making the same errors and mistakes that you have done in the past so you can reach your desired results.

When you look for the lessons, you are making a choice to be optimistic so you will correct any failure you have made, and reach your desires.

3. Surround yourself by a positive friend

This has been said a lot, but it is worth repeating; having a close friend that you can depend on during tough times is very helpful. Surround yourself by someone that you feel close with and ask him for some encouragement. Your friend might give you a tip or two that can help you see things differently and increase faith in your capabilities.

4. Count your blessings

Are you aware of the blessings that God has given to you? Are you appreciative of what you currently have? I personally take around half an hour a day to go over some of the blessings I currently have and immediately, my faith increases and start experiencing peace of mind.

You will not be able to gain much if you are unaware and not appreciative of all that is good in your life whether it is money, relationships, health, or career. The more you feel gratitude, the more you shall have.

5. Smile

Smile even if you don’t feel like it. Research shows that faking a smile and laughter has the same benefits as if you are smiling or laughing sincerely as the subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate between what is true or it is imagined.

Start to focus on smiling more and remind yourself to do so throughout your day. As your mood begins to improve, your faith will begin to deepen.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

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Has one of your children done something that you can’t forgive him for?

We all know the hard work that parents go through raising their children especially during their first years. As when the children are in their first years, they might do some things that can cause stress for the parents.

I have read a story about a man who went to the doctor’s office because his ears were full of glue.

The doctor asked him, “Why did you put glue in your ears.”

The young man replied, “I didn’t, it was my son who is four years old. He found me sleeping and saw that my ear is open so he wanted to close it with glue. Thank God he didn’t close my nose because I would’ve died.”

Doctor said, “You have to be careful next time.”

This story might seem funny to the reader, but it is a great example of some of the things that parents go through raising children.

I also remember hearing one of the rich men mention an incident with his daughter where she was holding an expensive ornament in her hand. His main goal was to get to his daughter before she drops it since it is a very expensive ornament, but unfortunately, she dropped it.

The young man goes on to mention that he wanted to spank her so hard for what she has done, but instead, he held himself and said, “Is my daughter important or the ornament? My daughter is more important of course.”

Then this young man went up to his bedroom and found his other daughter tearing a $100 check that he had on the hair dresser. In less than ten minutes, he lost the expensive ornament and a $100 check.

What would you do if you were in his place?

I remember also a friend who when he got home, his wife was very irate and angry. When he asked her, “What’s wrong?” She said, “Go see what your daughter has done.”

When he went upstairs to see his daughter, he found that she has shaved her hair completely.

These are just some examples that represent the trouble that parents go through raising their children. So what is the purpose of these stories?

The purpose is you have to learn to forgive your children. Yes, you have to help them and take care of them since they are born and they are going to do things that you might not like. However, you have to forgive them, so you let go of any negative feelings you might have and relieve your stress.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

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Did you give up on your goals? Did you let the dreams you once had die?

As a child, you probably had big dreams growing up. You started to envision yourself becoming a lawyer, doctor, a businessman, singer, or anything else that you have passion for. As you grew and years have passed by, you started doubting yourself from the thousands of NOs you have heard from your parents, friends, relatives, and society.

You began to lose confidence in yourself and started to view your goals and aspirations as something impossible that will never come true. You then began to give up on life and decided to live from day to day without having hope, faith, and belief that you can achieve all of your goals.

Has that ever happened to you? I’m sure it did as we all have experienced rejection, setbacks, and obstacles, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up on your dreams.

Imagination is the key

All of the accomplishments that you see today such as big corporations, sky scrapers, cell phones, I pads, computers, and television were someone’s dream at one point. One of the main differences between these people who have accomplished a lot and turned their dreams to realty and you is that they relied heavily on imagination and visualization. As Albert Einstein said, “Imagination is the preview of life’s coming attraction.”

If you look at your life now and don’t like what you see, then it is time to fix your mental images that you tend to focus on most of your time.

Of course, there are other reasons that are important and you have to acquire many of these areas if you are really serious about turning your dreams to reality, but let me tell you that imagination is one of them.

Never give up on your goals

I’m here to tell you persevere and never give up. If you continue working on improving yourself internally and externally, then within short time, you will see your dreams reflected in your life. I guarantee it.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

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Do people treat you harshly that you have lost the love for yourself?  What about your self esteem?  Is it high or low?

Children grow up loving and appreciating themselves. Without give in it any thought, they behave as they are gifted and capable of achieving whatever they want. However, between the ages 2-6, they start doubting themselves from the thousands of negative remarks they receive from their family and friends.

You were no different than the rest of the children. When you were born, you didn’t pay attention to any of the negativity around you, but as you started to grow, you started to get negatively affected by the thousands of NOs you received.

The past and your lack self-esteem

Most of our feelings of lack of self esteem stem from our past. If you are someone who were treated badly as a child from your parents, friends, or relatives, then the chances are your self-worth got affected by their treatment to you. You also probably started to avoid social situations and became afraid of rejection.

What you need to realize is that the past can’t be changed, but you can change your attitude towards it. You don’t have to let past experiences and past treatments affect your worth and your self-esteem.

Boosting your self-esteem

There are many methods that you can use to improve your self-esteem and self-worth. While there is no way for me to list all of them in this post, I will list one powerful tip and that is you need to begin assessing your weaknesses and strengths.

Ask yourself:

What am I good at?

What are my strengths?

What are my weaknesses?

What am I afraid of?

Then, when you recognize your strong points, you need to work on maintaining and enhancing them. When you also recognize your weak points, you need to come up with a plan to change whatever you are doing and start improving your self-image.

When you genuinely begin to understand yourself more than you do now, you will be on your way to building and boosting your self-esteem.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

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Do you suffer from depression? If so, then you would know how depressed people tend to think.

Depression is on the rise in many countries and this is evident in how many people give up on their goals and end up feeling sorry for themselves.

Depression is a serious illness that has a big negative effect on people. Unless you learn how to deal with it effectively, you are bound to lose hope and give up on life.

Thoughts of depression

In order to get a better understanding of what depression is, you need to get a better understanding of how the depressed people tend to think and how they interpret common situations.

When they think of a certain problem or issue and try to understand it, depressed people usually make a wrong interpretation where they take things too personally and look at the event in a negative way which often results in mental and emotional disorder.

These kinds of interpretations usually are exaggerated and they start believing something dangerous is going to happen to them. These kinds of negative and exaggerated assumptions are common among folks who worry a lot and who are depressed.

Therefore, you will find such folks expect the worst to happen to them and to their families. They expect to lose their jobs or businesses, they expect to lose their beloved ones, and they expect to fail at new business adventures and so on.

Depressed folks tend to exaggerate their weaknesses and tend to have low self esteem. When they do a mistake, they consider it a calamity and a disaster.

When they fail at reaching a certain goal, they start thinking to themselves thoughts that are similar to “I’m incapable person and I can’t reach my goals.” When a friend leaves him, he thinks “I’m starting to lose all my friends” or “There are no true friends.” Do you see the pattern here?

We also find that the depressed individual interprets positive situations as negative. For example, if he gets a job that he likes, he says, “I just got this job because they feel bad for my situation” or “I got this job due to coincidence.” In other words, most of their assumptions tend to be negative.

Why understanding depression is important

Understanding the thoughts that go behind individuals who are depressed helps you to learn about their pattern of thinking, so you can avoid it.

When you have a good idea of what thoughts tend to be detrimental and harmful, you can start to choose uplifting thoughts instead.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

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Note: This is a guest post by Moyo Mamora from Success and Purposeful Living

Many people have been robbed of their opportunity to live life to the fullest because of procrastination. They are no closer to their goals or achieving the desires of their heart because they have kept their plans perpetually in the future. Unfortunately, after a while these dreams and goals are abandoned in time. Brian Tracy says that many people never get anywhere in life because they are always vacationing in “Someday Isle”.

If you are going to achieve your goals and live your life to the fullest, you must learn to overcome procrastination. All men are dealt equal allotment of time, and what you do with yours is very important. Concerning your goals and your drams, the best time to start was yesterday, and the next best time to start is today. You must realize that “someday” is not a day of the week. Today is what you’ve got and you have to learn to make it your best day.

There is so much power in taking action now. If we borrow from the old maxim, “time is money”, we can illustrate the power of taking action now. If at the age of twenty-one you began setting aside $250 a month invested at 8%, at age sixty-five you will have over a million dollars in your investment account. If you had a friend who took a vacation at Someday-Isle for seven years and began his own investment at twenty-eight years old, this seemingly small $21,000 vacation will cost you him about $400,000 less than your own million. For someone reading, this may be your cue to open that investment account and start saving.

I believe this principle of compounding applies with the way we use our time. The little things we do to contribute to our vision and our goals compound, and over the long run, we are able to make giant leaps in life. Realize that one of the secrets to getting ahead is getting started now. Procrastination is an enemy of a progressive lifestyle.

For you to overcome procrastination, you must first starve the beast, and empower yourself to follow through on your goals and dreams with a strong decision and plan of action. The following are three things that feed procrastination in your life.

Depending on something or someone else rather than taking responsibility. Every time we wait for something to happen before we act, we make it easier to put off our goals and dreams to “someday”. There may be certain events that are beyond your control, but most times we have control in the midst of circumstances we face. All the pieces of the puzzle don’t have to fall into place before you act now.

Not seizing each moment. We all wish we had an extra three hours in a day, but the reality is that it won’t happen. You must learn to treat each moment in your day with much value. It’s amazing how much you can do in a day if you just decide to do little things with the little time we have in between our schedule. You can compose and send a quick SMS while riding up the elevator to that person you’ve been trying to have dinner with for weeks. You can make overdue phone calls to family while you stand in line at the grocery store checkout.

Making excuses. Excuses are the mother of failure. We can always find a good reason for something we did not do. For you to overcome procrastination, you must deprive yourself completely of the option of making excuses. This way you train your mind to do what’s necessary to get things done because for you there are no excuses.

Now that you know what to do to starve procrastination in your life, you can do the following to help you move ahead. Kinda like losing weight, it’s not just enough to go on a diet, but you also have to work out.

Decide to act. Nothing happens because we desire it, but things happen when we decide to act. Make a conscious decision to lose weight, save money, start blogging, spend more time with family, and write that book. Don’t let these things remain as a desire for you to do someday, but make a conscious decision to do it now.

Write down the plan. This is also an action step because it forces you to think critically about how you are going to do what you need to do. It takes what needs to be done from an idea to an action item.

Take action now! After all is said and done you must now act. Get going with the plan. It doesn’t matter how small the move you make is because the little things we do with our time compound over time and move us closer to our goals. Don’t wait till tomorrow or the New Year, rather, start now! Make use of every moment you have to do something that moves you closer to your dreams and your goals.

Here’s a challenge that if you take seriously, will move you closer to your dreams and your goals. Make a list of 10 things you’ve been putting off. It could be anything from getting a health check up, calling that friend or family member, going to the dentist, getting the car fixed,  replacing a broken door knob, cleaning out the garage, starting that investment account, starting a blog, etc.

Begin to take action on these now. I’ll like to hear from you, so feel free to share how things are going with me at http://moyomamora.com/contact/

You will feel more confident and powerful as you begin to take action now. Your goals and dreams will begin to feel more achievable because you have conquered procrastination in these little areas.  “Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So…get on your way!” Dr. Seuss 

Moyo Mamora is an inspirational speaker and an insightful teacher of Biblical life principles. He is the author of Young & Purposeful: Discovering and fulfilling purpose early in life, and Power Points for Success. He has a personal goal to empower people to live a victorious life! He blogs on Success and Purposeful Living. You can connect on twitter @MoyoMamora, and facebook: moyomamoralive

Are you a person who keeps suffering? Are you someone who keeps blaming life for your hardships? Are you someone who feels that life is not worth living?  How to end suffering?

Millions of people are expert at complaining and suffering. They are expert at playing the victim. Most of us humans have experienced such emotions. This is true for folks of all walks of life.

The good news is that there is a small group of people who tend to not let life challenges stand in their way of fulfilling their wildest dreams and desires. The question is are you one of them?

How to stop inner suffering?

When you face difficult times, you have to refuse to give up on your goals and desires. You have to abandon the thoughts that suggest you are not good enough and endorse the fact that you a spiritual being who is destined to win in life.

Successful people become winners in life not by the absence of obstacles and not by the absence of failure. They do face difficult times and challenges, but they value and learn from their experiences and mistakes.  They do whatever it takes to stay motivated in tough times.

Time to challenge the impossible

When Roger Bannister was told that it is impossible to run a mile under 4 minutes, he didn’t accept such fact. When doctors told him that his heart would stop, he didn’t believe them.

Bannister had a vision and refused to give up on his dream because someone said it was not possible. He refused to suffer by persisting to make his visions come true. He didn’t accept the fact that he has to settle for less than what he believed he was capable of achieving.

You, my friend can learn from Roger Bannister and the likes of him. You can start first to fix your beliefs to help support you on your journey of success. You can start planning and knowing that achieving your desires is no more than going straight after your goals whatever they may be.  The real question is are your ready to stop suffering and become a winner in life?

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

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Are you in search of happiness? How can you be happy?

Folks of all walks of life are continuously searching for happiness. It makes us feel good and it puts us in a very positive, high energy. It is our nature to be happy, but for some reason many have abandoned their happiness and chose struggle instead.

In this post, I’m not going to tell you how to be happy, but what I’m going to do is give the characteristics and traits of folks who are happy and enjoying life to the fullest.

Characteristics of happy people

They live in the present

Happy folks have no time to waste and no time to worry over something they have done in the past or something that might happen in the future. They know that what they have control of is the moment.

When they are with friends and family, they focus on nurturing their relationship. When they are working, they focus on giving their best to make a positive difference in the society that they live in and in the world. They have learned to overcome their mental laziness which is one of the main reasons of happiness.

They love themselves

Happy people are folks that love and accept themselves. If there is something they don’t like about themselves, they work on changing it and developing positive habits. They have no time to criticize themselves unconstructively. They know that they were born winners and are capable of achieving their wildest desires.

They love to give

Various studies show that happy people practice the art of giving constantly. Giving doesn’t mean money only, but it includes giving love, giving a smile to the person in need, giving compassion to elderly and children, and feeding the hungry.

If you learn to give sincerely, you will begin to notice a shift in your consciousness and will begin to experience happiness.

They are grateful

Happy people do not take things for granted. They are appreciative of all the blessings they have. They are thankful that they have a family to love. They are thankful they have a roof over their head. They are grateful for their jobs and business. And most of all, they are grateful for being a life.

Break through the barriers

Break a way from the hand cuffs you have placed on your life. Never play the role of victim and begin to take charge for your life. There is a lot more to you than you have realized. The question is are you willing to break away from the jail you have put yourself into?

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

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Why am I always depressed? How can I help myself to overcome depression.

Jennifer has always been known for her lack self of esteem. Whenever someone gives her a compliment, she immediately starts to think that the compliment is insincere and that whoever is complimenting her is doing so out of feeling sorry for her.

Many folks especially young adults and teenagers identify with the story above as their emotions tend to be not well developed at that time and many feel lost in this world.

Before I can tell you why you are depressed, let me explain to you what is depression and why it affects millions of people on a regular basis.

What is depression?

Depression is a state of mind where you feel that your life is miserable and not worth living. Many folks in fact feel there is no way out and wish to end their lives as discussed in my previous article “I’m so depressed, I want to die.”

As I mentioned in my book “How to have peace of mind” that when you feel depressed, it is no more than you focusing on what is wrong and missing in your life. To fix that you need to pull the switch and start looking in the other direction. However, how can you look at the bright side when all you see is black clouds? Let’s find out…

Focusing on your dreams is the solution

If you are reading this, then I’m sure you have dreams in your life that you want to accomplish and I’m sure you are here to get yourself out of depression.

If you are really serious about turning your life around then you need to revive your dreams and find a meaning in your life. This requires immediate shift of focus from what is gloomy to what is exiting.  Are you ready to make that shift?

Start right now by becoming more aware of your regular self talk and start choosing thoughts, ideas, and feelings that will help you along your path. Only then you will be able to overcome depression and start living your dreams in the real world.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

Peace of mind quotes

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