“As within so without” is a law which basically means whatever thoughts and feelings you have inside of you, you will find them in your external world.

Whatever you hold true inside of you, will be evident in your friends, environment, health, and life. If you have internal peace, happiness, and love, you will be in a peaceful, happy, and loving environment.

Now, if you want peace in the world, first you have to find peace within you. If each one of us takes the responsibility and work at achieving inner peace, then we will have external peace, not only in our lives, but in the entire world.

All the stress, anxiety, and worry you feel is due to your inner world of thoughts and emotions. If you fix them, you will begin to experience inner peace and serenity.

As within so without example

A man who wanted to live in the town where Aristotle lives asked, “How are people in this town? Are they good? Bad?” Aristotle replied, “How are people in your town?” The man responded, “They are not good, which is why I want to leave the town.” Aristotle responded, “The same over here.”

After a while, another man came and asked Aristotle the same question, “How are people in this town?” Aristotle responded, “How are people in your town?” The man said, “They are very compassionate and respectful. This is the major reason why it is very hard to leave such people, but I have to do it for the sake of seeking knowledge.” Aristotle responded, “The people over here is the same, they are full of compassion and respect.”

What we learn from Aristotle’s response is that whatever you hold true internally, you will find it externally every where you go.

There are some folks when they leave their work, complain about their boss, colleagues, and the ambiance, yet they seem to find themselves in the same situation with different people later on. Ever wondered why is that?

Unless they work on fixing their internal world of imaginings, thoughts, and emotions, they will keep finding themselves in similar circumstances.

When we talk about this law “As within so without” we have to mention beliefs. It is beliefs, not negative thoughts that have a big impact on us.

Most of us think negative thoughts daily, yet most of these negative thoughts don’t manifest. It is when those thoughts turn into beliefs they will start bringing results in our lives.

People tend to hold various beliefs inside of them. For example, some think when they see a black cat, then something bad is going to happen. Now, if you hear such a statement and don’t believe in it, it won’t affect you, but if you hear such statement and start believing it, results shall follow.

Every time you see a black cat, you will start expecting bad news and guess what happens when you expect something to happen? It usually does happen, it is cause and effect or as the law says, “as within so without.”

Changing yourself internally

You might say this is all wonderful, but “How can I change myself internally? How can I change my beliefs?” Great questions! One of the best methods used to change the beliefs you hold inside of you is by holding a session with yourself to explore your beliefs.

Once you explore your beliefs, then you can start making changes to these beliefs that you hold. I will discuss some of the methods in a later article to help you overcome negative beliefs.

Remember what Diana Cooper said, “The universe will reshape itself to reflect your reality.”

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

For more information, read:

How to reach your goals?

Power of positive thinking

How to find inner peace?

What are the top goal setting mistakes that people make?

Whether we want to achieve healthy relationship, improve our health, achieve inner peace, we start creating goals that will help fulfill our super-objective and vision in life.

Goal setting helps to improve and enhance our relationships, health, happiness, career, and business according to various studies. Unfortunately, the majority of people fail to achieve their goals in life due to many various reasons.

Top goal setting mistakes

Impatience

This is a big one! Whenever we want to achieve something, we usually want it now, not tomorrow or the day after. If we don’t see immediate results or signs that we are getting closer to our goals and vision, we tend to give up.

One of the best ways to combat impatience is to develop a plan and not to expect immediate results due to the fact that many of us give up right when we are about to reach what we dream of having.

Lack of motivation

Lack of motivation is a major reason why people fail to achieve their desires in life. Usually if a goal is too hard to achieve, people tend to lose their motivation quickly.

One of the best ways to increase motivation is to look at the end result. When you keep focusing at the benefits you will achieve in the long run, you are more likely to get out of your comfort zone, do whatever it takes, and stay motivated.

Fear

Fear is what keeps most people stuck where they are. Whenever we want to accomplish something, we start asking ourselves questions such as:

• What if I try and fail?
• What if I don’t do well?
• What if I don’t accomplish what I want?

I’m not going to tell you that everything is going to be perfect and you won’t face any obstacles on your way, but if you don’t face your fear and stay in your comfort zone, you will not be able to move forward and reach your goals.

Remember, the only way not to make any goal setting mistakes is to not try at all.

Next time when you set a goal and fear you will fail, go ahead and do it any way. You will then find your fears have no basis.

Not setting time to visualize your goals

Let’s face it, if you don’t use visualization to help you program your subconscious mind with what you want to achieve, it is likely that you won’t reach your goals.

Visualization is my personal favorite method to use to help me focus on what I want in life. It is also one of the best methods used to raise your vibration and increase your energy as I discussed in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals.” When your energy is high, you will be more inclined to keep going until you achieve your dreams.

Not setting clear goals

Some folks tend to think in general such as “I want to be rich” “I want to lose a lot of weight” “I want to travel every where.” These statements however are not specific.

Your goal has to be specific and should be in the present tense such as “I want to make 10,000 a month” “I want to travel to Greece” “I want to lose 10 pounds in three months” and so on…

Having clear goal helps your subconscious mind understand the message you are trying to send and it helps you know when you get there.

Procrastination

Among the top setting goal mistakes that people make is the fact that everything has to be perfect before you start taking a step towards your goal. If you believe in this concept, then let me tell you that your goal is not reach perfectionism; your goal should be to reach excellence, which is very different than perfectionism.

In my previous post “How to stop being a perfectionist?” I mentioned how seeking perfectionism is a major cause for worry and anxiety and it can have a negative impact on reaching your vision.

Remember that the process to success is a “ziz-zag” journey as discussed by my friend, the master Rob White.

 Now that you are aware of the top goal setting mistakes people tend to make, you can start making changes in your daily routine, so you can avoid all of these pointers.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

For more information, read:

How to reach your goals?

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Note:  This is a guest post by Ashwani Kumar from Motivational thoughts for you

The whole universe we see around us today had a fiery beginning. It started around approximately 14.3 billion years ago. From an infinitesimal entity it changed and grew to become what it is today. Even after 14.3 billion years it is still growing and expanding. That which started out as nothing and nowhere is now everywhere and is huge beyond human comprehension.

How to go from being small and humble to becoming big and great?

Humble Beginnings:

This shows that anything no matter how big has a humble beginning. Everything has to have a start, a beginning somewhere and most of the times it is always small. Many of the great organizations that we see today were once small and most of them were started in garages or living rooms. The greatest skyscrapers we see today started out as simple bricks and blocks of steel. It is the same with every great musician, great athlete, a great doctor or a great scholar. Every artist was once an amateur. We look upto great men and marvel at their success but we do not acknowledge the effort they put to reach the state, we rarely accept the fact that they started out as one amongst us.

Vision and Inspiration:

The skyscraper, the end result should inspire you, it should act as a vision, something for you to strive for. The magnanimity of the task shouldn’t deter you, do not get scared thinking of the end result; instead let it guide you and let it push you towards greater efforts. Whatever your dream, whether to get a great job, to build a successful company or to see the whole world, start it now. Take one small step towards your goal. No matter how small just take the step. Just do it. Move forward on the road to success one step at a time.

Fear:

Many of us are overwhelmed when we think of the end result; at times the dreams are so big that their sheer size and mere thought sends shivers through us. Many do not begin at all, for them it is easier to resign themselves to their fates, it is easier to go along the flow rather than work each and every day. Few begin in earnest and abandon the dream in between, they consider it futile, the convince themselves of the difficulty of the task and find a hundred reasons to abandon it.

What to do?:

Let this not happen to you, instead of thinking too much and getting scared, focus on the task at hand, concentrate on what you can do today, this very moment. Divide the entire journey from your present point to success into small parts and complete each part at a time. You cannot become a success overnight. To become an expert takes years of practice and hardwork. As any great structure is built brick by brick; so it is with success, which is built upon the day to day grinding, hardwork, tasks and activities.

Persist:

The real secret to success is persistence, the cool and calm will which returns fresh everyday to tackle new tasks and challenges, which calmly says I will try again tomorrow, which does not rest until the end result is achieved. Great things are built by a humble, calm and a patient determination, apart from the mighty shoves, it is the single pushes each and every day that matter the most.

Obstacles:

The road to success is full of obstacles and is very long too. Rarely few make it. Do not let the journey overwhelm you; do not let the thought of the end result scare you. Just start and many if not most of the things can be sorted along the way. You will realize that most of the obstacles and fears were only imaginary and did not exist anywhere except in your mind.

Growth:

Growth whether physically, spiritually or financially is a process. It is a process which takes time and energy. If you not willing to spend time and energy your chances of success are very slim. The key point in growing and going places is getting started. There is no journey without a beginning. You need not be born with great skills or talents, you need not be a genius, all that is required is a relentless desire to excel and to get better each day. Push and Practise each day, every day.

Becoming a Giant:

The giant bamboo tree is a tiny seed in the beginning, from the humble little seed springs up a tree growing very tall. If you look around you will find countless examples of humble beginnings and mighty endings. Do not be overwhelmed by these but get inspired. In time the seed you plant or your idea can become big.

You need to make a start, push and stretch. You need to go beyond your comfort zone, only then you can move away from being an amateur to an expert, from being small and insignificant to being big and strong. So, what are you waiting for, go ahead start small and finish big.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

For more information, read:

How to reach your goals?

Achieving your goals quickly

How to achieve your goals through action?

What is laughter yoga? Does laughter yoga really help decrease stress and worry? How to do laughter yoga?

Laughter yoga is a new form of yoga that is found in 66 countries around the world. It is based on breathing and laughter exercises that will let anyone laugh without having a reason to do so, how nice is that?

Laughter yoga started in India by a physician called Madan Kataria in 1995. He wrote an article on how laughter is the best method to relieve stress and anxiety from our lives, so he went down to his garden and gathered four people around him and started telling each other jokes and short, funny stories. However, after ten days, they realized that they ran out of jokes, so they stopped laughing.

Then Madan Kataria told his friends to give him a few days to come up with a new way to laugh without any reason. In other words, his goal was to create something so they can laugh without relying on funny jokes and comedy.

He then got inspired by the small and young children as they tend to play and laugh simultaneously. Then he said, “why not create a club so we can laugh without a reason and start playing like the young children and laugh?” Isn’t this wonderful?

Benefits of laughter yoga

• Improved energy
• Relaxed muscles
• Clear state of mind
• Improved self esteem
• Improved immune system
• Strengthened heart
• Increased production of endorphins

Principles in laughter yoga

1. Breathing and stretching

Most of us are aware that when we are stressed and anxious, our breathing tends to be shallow and we stop breathing in an efficient matter, which in the long turn, it will cause many illnesses. When you practice laughter yoga, you will learn how to breathe correctly, how to inhale and exhale more efficiently.

Relax your shoulders and bend down slowly trying to reach the floor, then go back up and stretch your arms up high while taking a deep breath. Repeat this process a few times.

2. Childish behavior

Yoga laughter contains childish behavior where you start saying something like “ho ho ha ha ha” while clapping at the same time. Make sure when you clap, to put your fingers together and your hands stuck to each other because in the middle of your hands, you have points that will increase your energy according to Madan Kataria.

3. Laughter exercises

Laughter exercises are designed to improve your playfulness and bring you to a child-like state. Exercises can be anything from behaving like your favorite animal to imagining that you are getting an electric shock when you shake someone’s hand. As you and the other participants in the group giggle and laugh, you will begin to loosen up and stress begins to diminish.

The good news about it is that the body doesn’t differentiate between real and fake laughter, so when you laugh, you are getting the same health benefits.

Once you incorporate laughter yoga in your day, it will become a way of life. It will boost and improve your immune system, enhances your happiness, and you will begin to experience more fun in your day, which in return, will help you overcome your excessive stress, worry, and anxiety.

Try laughter yoga and you will begin to feel that your laughter has turned to its natural state like when you were a child.  When you laugh, you are doing a good deed, not only for yourself, but for others as well. Remember, you deserve to laugh and be happy.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to have peace of mind answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

Smile 400 times a day

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How to get out of an abusive relationship?  I can’t really take the abuse anymore!

Nicole and Steven seemed very happy when they first started dating. They seemed like the perfect couple and many of their friends envied them. A few months after they started dating, Steven’s behavior changed. He started to verbally abuse her, control where she goes, and some times abuse her physically.

Nicole is helpless right now and doesn’t know how to leave the abusive relationship. What once was fun and exiting relationship, now it is dangerous and abusive.

I believe it is safe to say that the majority of us want a healthy and harmonious relationship, however not all of us do. After all, if everyone wants healthy relationship, everyone would treat their partner with respect and care, but unfortunately it is not always the case.

Helpful things to have to get out of an abusive relationship

• Self confidence
• High self esteem
• Financial independence

I’m abused, help me

If your goal is to learn how to get out of an abusive relationship, then follow the below steps?

1.  Know you deserve to be treated with respect

Know that under no circumstances, you should be abused. You deserve to be treated with respect and care at all times. If your partner stops respecting you and instead starts to verbally or physically abuse you, then you need to do something to stop it.

I can hear you say, “How can I make my partner respect me?” Let me tell you that there is more than one way to accomplish this like understanding yourself more, raising your self esteem, and improving your confidence among other ways.  (read…for more info on respect)

2.  Know you are not alone

Recognize you are not alone and that there are many people in your life who are more than willing to help you. Find someone close like a close friend, sibling, or your parent and share with them your concern and situation.

3.  Seek professional counseling

I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that relationship counseling can help improve and save many relationships. Whether your goal is to improve your current relationship, get out, or stop the abuse, you might want to consider talking to a relationship coach to help you deal with your current problem and get out of the abusive relationship.

Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by 2achieveyourgoals.com to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

For more information, read:

How to deal with emotional abuse

How to save your relationship and marriage

How to build healthy relationships

Note:  This is a guest post by Hiten from Stuttering hub

Attending social events is part and parcel of being a social being. This includes birthday parties, evening dinners, Christmas parties, social get-togethers with friends and work colleagues. No big deal right?

Well, for some people, social events are the last thing they want to go to. In fact they would do anything and come up with all kinds of reasons to avoid them.  You might be like this and want to make changes so you can attend social events, have a good time and meet people.

Well the good news. You don’t need to worry or get depressed. You can attend that upcoming work drinks social coming up.  How you might ask?  By accessing and applying the right states. Let me explain further…

Although you may not have realised it, when you get nervous or frightened of social events, you most likely have some thoughts in your mind. There are corresponding feelings throughout your body, telling you that that you can’t go into a social situation.

The nervousness and fear you experience is an example of a state that you experience; in this case it is an unhelpful and negative state.  Sometimes you can get in such a negative state about social situations; it feels like no way out.  However, you can.

You can do this by engineering a more powerful state, accessing it and then applying it to the negative state. This is known as meta-stating and is a technique familiar in the area of Neuro-Semantics (web link here: http://www.neurosemantics.com).

If you are worried about going to a social event, you can use the following steps to help you:

1. Identify an emotion that you know will help you go into social events

Let’s say you are about to go into a party situation. You become nervous when you think about chit chatting with new people. In this case you would like to have more assertiveness to talk with others.

Well, you firstly identify an assertive experience you have had before. For instance, you may have assertively closed a sale at work. Imagine this experience again vividly, so you fully experience it as if it is happening again. See what you saw at the time. Feel what you did, and hear the sounds you did. 

2. Increase the state even more!

As you experience a strong state of assertiveness, then increase it some more! Imagine you have an internal dial and turn it round to crank it up some more! 

3. Apply it to the nervousness of chit chatting with new people

As you feel all the feelings associated with your assertiveness, now apply this state to the “nervousness of talking at the event”.  You can do this through a number of ways. You can do it through feelings, and move the feeling of assertiveness to the feeling of nervousness.  Also, you can take a visual image of assertiveness and move this image to the image of nervousness.

Alternatively, you can do this by using words where you say to yourself, or say out loud, powerfully the word ‘assertive’ and apply it to any unhelpful words you might tell yourself such as “I’m nervous”.  Try out a few ways to determine which way of applying a state to another is most powerful for you.

4. Notice the changes

As you apply assertiveness to nervousness, how does your powerful state of assertiveness actually transform your initial state of nervousness? 

It is highly likely that you will feel different. The nervousness might have just totally disappeared! At the very least you might be experiencing a confident sense of “assertive nervousness”.

For those of you who are little more technical, here is a little explanation of what is going on here. What you have done is to encapsulate the unhelpful state (nervousness) within a higher powerful state (assertiveness). The higher state now governs the state below it!

5. Welcome in the new state

Now fully welcome this new state of assertiveness into your mind-body.  How does this new ‘assertiveness’ fit for you? Does it empower you as a person? Does it enhance your life?  “Yes”, I hear you say? Great! Get out there and start socialising!

So there you have it! Meta-stating is a very simple and effective way, which can help you get into social situations, to have fun and start living your life. 

And remember, you can access and apply this state of assertiveness, or any other powerful state you choose, to an unhelpful state, before you go into any future social event!

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to overcome worry answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

31 tips on finding peace of mind

What is the best way to attain peace of mind?

How to get peace of mind?

How to have a stress free life? Is there is a way to eliminate stress once and for all?

When I first got into personal development in 1998, I thought once I study personal development, then I can come to a point where I will have no stress anymore. I thought that I would eliminate stress and anxiety once and for all from my life.

Almost fifteen years later, I still face challenges and I still do get stressed from time to time, but I’m in a better position now to control and manage anxiety.

While there are many methods that we can use to manage worry, anxiety, and stress, there is one method that I personally use which works very well for me and that is emotional detachment.

Emotional detachment and stress free life

When we feel attached to an idea or an emotion, we become kind of slaved to this idea or emotion. Have you ever been at work and your day was not productive like some other days and then you got stressed because of it? Did you ever get angry at someone because they didn’t behave the way you want him or her to behave?

Being attached to an idea, a concept, or an emotion can be harmful for you especially if it is negative. You are here to lead a happy life filled with success, not to struggle and suffer. Once you let go of this attachment, you will begin to feel better almost immediately and begin to experience inner peace in life.

Emotional detachment and success

There is a big difference between wanting to reach success and being attached to it. When you want to achieve success or something you want like a healthy relationship, peace of mind, money, or anything else, you will be optimistic, happy, and enthusiastic. You will be enjoying your journey and looking forward for what is coming.

On the other hand, if you are emotionally attached to something you want to achieve and negatively obsessed over it, your emotions most likely will be full of doubt and fear. You will also begin to lose your passion and enthusiasm due to the fact that your happiness is at stake.

Once you learn to become emotionally unattached to anything in life, you will begin to find peace of mind more often in your life. You will begin to become in harmony with everything else and you will be on your way to lead almost a stress free life.

Always remember that “There are things that we never want to let go of…But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to overcome worry answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

For more information, read:

31 tips on finding peace of mind

What is the best way to attain peace of mind?

How to get peace of mind?

What are the top reasons for not achieving your goals? What is your excuse for not reaching your dreams?

In life, sometimes we achieve our goals and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t reach what we want, either we learn from what happened and use it to our advantage or we start coming up with excuses for not achieving what we desire. Which category do you fall into?

Top excuses for not achieving your goals

1.  Waiting for everything to be perfect

If you are waiting for everything to be perfect, then let me tell you something, this will never happen. There is a big difference between waiting for everything to be perfect and excellence. If you don’t take the necessary steps and begin doing the necessary steps to help get you closer to your goals, then you will be waiting for ever.

We humans learn by practice and by doing, not by waiting for everything to be perfect. You have to try different ways and methods so you can find what works for you. Only then you can reach excellence and begin to achieve your goals in life.

2.  I’m too old/I’m too young

When we are too young, we usually lack wisdom and when we are too old, we usually lack optimism and enthusiasm. Of course, there will always be exception, but since the majority fall in one of these categories, many end up not achieving their goals because of this prominent excuse.

What you need to do is to start looking through the history and look around you, you will begin to see various examples of people at various ages achieving great things in life. As I stated in my book “the ultimate guide to achieve your goals,” what it comes down to is your mentality, how determined you are, and your attitude, not your age.

3.  My time is limited

How often do we hear someone say “My time is limited” or “I’m too busy I don’t have enough time?” This is one of the major excuses that we often use to keep us still where we are. Look at the history of top achievers and you will realize that they also had 24 hours a day, just like you and me. The difference is that they were excellent at managing their time and taking responsibility for their lives.

If you fall in this category and you tend to always make excuses for not finding enough time to pursue your goals, then you need to learn time management techniques. This is an important skill that you must develop if you really want to reach your goals in life.

4.  I don’t have….

The “I don’t have…” excuse is another major excuse that keeps many people from achieving their goals in life. This is something that goes like:

I want to exercise, but I don’t have energy

I want to be in a healthy relationship, but I don’t have an attractive body

I want to start my own business, but I don’t have the money

It is time to make a decision and put an end to all these excuses as they don’t serve you one bit.

5.  I’m afraid to fail

Some people unfortunately focus their attention on failing more than on success. When we focus on negativity, we begin to attract similar thoughts and situations. It is the cause of lack of peace of mind, unwanted stress, and worry.

When we learn to expect the positive, we begin to move in the direction of where we want to go and we will achieve our goals in time. We begin to learn from life challenges and start to use these experiences to our advantage.

6.  I’m too tired

How often do you hear someone say, “I’m too tired to do anything?” The fact of the matter is there are things that you can do to increase your energy throughout the day and you won’t feel much tired.

Start eating smaller meals, get up one hour early to stretch and exercise, and drink more water. Once you start incorporating some energy boosters in your day, you will get rid of this “I’m too tired” excuse and you will start making plans to reach your goals.

These are the top excuses for not achieving our goals that many of us use on a daily basis. Now that you are aware of these excuses, you can put an end to them.

Always remember George Carver said, “Ninety nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.”

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

For more information, read:

How to reach your goals?

Achieving your goals quickly

How to achieve your goals through action?

Note:  This is a guest post by Ronnie Brown from http://ronniebrownlifesystems.com/

Notice I didn’t name this article “Five Simple Ways to Achieve Your Goals.” I chose not to use the word simple for a specific reason. I don’t want to disillusion anyone as to the process of personal development and goal achievement. It’s not necessarily simple, no matter what route you take. But I can guarantee you meet with success if you apply the five methods I’m going to share with you today.

Achieving goals is not always an easy thing to do, per se, otherwise the millions who make New Year’s resolutions this time every January wouldn’t start working towards a goal only to stop dead in their tracks two weeks later, letting yet another year slip through their fingers. As the saying goes, if it were easy everyone would be doing it. But what is easy, is usually unfulfilling. Any goal we may aspire to, is also worth the effort it takes to achieve it.

Likewise, I’m not going to tell you that you can’t achieve your goals because they’re too hard and you may not have what it takes. That simply isn’t the case. The irrefutable truth about setting and achieving goals is simply this: you can and you will, if you do all the right things consistently.

Far too many people waste New Year’s Day resolving to change this or to change that in their life, to lose weight and feel great, to kick bad habits to the curb… the list goes on and on. Yet we’re told by statisticians that the vast majority will kick their resolutions to the curb instead of the bad habits they wish to cease, less than a month after making them. Why is this?

With the advent of the New Year, comes the idea of starting over from a clean slate. Motivation and a sense of hopefulness is what we feel when we think of a second chance or a new beginning. But motivation is temporary and therein lays the problem.

You see, we generally only act when we are motivated, or rather when we feel motivated and we feel like taking action. The deeper issue here is how we feel from one day to the next generally varies to such a great degree that we lose the feeling of motivation not too long after we get it. Thus we end up getting caught in a cycle of feeling unmotivated, eventually falling back into the same patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that lead us to our unfulfilled disposition the first place. Our “resolution” no longer motivates us or elicits hope.

Why is it so hard to get motivated, stay motivated, to really take control of life, to make changes and achieve our goals once and for all?

Because every single one of us is an emotional human being. Being emotional, we tend only to act based on how we feel. If I don’t feel like getting up and going to the gym in the morning, I’m probably not going to go. Why? Because I don’t feel like it. You see, feelings are the determining factor here and instead of using my God-given gifts of free will and self-awareness, I’m allowing my feelings and emotions to automatically govern my choices for me. It’s like being on auto-pilot emotionally and irrationally.

What you feel like from day-to-day, moment-to-moment ultimately determines and governs your choices and behavior. I implore you to take a moment to reflect on this.

But what if there were a definite way to feel motivated all the time? What if there were a definite way to feel like taking bold action every single day so you could finally achieve your heart’s desires and be able to stand proud knowing you do have what it takes? I’m here to tell you there is such a definite method for getting and staying motivated. There is a better way to live than feeling like you have to fight your emotions every single day.

There is an expression that says, “Motion beats meditation,” which basically means acting on something is better than dwelling on the idea of it and not doing anything about it. I believe this is self-evident. What may not be self-evident is an insight I share with people I coach, which is “Motion beats motivation.” What this means is that taking action is more important than feeling motivated in order to take action. When you do take action despite how you feel, you find that motivation, confidence, and achievement always follow as you begin to rack up one victory – one success – after the next.

The most powerful progress you will make in achieving your goals comes as a direct result of acting consistently, whether you feel like it or not, whether you feel motivated or not. Hence, motivation perpetuates and becomes a new, positive habit.

Trust me I know this is a lot easier said than done! I lived it for years, acting on inspired ideas only when I felt motivated, but always eventually succumbing to the “I don’t feel like it” syndrome once again, (a name I gave to the experience of feeling motivated enough to do something one day, but not the next, a force that seems to plague us all.) But I finally “snapped” out of it when I had the sudden epiphany that if I act only when I feel like it – if I allow my moods and emotions to govern my life – I will never achieve my goals. I knew that my life would be at the whim of my feelings, which seemed to change with the ebb-and-flow of each passing day.

So what are some definite, guaranteed steps one may take in achieving their goals?

Following is a list I work from to teach my students and friends how to achieve goals with certainty:

1. Believe in YOU

We tend to seek our validation and potential from others, desiring for everyone to notice us, believe in us, and have confidence in our potential. But none of that matters if we don’t have that same belief and confidence in our self; if we don’t notice we are already more than enough to do anything we endeavor to do. Never seek validation from others. They can only reinforce and reaffirm what you already decide to accept about your true value and worth. Only you can achieve a goal, therefore faith in your capacity to do so must be yours.

2. Master your emotions.

This means to be the one in control and authority of your feelings and mood. Master the way you feel so you never fall victim to the “I don’t feel like it” or the “I’m not in the mood” syndrome like the vast majority does.  Don’t be average.  Don’t be a victim of your wavering mood and emotions.  Be victorious over them.  You do NOT have to live in medicority.

3. Eliminate limiting beliefs.

Strip yourself of negative, limiting, restricting beliefs. Observe your life and notice what beliefs and thoughts you have that do not serve you, then destroy them. Get rid of what doesn’t work for you; embrace what does. Limiting beliefs are like a straight-jacket on your potential. Change your beliefs, change your life. 

4. Transform your self from the inside out

and create the world around you by conquering fear and defeating your personal demons. Everyone is afflicted by the shadows and demons of fear and self-doubt. No one is exempt. We all possess an equally powerful capacity to overcome these shadows of our lower self. Your life does not have to be a roller-coaster of emotions. You do not have to live feeling like you’re taking one step forward, only to take three steps back. Success is an inside job.  Conquer your fears. 

5. Think accurately and optimistically about your life and goals.

Seek out the guidance of a mentor or coach. Surround yourself with others who encourage you and are also of like mind. Learn to speak positively and powerfully about your self-worth and potential because your words create your reality. Act boldly without procrastination, hesitation or fear. Action produces genius, magic, and power. Develop the courage of a brave warrior, and live your life accordingly.

Do you really want to achieve your goals?

Believe in YOU. Master your emotions. Eliminate limiting beliefs. Transform your self first, then the world around you. Be optimistic, speak empowering words in all you do, and act boldly in the face of fear and uncertainty. Seek guidance from others who have been there and achieved what you wish to achieve. Tap your potential. Never underestimate the pivotal role these things play in your life.

Do these steps sound easy for you? Or does it sound like more than you can handle? Ultimately, that depends on your perspective. But I can tell you this much from personal experience: it’s a lot easier to give these things a little daily attention and effort than it is to continue living a life that is unfulfilling.

Make 2012 your year for reaching new heights and achieving your heart’s desires.

Have a Happy, Healthy, and Prosperous New Year!

Ronnie Brown is the creator and author of The Power of Positive Speaking, a course on achieving emotional mastery and conscious growth through a positive, profound system of self-talk and linguistic skills. Visit him at http://ronniebrownlifesystems.com/.

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How to create a new habit in life and make it stick? Does creating a new habit need diligence?

Creating a new habit is a goal of many people to improve and enhance the quality of their lives. Eating healthy, exercising, giving gratitude, helping others are all habits that many of us want to acquire in life, yet so many of us have a hard time making a new habit stick, why is that?

Creating a new habit can be a challenge for many and I know how hard it can be for your mind to resist the temptation when it comes to creating something new in your life. However, trust me, once you are able to make it work, you will give yourself a pat on the back and you will be proud of yourself.

How to create a new habit in life

If your goal is to learn how to create a new habit in your life, then here are a few steps that will help you get there:

1.  Become diligent

When learning to sing was one of my goals in life, I had to make conscious changes to my daily routine and make singing part of my day, which means I had to create a specific time to work on my voice. This required diligence on my part.

2.  Know the obstacles

Are you aware of what obstacles can prevent you from following through with creating a new habit? You need to familiarize yourself with all the obstacles that you might encounter on your way, so you can deal with them easily if one obstacle pops up on the way.

By being mentally prepared to deal with such hurdles, you will have a better chance at managing them.

3.  Build up your passion

If your goal is to create a new habit, then you will need to build up your passion and enthusiasm, otherwise you are likely to give up. One of the best ways to build your desire and passion is to focus at the end result and all the benefits you will gain when this habit becomes part of your personality.

4.  Practice for 21 days

Usually, if you commit to practicing on creating a new habit for 21 days, you are very likely to make it part of your life. However, I understand that it can take some folks more depending on the person. If 21 days have passed and you still find it hard to stay diligent and the habit hasn’t become as second nature for you, then increase the days until you achieve your goal.

5.  End procrastination

In order to create a new habit in your life, you need to stop procrastination. Most people are so used to coming up with excuses which usually prevent them from making the new habit stick and last.

Some common excuses are:

• I don’t have enough time
• I’m too tired now, I will do it tomorrow
• It is too hard to make the new habit become part of my life
• I will wait until I feel like it
• I’m so stressed now, I can’t do it

If you are serious about making the new habit part of your life, then putting a stop to procrastination is a must.

6.  Get the support of friends and family

Never underestimate the power of family and friends who can support you with creating a new habit part of your life. Find one or two people that will keep you motivated if you become inclined to give up.

7.  Visualize yourself succeeding

One of the techniques that I am personally passionate about is visualization, not only when I want to create new habits in my life so they stick, but in all areas of life. When it comes to creating a new and positive habit, you need to visualize yourself succeeding.

For example, if you want to start exercising, but having a hard time getting up in the morning, begin to see yourself waking up and doing your normal routine of exercise. See yourself stretching, walking, or jogging. This will help program your subconscious mind with the new habit you want to incorporate in you daily routine.

Do you know that only 3% of the world’s population manage to plan and reach their goals? The main goal for 2achieveyourgoals.com is to help you become from the top 3% of the world’s population who know how to achieve any goal they desire in all areas of life. ”The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” was released to help you achieve everything your heart desires. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here

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