Bring back the spark in your relationships
Note: This is a guest post from Frank at A spark starts
Like a campfire being doused with rain our relationships sometimes seem to lose that intense and passionate spark that they once had. Spontaneity is replaced with practicality. Intimacy becomes a planned business meeting. Physical attraction still exists but is often ignored. So, how do we go back in time and revive those the indescribable feeling of love and devotion? I am talking about unbridled emotion so powerful that just the thought of the other person could completely turn around the most difficult day. I’m glad you asked.
Read Dia’s book, How To Win Your Lovers Heart, for some great insight and powerful tips to help you maintain and improve your relationships. Today I will give you a few tips that have worked for me and my marriage.
1. Start from scratch. Spend time doing anything you can to make your partner choose you all over again. Ask them out on a date. Send a gift to their job. Flirt. Put on your best outfit just to hang out at the house. Get your haircut, shave, and buy new shoes all just to get the attention of your significant other. Win them over just like you did when you were dating.
2. Plan a special gift day. Once a week my wife and I plan to buy a special gift for one another. We both have a budget of $10. This has done something unexpected. I now look forward to special day every week not just for the gift but for the sentiment. I also spend a lot of time thinking about what my wife likes. I know more about her now than I ever did
3. Take a vacation. There is no better way to revive a relationship than a private romantic vacation. Some time away from responsibility and stress is just what you need to re-ignite the passion.
These were just a few quick things you can try to get you started before you buy Dia’s book. Don’t let the spark die.
What do you do to keep the fire burning?
Frank Jennings is the founder of A Spark Starts where he writes inspiring stories to help others reach their full potential. He writes with purpose. He writes with passion. He writes for you.
Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by 2achieveyourgoals.com to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups. To check 2achieveyourgoals.com books, click here
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Hey Frank – very important topic. I’m a happily married man with 3 kids (as you know), So this topic is ultra important in my eyes…especially considering so many around me have failed to implement the simple steps to keep things fresh – resulting in divorce. Since divorce isn’t an option in for me (a self declared non-option), I try to act towards having the strongest marriage possible. So, anytime I can get tips I’m all for it!
I really like what you’ve shared. I think we all need to get more lessons on subjects like this because too many marriages fail too often and too fast. No one’s relationship is free of obstacles and bumps in the road. And when those happen – they can be smoothed out by using the tips that you’ve shared here.
I’m all for the spark – thank you!
Jk,
These are some really simple actions that worked for me and my wife but every person is different. I agree with you that divorce is not an option but neither is a lifetime commitment of unhappiness and stress. My wife and I work together to make sure we do everything possible to keep the spark alive. So I will patiently await your post about how you and your wife make things work.
Thanks for the comment.
All sound advice Frank.
I know after being married for more than 25 years that effort has to be given by both partners to make romance a priority. When it is, sparks really can fly.
Alex
Alex,
Thank you for your comment. 25 years is an amazing and inspiring amount of time to be married. I would love to learn more about your experience. I am on year 5 but we have been together for 10 years.
Hi Dia and Frank! I specially love your first tip on starting all over. Sometimes we get stuck on what we think we know about the other person and the way that person has acted in the past that we leave no room for our partner to surprise us. When we start all over, we give a second chance to the relationship and to each to reinvent ourselves.
Thanks for the reminder. Loving blessings!
Andrea,
Thank you so much for your comment. I agree that out of all of the tips this one is my favorite. When we implemented this behavior in our relationship all kind of old feelings erupted and re-ignited our marriage. I love the idea of being able to reinvent ourselves.
Hi Dia and Frank,
Indeed an important topic and great suggestions. Our relationships need care and attention to flourish. Love is an absolute willingness to give to others, to the world, to life itself … with no thought of receiving in return. When we commit to expressing love this way, the list to keeping the spark alive can be endless.
Rob,
So many times when I reflect on love in the true, deep, and spirtual sense I never take the time to think of it in the term of my personal relationships. That is indeed a powerful way to express love.
I have learned over the years that love is an action word. It is better expressed by our actions instead of just our words.
Rob thank you so much for your comment. It has changed my day.
Hi Frank,
Very nice article! I like that you and you wife make it a habit to buy something for each other once a week. I think this is important as it helps to keep both of you close to each other.
One of the things that I believe is helpful is to spend sometime daily with each other and for that time, just focus on each other. Even if it is 5 minutes a day… It helps both the husband and wife.
Thanks Frank
Dia,
I am glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for the opportunity to be able to share my tips with your readers. I know your book is full with outstanding nuggets of wisdom that will help us stay in love for years to come.
Thanks again Dia.
Thanks for the great read Frank, I like your style of writing.
If I’m still with my girlfriend years down the line (hopefully married with kids by then), then I’ll come back to your article for tips on how to keep that spark!
Stuart,
I am glad you enjoyed it. I like to write about things that I have recently experienced. As for the advice I am sure it will still be here when you need it. I don’t think Dia will be sharing tips with the world for years to come.
Frank, it’s great to see you getting your message out, my friend. You picked a good place to share your insight. Dia’s got a great community here.
I love your advice to take a trip. Man, oh man, do I need that reminder at times. I can get so caught up in work and brand-building and getting all my ducks in a row, that I forget to take time out to invest in just BEING with my wife. My life would probably be so much healthier if I just did this more often.
Thanks for sharing. Dia, thanks for hosting the post today!
Bryan,
As a fellow blogger I can relate about the massive amount of work and lack of time. I will say this though I share these tips from my own experiences and taking a trip has done nothing but benefit my marriage. I command you to take a weekend trip with you wife.
I will do all of your writing that weeked. Just let me know. 
Thanks for your comment. I greatly appreciate.