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6 Steps to improve your relationship with your spouse

How to improve your relationship

Do you want to improve your relationship with your spouse? What are the secrets to having healthy relationships?

We all want to have healthy relationships and we all want to communicate better with our spouse, however, this is not the case always. Many couples whenever they get into a disagreement, they start focusing on all the negative qualities their partner have.

Improving your relationship with your spouse

To improve and have healthy relationship with your spouse , follow the below steps:

1. Make decisions together-

Many couples think that they must be the decision-makers in all issues involving the relationship and the family. I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that you have to realize that making decisions in a relationship has to be from both parties, not only one person.

2. Focus on solutions-

Most couples face disagreements from time to time, however, the more you focus on the disagreements, the more problems you will have. Each time you get into a disagreement or a problem, you have to talk about the issue and focus on the solutions. Talking and communicating to your partner on what is bothering you and focusing on the solutions will help solve any disagreements you might have.

3. Show interest in the relationship-
Show interest in wanting to improve your relationship with your spouse. Lack of interest from one side whether for being busy with work, friends, or hobbies could be harm your relationship. You have to create a balance in your life.

4. Help each other-

Helping each other doing chores, planning for your future or doing any activity together will help you get closer to each other as it will show that you care about the other person.

5. Show your passion and feelings-

Showing your passion and feelings in a relationship is needed as it will help you bond with each other.

 6. Spend time together-

Make sure that you two spend some time alone together every week. The purpose of spending time together is so both of you feel the appreciation, love, and the attention of the other.

Always remember what Anthony Robbins said, “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”

 Love is like a plant. It needs consistent, careful attention to thrive. Without it, your relationship is destined to wither away. How to win your lover’s heart was released by to help you win and capture your lover’s heart and avoid breakups.  To check books, click here

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  1. Dia: This was a really great post filled with great information. I think what stood out to me was the need to really invest in your relationships and not just assume that they are going to automatically flourish and grow. Each one of your tips suggested the need to invest time and energy in a relationship in a creative way. Great tips and post.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Sibyl,

      I agree with you that investing in every relationship is crucial. Otherwise, the relationship would not grow and prosper.

  2. Kate says:

    Hi Dia, I think a lot of people go into relationships as they want or need something and expect this to come from outside. Often this ‘something’ needs to come from the inside and only then can a relationship flourish.
    But their is no substitute for putting in time and effort. It is a bit like a delicate plant; ignore it, it will die; give it a little water now and again, it may survive but will be weak; feed it, water regularly and care for it and it will grow strong and flourish.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Kate,

      Great points, many people they go into a relationship expecting to get something from the other person, while it should come from the inside. Putting time and effort is necessary in order for the relationship to flourish.

  3. Joshua Noerr says:

    You know Dia, I think it really hinges on communication. When you enter a marriage, it is a partnership, and should be treated as such.

    As you said, you have to make decisions together, because the results affect both parties.

    Also, in regards to spending time, I always say at work it is quality time. With family, it is the quantity of time that counts. Great post!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Joshua,

      Communication is an important part in every relationship. Without true communication and understanding, the relationship wouldn’t succeed nor prosper.

  4. rob white says:

    Hi Dia,
    My wife’s greatest gift to me is her unconditional love and support of my passion for writing. She really supports me fully and I do the same for her… it is this spirit of giving that makes for a rock solid foundation.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Rob,

      Absaloutly my friend, supporting each other is very neccessary. It is the support that makes the relationship prosper.

  5. Marion says:


    What I have really enjoyed about this post is the fact that the six points you make are all part of loving someone. We tend to forget that love is a verb. We love someone by supporting them, by communicating, by sharing and caring. Those things are all part of loving someone. There is more to love than romance.
    Great post Thank you

    • Dia says:

      Hi Marion,

      Exactly, this is true love and this is what makes a relationship propser. It is when we support, communicat, stand by each other etc…..We have always to be willing to do the work.

  6. Dia,

    As a married person I know these 6 steps are important. We have to make time for relationship.

  7. ayo says:

    hi dia,
    how are you?
    thanks for sharing this
    if i may add to this please:
    develop the habit of listening carefully to each other
    learn to reconcile your differences quickly.
    aim to support each other physically, mentally and spiritually.
    take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Ayo,

      You are right my friend. Listening is one of the best things we should learn to do. If we don’t listen well, then we will run into problems and the relationship will get worse. We have to learn to listen well to each other’s needs.

  8. I think if we share time with the one we love. We learn more about the person. He or she becomes our best friend and not just the person we are married too. The more we talk to them, the more we learn and find out who they really are. And when we find this out, we delve deeper an deeper into there whole thought process. It’s an amazing thing to know someone in and out. And even when you think you do…they surprise you and throw a surprise birthday party for you =).

    • Dia says:

      Hi Jonathan,

      Spending time and learning more about each other is needed. We won’t know someone unless we spend time with him/her, which is why it is important that we make an effort and try to get to know each other better.

  9. Joe Wilner says:

    Communication is key, and making decisions together is a big part of that. As long as two people are on the same page there is much less likely to be disagreements in the long-run. I agree and think that showing interest and doing things together go hand in hand. A couple must nurture their relationship and have wonderful memories to continue building on and growing from. Thanks for the post, very inspiring!

    • Dia says:

      Hi Joe,

      Communication is everything. If the couple don’t communicate well, then it will be hard for them to continue. Everyone should take the time to make sure the relationship grows.

  10. Keith Davis says:

    Hi Dia
    This has got to be a must read for any married man… or woman.
    Time does take its toll on a relationship and both parties begin to take each other for granted.

    Six easy to follow snippets of advice, not sure how I’d rank them… perhaps spending time together is the most important thing to work on.

    • Dia says:

      Hi Keith,

      Spending time together and supporting each other are two important things that every one should do to improve a relationship

  11. As someone who has been with the same woman for over a decade, I find your list to be accurate. Thanks for sharing.